New boyfriend wants sex all the time

[agencies]

I’ve been dating my new boyfriend for about 3 months now and he always wants sex. We live 15 minutes apart and see each other most days. On the days we don’t see each other, he talks about it and asks for naughty photos. On weekends, we often end up having sex several times a day (8 times on Saturday). It’s hard to just relax and watch TV without him wanting to jump on me. He seems to want it all the time. He says it’s because he fancies me so much and gets really excited.

I used to think I had a high sex drive until I met him. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong btw. In fact, I’m starting to wonder if I’m the problem because I don’t want it as much as he does. I understand that new relationships are exciting, which explains his frequent desire. However, I’m worried because I don’t share the same feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I really enjoy our sex life, but I would be content with once or twice a day instead of multiple times daily.

Is it concerning that my desire for sex isn't as strong as his?

Seems like he’s going for quantity over quality like some randy teenager.
I’d be worried about getting cystitis .

OMG, no! Could not be doing with that. I'd have got rid of him within a monthly. Maybe less.

Wish I knew how to deal with it!!! I'm just going through another disappointed stage at the moment. Logically I know that sex tails off. But personally I do like three or 4 times a day. Morning, early evening and then before bed, possibly a wake up in the night (that to me doesn't seem excessive) It really bothers me that they drive this in the early days, and then change the pace. Feels like I've been misled! It's why most of my relationships end, I dont like the change, it makes me feel less desirable as well as not meeting my needs

Eight times in one day… what do you do when you aren’t having sex? Doesn’t sound like there is much time to anything else.

8 times in a day? Lol do you do anything else? Or does he take you out anywhere? Honestly sounds like he's just using you for one thing.

Please stop with thinking there is something with you because you want it less.

He is not wrong, you are not wrong just different.

(Personally his drive would be too high for me and I would leave but if you are fine with it that’s fine).

Maybe discuss a compromise half way?

I married someone like this, in haste. Walk away now OP

I can see why he's divorced.

Evidently not.
Eight McDonalds burgers versus one Tommy Banks steak.
He is a thirty year old teenager on cock pills and Monster.
Instant ick.

It's a huge turn off when men do this.

So when you are having sex multiple times a day, what does that involve?

I’m not averse to a quickie, but is there time for you to enjoy yourself in this set up? I couldn’t have satisfying sex 8 times a day. There are other things to do- like eating, sleeping, working…

I find the idea of a sex pest quite repulsive. If you are content with once or twice a day why are you sleeping with him 8 times a day if that's not what you want? You aren't a blow up doll, don't let him use you like one.

Jeez, that would cause me a whole host of issues, no doubt UTi’s, soreness etc. I have a lot of sexual chemistry with a guy from work who I see now and then (FWB’s I guess, though we did date for a while), but my God, I can’t imagine surviving 8 times in one day. We will normally have sex maybe 3 times in say a 12hr period (12hrs includes sleep!) but only as we don’t get much private time as he has young kids and sole custody. If I saw him every day then once a day would do me! Maybe twice on a weekend. There’s no way i’d be agreeing to 8 times in one day, that’s ridiculous.

This, OP. Please give this some thought.

Oh my God X, give it a rest.

@agencies is this the reason for his divorce, do you think???

Found the man 🙄

The most disturbing part is not the fact he likes to have sex 8 times a day it's the fact you're not telling him "no" or putting boundaries on something you clearly feel uncomfortable.

8 times bloody hell - ouch
Perhaps Limit the amount of time you made togetherness or just tell him to back off

Dump him.

The only guy I knew like this had complex ptsd due to childhood trauma. This was how he felt ‘safe’ connecting to women. All his relationship went to shit.

Because god forbid a woman have a high drive

My 50 something partner was the same when we met - at least 5-6 times in a night. He’s calmed down a bit now after a couple of years and we don’t see each other daily. I don’t mind personally as I can say no and he’s ok with it.

Tedious sex pest.

Bin him.