Have you ever been surprised when you met someone’s spouse/DP?

[littlemissworry97]

As in they didn’t look or act how you expected them to, or they completely weren’t the type you expected?

When my child was little we had a childminder, she was about 45, completely batshit, in a bad way (we didnt stay with her long, had 5 kids and was on her 2nd husband. One day I met her husband as he was coming in from work, he litertally looked about 20, he was the father of the youngest child. I was so confused as to how this marriage came about. We left her shortly after that, not due to the strange pairing but other crazy stuff.

I was utterly surprised at the OW my BIL took up with. His wife is lovely, a nice person and very pretty - she gets a lot of male attention, although she doesn't invite it.
The OW was not in the same league. Nothing to do with looks, she just wasn't as classy.

Also a very beautiful colleague who could have honestly pulled anyone, married her university boyfriend about whom she constantly spoke and I thought he would be dreamy. Turns out, not only was he physically unattractive, he was also horrible to her all the time in front of other people (so I don't know how he was behind closed doors 🙁). She would laugh off his awful comments to and about her and I think they're still together 🤦‍♀️

Yes. I worked with a very glamorous woman. She always looked fabulous. Tall and graceful and beautifully dressed. She introduced me to her husband. He was a scruffy bloke with a pot belly in an old t-shirt and filthy jeans. I couldn’t quite believe it.

Yes lots of times. I always assume someone’s oh will look like them and be on a par attractiveness wise.
I’ve come across lots of intelligent, funny, interesting and attractive women who are with complete opposites.
On the flip side I know lots of couples who are well matched.

I was really surprised when I first met my friends dh. He wasn’t what I expected but all over the wall were photos of them through the years and he was so handsome! He must have spotted me looking though and commented that he was still carrying the baby weight 🤦‍♀️😂

Someone once described partners to me as an "experience". People often look at how the other partner looks - but actually with the partner you choose you get an entire experience (funny, stressy, dramatic, easy going...) so instead of looks people actually choose partners based on the experience they get with them.

So I'll bet you're a great partner to have, experience wise

My friend swore her DH was the spitting image of Quinn/Starlord from Guardians of the Galaxy. He did a bit, but the Lego version. I’ve never seen anyone with such a square head.

Agree. It’s an unpleasant thread.

I don't understand @littlemissworry97 i've had to Google her, what's wrong with Paula Vennells appearance?

She looks pretty average to me?

Or is thst it, that's she's just average and the woman you know her husband is hot?

Yes. An attractive woman I used to work with years ago was always going on about her handsome husband and I imagined him as 6ft tall, dark wavy hair, hunky, and for some reason pictured him in an arran knit fisherman’s jumper 😂
When I met him he was short and balding with a big beer belly and yellow teeth from smoking. Totally punching above his weight!

Yes, an American vicar has a nice but homely lady, he is very dashing and not surprisingly best friends with the stunning youth worker

Is there a back story op, you seem hugely fixated on this handsome man and his post office lady wife, repeatedly commenting on it, do you have a thing for him or something>

It's only a light hearted thread. Nobody believes anyone's value is in their looks anyway. We all have these kind of initial impressions about people we meet, even if we deny it.

Hey, who said overweight meant you couldn't also be beautiful? The plain woman I'm referring to in some of my posts is thin as rake, but looks haggard. You're probably very pretty!!

Not to me but I suppose attractiveness is subjective! One of my close friends often tells me how sexy and attractive her partner is and how so many women fancy him - I don't think he is at all 😂

Very

I get this a lot people tell me my partner isn’t attractive and that I am, his friends joke that he is ‘punching’, it actually makes me feel uncomfortable and even a little sorry for him because he does have insecurities but I genuinely think he is gorgeous, I still often find myself in a daze admiring him when he is just doing day to day stuff and I have been like this from the very beginning, it was also me who instigated our relationship.

I can’t decide whether to be upset by this thread as the unattractive, and therefore worthless, wife of a very attractive man

or worried that I’ve deluded myself about how handsome he is 😂

Weird thread.

Hmm true but isn't the face most of our looks? Her body is just skinny, but lots of women are slim.

I wouldn't take this thread and people's anecdotes as any evidence that you aren't attractive! It clearly doesn't and can't indicate that.

I used to have a tennis coach that was absolutely gorgeous, super fit, etc. We lived in a small town and occasionally I would run into him outside of lessons, and girlfriends I was with would be like WHO IS HE?? Met his wife and was surprised as I imagined a super thin beautiful woman who also loved tennis. She was lovely but also none of those things and a bit nerdy. Also did not care about tennis. But he lit up when he was around her so was clearly in love.

People are probably just impressed by your husband's level of physical fitness though. If you were also a gym bunny - and I am not saying that you need to be to look good at all - then people would probably be calling you a good match. Don't feel sad.

I think this could be my ex... he thought he was such a catch. He wasn't even a nice person. His friends referred to him as 'selfish Dan' 🚩