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Amazing first date, heard from the next day but is now ignoring me.

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Boomska · 06/10/2025 01:51

Hello!
im looking for advice.

I went on amazing first date that lasted 6 hours! We even had a hot kiss at the end and we both were sober as we were driving. We even spoke about going on a second date!

the first date happened on Friday night, we then spoke Saturday morning and afternoon where the convo flowed naturally. However, I haven’t heard from him since his last message on Saturday night which he sent at 6:45pm. I replied to it an hour later.

but then I’ve not heard from him. I’ve sent him another message Sunday mid afternoon just being like “hey noticed you’ve been quiet- I hope everything’s ok?” As he normally texts quite promptly. And still nothing. I know he’s been on his phone so definitely feel like he may be ghosting? 😭 I just hope he isnt ghosting me.

I’m just wondering when should I cut the chord and accept he’s ghosting or should I give him the benefit of the doubt and give him 72hrs?

thanks for reading xx

OP posts:
BlakeTheBlackBird · 24/07/2026 07:04

Lugol · 24/07/2026 06:55

I have ADHD OP and I'm so shit at replying to people. If I get a text sometimes it can be weeks before I reply.
It's isn't because I don't value the person or want to reply, it's just I'm juggling so many things and it's 'on the list' of things I need to do.
My brother is the same, also has ADHD.
He's also been single for years, maybe this is why.

I'm not excusing this man and I haven't RTFT but some people are just shit at replying.
That said I would be making an extra special effort if I'd just met someone I liked.

You realise this thread is 9 months old?

Lugol · 24/07/2026 07:21

BlakeTheBlackBird · 24/07/2026 07:04

You realise this thread is 9 months old?

No because at 6.55 in the morning I'm not forensically examining every post that appears in Relationships for dates and times 🙄

It wasn't me that reanimated this thread.

BlakeTheBlackBird · 24/07/2026 07:30

Lugol · 24/07/2026 07:21

No because at 6.55 in the morning I'm not forensically examining every post that appears in Relationships for dates and times 🙄

It wasn't me that reanimated this thread.

Ok calm yourself 😅

Lugol · 24/07/2026 09:28

BlakeTheBlackBird · 24/07/2026 07:30

Ok calm yourself 😅

You're the one flipping out and donning your Thread Police hat hun 💐

BlakeTheBlackBird · 24/07/2026 10:38

Lugol · 24/07/2026 09:28

You're the one flipping out and donning your Thread Police hat hun 💐

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Donewiththisshit · 25/07/2026 09:59

Given the thread has been resurrected I’d love to know how the OP is doing @Boomska ?

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