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Were you a virgin on your wedding night?

123 replies

howdoesshedoit · 03/06/2008 13:38

Is it important?
I think it's nioce to wait for the right man, but I seem to be in the monority

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howdoesshedoit · 03/06/2008 13:39

Look at my typing!
nice and minority, of course

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magnolia74 · 03/06/2008 13:39

Nope but wish I had been

cheesesarnie · 03/06/2008 13:40

dd was 5 weeks old

Buda · 03/06/2008 13:41

No but I am now.

Elmosgirl · 03/06/2008 13:41

When I get married I won't be a virgin, it doesn't bother me, but I wish I had waited longer for someone more important than I did, even if it hadn't have been the man I married.

bratnav · 03/06/2008 13:42

28 weeks pg, so no

howdoesshedoit · 03/06/2008 13:43

Funny how it's kind of a pressure now to get rid of your virginity and be sexually active

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JessJess3908 · 03/06/2008 13:44

You might be in for a very disapointing night if you are

This is not an excuse to throw your body away on someone you don't love.

Cadbury · 03/06/2008 13:44

yes, I was. So was my dh, or so I thought at the time. Turns out he'd popped his while we were engaged with his ex. So much for "saving ourselves".

whoopsididitagain · 03/06/2008 13:45

no but same as elmo wish i had of waited mind you me and the dh were together 5 years be fore we got married

howdoesshedoit · 03/06/2008 13:45

Oh Cadbury, that's horrible

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MissingMyHeels · 03/06/2008 13:45

That's awful Cadbury. I won't be, doesn't bother me.

NotABanana · 03/06/2008 13:45

Oh heck Cadbury.

We weren't but I wish I had waited for him full stop.

Cadbury · 03/06/2008 13:45

indeed

iMum · 03/06/2008 13:46

I wasnt but dh was my first.

MehgaLegs · 03/06/2008 13:46

12 weeks pg with DS4 so no, I wasn't.

pigleto · 03/06/2008 13:47

I think the anti climax would be terrible if you waited until the wedding night for the first time, it would be bound to go horribly wrong. Talk about performance anxiety.

We didn't even shag at all on our wedding day as we were too knackered.

expatinscotland · 03/06/2008 13:48

Um, no.

I don't think it's important at all, but I don't believe in concepts like 'the right man' or 'soulmates' or 'the one'.

I never felt any pressure to lose it.

I just liked sex and having it.

howdoesshedoit · 03/06/2008 13:49

Well, my husband was my first but we did it a couple of weeks before the wedding. I wish I had waited until the wedding night, though

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expatinscotland · 03/06/2008 13:49

Also, for me, a big dick is important.

I'd hate to wait for someone and then have him be shite in bed.

howdoesshedoit · 03/06/2008 13:50

Our sex life has definitely improved over the years, by the way

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howdoesshedoit · 03/06/2008 13:51

I have no idea whther DH is big or not

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Iklboo · 03/06/2008 13:51

Hey-ell no!! I was 35 when I got married.

Ex-pat - my ex was a big dick. Not his penis, just the rest of him

ShowOfHands · 03/06/2008 13:52

No but there has only ever been dh. We were together for 6 years before we married.

Cadbury, that's disgusting behaviour.

expatinscotland · 03/06/2008 13:54

Well, as my wise grandmother said, 'You wouldn't buy a pair of shoes without trying them on in the shop first to see if they fit.'

Amen to that!