Were you a virgin on your wedding night?

[howdoesshedoit]

Is it important?
I think it's nioce to wait for the right man, but I seem to be in the monority

But you could have a grope before you got married, or ask him to show you it when you met?

Not the same thing, IMO.

Lol at expat !!

I was not a virgin no, and agree with the shoe thing. I'd never reccommend anyone be a virgin on their wedding night.

What if he is shit in bed?

But you work on that don't you?
And you both improve with time

Um, no, howdoes, some people just suck in bed or have a tiny dick that's not going to get any woman anywhere.

some men wouldn't mind a woman who just sucked in bed though expat

Mama, you naughty minx!

oh god I helped guys improve when i was 18 ish!

It has to be right - you have to connect, if you don't you are DOOMED imo.

Well, my more experienced friend tells me that one penis is much like another after you've had a few

'Well, my more experienced friend tells me that one penis is much like another after you've had a few '

then she's obviously not that experienced.

Your friend lied howdoes

Erm not married but have 2 kids so ermmm no

I won't be - I'm preggers with DC3 and we've been together for 11 years!!

I don't think it's that important tbh. I wasn't, neither was dh, we had already been living together for almost 4 years when we got married but we weren't virgins when we met either. I have had long term relationships before dh and a couple of flings and I regret none of them.

In this day and age I think that if you are sensible and careful about unwanted pregnancy and STD's then what's the problem? As long as you aren't shagging anything that moves just for the hell of it, willy nilly you could say , then go ahead, have fun. Saving yourself for marriage is very outdated, harking back to the days when having a child out of wedlock was very much frowned upon and the only way to prevent pregnancy was not to have sex.

What about people that don't marry for whatever reason? Plenty of people, on here and in RL, choose not to marry their life partner. Many people see the whole institution of marriage as pointless and outmoded.

How big is big?

Well, there's length and there's girth.

And there is such a thing as too big.

lol at asking him to show you it before you got married

'can i see it?'

'can i touch it?'

i'd always think, 'well, hell, may as well fuck it, too.'

I had my hymen sewn up as a lovely surprise.

I wasn't even a virgin when DH and I did it on our first date

On my wedding night I was still pished and dancing at about 4 in the morning.Sex was out of the question.

OP - yes. (just so you don't feel in a minority of one).

Also see here

OP_ sometimes you THINK it's the right man and do it- only to find that he or you decide weeks/ months/year later that he/you wasn't the right one after all. That's how I clocked up mine!

yes.
Now divorced

No, and no, I don't think it is a very good idea to wait. Terrible pressure at what can be a difficult time. I think that sex can be fantastic, important and support a relationship but conversely it can destroy it. dh and I were together for five years before we got married, so it would have been a very long build up. I was told by my priest that it would have been more special to wait, and I thought bollocks really. Last time I went to church!