New boyfriend wants sex all the time

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I’ve been dating my new boyfriend for about 3 months now and he always wants sex. We live 15 minutes apart and see each other most days. On the days we don’t see each other, he talks about it and asks for naughty photos. On weekends, we often end up having sex several times a day (8 times on Saturday). It’s hard to just relax and watch TV without him wanting to jump on me. He seems to want it all the time. He says it’s because he fancies me so much and gets really excited.

I used to think I had a high sex drive until I met him. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong btw. In fact, I’m starting to wonder if I’m the problem because I don’t want it as much as he does. I understand that new relationships are exciting, which explains his frequent desire. However, I’m worried because I don’t share the same feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I really enjoy our sex life, but I would be content with once or twice a day instead of multiple times daily.

Is it concerning that my desire for sex isn't as strong as his?

Is he part rabbit? Or just a teenage boy?

I've never met a bloke who wanted sex 8 times a day, and coudn't think of anything worse to be honest. There's more to life than shagging.

It’s not at all concerning. There is nothing wrong with your preference to be able to do other things without being interrupted for sex.

I would say you are just mismatched, but two things bother me- he’s blaming you for being so attractive he can’t help himself and he is treating you like a sex doll rather than paying attention to what you want.

You are not a blow up doll, you are a sentient woman who gets to decide how often she wants to have sex based on her own interest, not his.

It's concerning that you don't appear to feel able to say 'Not, not in the humour' or 'Not in the middle of watching Only Murders in the Building' or 'Twice today was enough.'

Its concerning he is so focussed on sex. And mildly concerning that you think you might be the problem here.

8 times in one day? FGS, he needs to get a life.

I’d be saying goodbye pronto. Or if that’s too drastic see what happens if you try to go a day with no sex with him.

Sorry he sounds like a tedious sex pest who had very little to offer other than his cock.

He seems to be treating you like a blow up doll who is only good for shagging tbh.

I think I’d be waving him farewell in your shoes

He’s porn addled.

Sex pest. Instant ick.

It won't be long before he starts telling you it's your fault for being so fanciable, and that's why he can't keep his hands off you.

Just say no. That is the easiest way for you to find out whether he respects your boundaries or not.

how old is he?

It depends if he is happy to do other things as well, and how he reacts. If you suggest going out, or as you say watching TV together, will he do that happily, or does he moan or pester about not getting his 3rd shag that day?

It really isn’t reasonable to expect sex more than once a day from anyone tbh. I’m more of a 2/3 a week woman and I would consider that pretty reasonable to ask a partner to accept with a good grace.

Enjoy it whilst you can as it definitely will not last. But also just tell him no once or twice when you really don't want it.

8 times in one day! That surely would be at least a bit sore. Unless we're talking in and out job done in 60 seconds.

I'd be asking him what he's taking.

8 times a day is way out there and exhausting. Does he work?

I'd dump him just because this is wildly excessive.

We’re both 30. At first, I thought it was because he hadn’t had sex in a year (he recently got divorced) and was just enjoying sex again. I thought he would have settled down by now, but it seems to be getting worse and he just wants more and more!

I'd view him as a sex pest and want him to bugger off.

Yeah. I'd dump him then. He's a sex pest. And he's certainly old enough to know that the majority of women would find this far too much. As others have said, you are not a blow up doll.

Fuck that OP, I'd be bored stiff and get the ick pretty quickly.
Tell him no and see how he acts, if he starts bothering you, going on about it etc then bin him because he has no respect.

I thought you were going to say you were both 19 or similar. Nah, couldn’t be arsed with that, see how he reacts when you tel him your not in the mood, bin him off immediately if he doesn’t respect that

This.

Is he a fantastic lover?

I would say no to him and stick to it and see how he behaves. If he goes into a huge strop and starts whinging it’s just because you are so fanciable and won’t take no for an answer I would seriously be re-thinking this relationship.

I had sex 8 times in a day with a new partner when I was 34.

To each their own.

Id enjoy it whilst it lasts. It inevitably dies out a bit.

8 times a day? I can feel the chafing.

No way.

Yes he's up for doing other stuff. We go out for meals, drinks and other activities. He's quite affectionate even when we're out, giving me kisses, touching me etc, but he usually knows how to control himself. However, when we're at home, he just wants it all the time.

Eight times a day?? Christ. You’ll get a UTI or be chafed to death.

What else do you do together? What hobbies does he have?

He needs to listen to you and what you want, not treat you as if you’re just there for sex. He needs to take responsibility for how own feelings and actions too, not just blame you for being so attractive that he ‘can’t help it’. I don’t like the sound of him.