Boyfriend has split up with me because

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I am going on an all girls family holiday this weekend for a long weekend abroad. It’s been planned for months and we have been together for a year.

he has always had trust issues and he has always been insecure. He said this weekend is going to be the end of him and he has been very physically unwell this week in what he thinks is anxiety and stress induced.

He called me this afternoon and said, I’d rather be single with my head held high and walk away letting you carry on with what you are inevitably going to be doing this weekend, or I could stay with you never knowing the truth knowing you have lied to me.

i have never been unfaithful to him. He has made mountains out of molehills before over nothing and seems to use these as reasons not to trust but I just need a hand hold. Have been totally blind sided - I even booked us a weekend trip away in the coming weeks last night.

Well you have dodged a bullet there then

i would tell him you are happy to split as he is very controlling and you can’t be with someone like that, then block him

enjoy your holiday dont give him a second thought

My god! Run for the hills!

He really does want to keep you in a cage of his own paranoid making. Do read the Lundy Bancroft book, it will further open your eyes as to your ex’s controlling and thus abusive behaviour.

Good riddance to bad rubbish. Don't ever let him walk back through the door.

I’d reply and saying how controlling he is and he’s shown his true colours.

If he’s like this now imagine what he’d be like if you lived together! Or had a kid!

Fantastic, he's done you a favour.

Go and enjoy your holiday free of the pathetic loser.

Oh thank god he’s sodded off. Have a super time with your friends, block him and move on!

You are free! Congratulations. Celebrate that this weekend with people who trust you and deserve your time.

And yes he usually does not like me seeing friends

Another massive red flag. You have the opportunity to dodge a bullet here, OP. Take it.

Block, delete, ignore, move on.

Echoing all the above. Run and block! He is controlling and trying to guilt trip you into not going. This is the end. Don’t let him come crawling back because this will be your life with him. All the time. The end.

Please don’t dream of taking him back when he inevitably comes crawling. You would be setting yourself up for a never ending cycle of him making threats until you appease him.

Did he also comment or otherwise cast a critical gaze over your appearance saying your top is too short/tight/revealing etc.

Did he tell you that he’d pick you up from work every evening?. Yet more red flags re him if that is the case.

You must have put up with so much shit this past year. You will feel like a weight has been lifted.

Do not let him grind you down. Go and have the best time. Let him have his mantrum by himself, on his own without a girlfriend anymore. Oh well. Head up tits out 🥳

This is control. Thank your lucky stars it's over because it woukd only get worse. He would cut you off from friends and family. The silent treatment woukd start every time he didn't get his own way.

My dad was like this. It ruined my childhood. My mum died absolutely friendless. At her funeral her sisters who she hadn't seen for 30 years came along. Heartbreaking.

I watched a documentary on Gabby Petitos murder and her friends said her friends all said Brian (her murderer) would get jealous if you ever went out with friends.

They always start like this 🚩 be careful you’ve had a lucky escape. This is not normal.

Don’t even respond to the text. Just block him and enjoy your holiday. You really don’t need crap like that in your life.

When someone shows you who they are believe them.

Wow what does he hope for in a relationship, that the woman never ever goes out of his sight?? He has big issues and unless he's going to work on them he will only get worse.

Have an amazing time away and I'm sure after the initial shock you are going to feel free and liberated from such a terrible red flag waving idiot.

If you do need to respond ( and you really shouldn’t) just tell him you agree it is better you go your separate ways and you wish him well then block him everywhere!! Tell your friends ( guaranteed they will not be surprised and will be so relieved)

I will read the updates later, a little tied up however I will NOT be replying to the text!

Run a mile. A jealous unreasonable distrusting man is not worth the effort and if you don’t break it off now you will live to regret it

I don't know if it would make any difference, but I'd also be very tempted to use a thumbs-up emoji here!

Bullet dodged. What a controlling arse.

He sounds like an absolute fuck wit let him go