I’ve got the Ick and I don’t want to fix it

[theickisrealurgh]

It’s finally happened, my partner has given me the biggest ick that I just don’t want to be with him anymore. The sheer thought of being with him for much longer fills me with dread.

He’s paying for his daughter to have breast implants, she’s 19. I think it’s weird, and it’s made me feel sick. It’s want she wants and I get that, but something about it just doesn’t sit right with me. It might be normal to some and if it was anything else I wouldn’t be bothered but I can’t shift this feeling of discomfort. She’s a B cup.

I get on with his daughter very well, never had an issue so it’s not that. Luckily we don’t live together but we have been together for 10 years.

I don’t know how to get out of this

@butterpuffedI have no idea, I have nothing to do with his finances and it’s up to him what he spends his money on, I just think this is weird

This ☝

I would feel repulsed too, that is weird

@Itwilldiedown What? No benefit fraud at all, we both work full time and still live in our houses we had before we got together.

If you don't live with him it will be easier to get out of it I'd have thought? Just tell him that you don't want to be together anymore.

If he presses, just say you can't help but feel repulsion for him over his words and actions with regard to his DD's cosmetic surgery, and that your respect for him is irrecoverable.

Don't know if you have a DD or DS together, but if it's the former I'd show that message to to the person deciding custody and I reckon it'd help quite a bit (although you might want to get this thread deleted).

Given that you felt you could tell him you had the ick, he might have thought it was a flippant comment and therefore be shocked when you speak up. Make sure you do it somewhere safe.

All the best to you OP

Channel the emotions you are feeling right now to push through and end this relationship.
For your own good, and that of your 2 yr old DD.
Good luck.

Just tell him it's over and you don't want to speak about it.

Edited as duplicate post.

@ItwilldiedownAre you quite alright?

We are both closer to 50 and have had previous families, we both have our own homes/careers/lives. We came together through loneliness, and were basically companions. I just happened to fall pregnant, which at first I thought was the start of the menopause. I have zero reason to lie/deny anything on the internet but believe what you wish

Oh please - let's stay supportive of OP.

Why does MN so often descend into negative defamatory posts towards OPs?

I agree. The expression 'playing around with her titties' is very unsuitable for a father. My dad paid for my breast reduction and would have never used an expression like that.

I really don't get the fuss. Her parents are paying for it, not just her dad. Her mum has been to one of the appts too so she must be supportive of this.
We know only one side of this and most of you have decided he's a disgusting predator.
My mum paid for my boobs and I was very grateful. Also, people are different, families are different. When I had mine done, I showed everyone because thats just how we are, I'd have probably used language like that too.
My kids are grown now but I was young when I had them and we've grown up together so how I speak to them is probably very different to someone who had their kids later because its a different dynamic having a teenage or younger parent.
If this is isolated then it wouldn't have bothered me. Saying that, as previously said, we're all different and only you know what gives you the ick.

I agree, but the language the father has used about his own daughter is disturbing.

Yes, it's not really about the procedure.

That surely is worth discussing with the young woman?

This ⬆️ A thousand times, this.

Why is he seemingly taking salacious pleasure in all of this? It’s bizarre🤢

@ItwilldiedownWhat are you talking about, I don’t claim a single benefit and neither does my partner. Like I said, we both have our OWN homes, and careers.

@Ilovepastafortea Some posters just like to belittle others and put them down, like this one making up random stories. I’ll just ignore any other of her replies so she cannot continue to get her kicks from other’s misfortune

So what in plain English means: to play around with her t....ies ....
Does it mean he ( the doctor ) is just having a look plus touching to get to the idea of what shape and size she wants or does it mean the doctor do it to arouse himself

It does seem hard to commit benefit fraud without actually claiming any benefits, but I am sure someone will come along to explain how you managed it.

imputing meaning is one thing, asking the man what meant by texting this, is another

but also, if that is a crap useless man, who can stop the poster giving him the boot. No one.