New boyfriend wants sex all the time

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I’ve been dating my new boyfriend for about 3 months now and he always wants sex. We live 15 minutes apart and see each other most days. On the days we don’t see each other, he talks about it and asks for naughty photos. On weekends, we often end up having sex several times a day (8 times on Saturday). It’s hard to just relax and watch TV without him wanting to jump on me. He seems to want it all the time. He says it’s because he fancies me so much and gets really excited.

I used to think I had a high sex drive until I met him. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong btw. In fact, I’m starting to wonder if I’m the problem because I don’t want it as much as he does. I understand that new relationships are exciting, which explains his frequent desire. However, I’m worried because I don’t share the same feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I really enjoy our sex life, but I would be content with once or twice a day instead of multiple times daily.

Is it concerning that my desire for sex isn't as strong as his?

Sorry that was in response to @PermanentTemporary

can we please have a laughing emoji on the react button 😂😂

I hope you are taking the necessary steps to avoid becoming a mum with him as the father. He seems very immature and him being divorced suggests that might have contributed.

What's his reaction like if you say 'no, let's just watch this movie together. I'm done sexually for today'

Well, you’ve found out why he’s divorced. I suggest that you follow suit and also make him an ex.

God no , 8 times a month is more than enough !

Quite.

Personally I prefer quality over quantity. How can 8x/day be satisfying for the woman….

he is totally selfish, OP. I’d throw this one back, as the saying goes.

Let's have a rabbit too 😆

Have to agree. I had an ex who was incapable of just cuddling and chatting if we were at home in the evening just watching telly. In the end, it really gave me the ick and made me feel like I could be anyone. We still had fun days out etc but for me I looked forward to the evenings yes for intimacy but also just getting to know each other as well as in a mental connection but he just wasn’t interested. So another bit the dust.

See, he can even leave you alone when hes out with you. I dont like it, a bit gropey for me. A bit too much, doesn't seem particularly sensible and ticks my "possible nutter" box.

8 times in a day! That takes me back to when I first met DH, 20 years ago, and - OUCH - the cystitis! 🤒

If he has time to do it eight times among going out for meals, drinks and leaving the bedroom he must be a bit ‘wham bam thank you ma’am’?!! Nobody needs to get all Tantric every time but there aren’t enough spare hours in the day for eight decent times!

I imagine he’s all quantity over quality.

What is concerning is that the whole post is centring only his wants and self doubting your own. You are allowed to say no op. You also allowed to want sec just once a day.
why do you think only what he wants matters?

Please don't tell me that you have sent him any compromising photos.

Personal opinions:

1. DON'T send him any photos. Better to never have any photos "out there" to be misused.
2. He's treating you as a sex doll. I briefly had a boyf like that - I dumped him and told him to buy a doll, to which he actually said "but you're my doll".

This

Stop before you get permanent cystitis. I guess this is why he's divorced?

So what happens if you just want to watch tv and say No to him?

Why are you still with this creepy man-child?

Enjoy it while it lasts!

I remember the same situation with my husband when we met.

Now I’m lucky if I get it once a month 🥲

DH and I managed 7 times in one day when we first got together but we were a lot younger then, and no kids obviously! Definitely some minor chafing by the end though. 7 times in a month would be a darn good showing for us now

You’re normal OP and do have a high and reasonable sex drive. He’s abnormal honestly and it would really give me the ick and put me off. I was on pelvic rest for 7 months my last pregnancy and then a further 3 months following awful delivery. Not once did my husband pester me or make me feel bad.
I find being touched constantly REALLY aggravating so he would be way too much for me, but are you feeling it’s too much? It’s ok if you are.
Eight times a day makes me wince as it sounds sore.

Op - it isn’t flattering to be treated like this, in case you think it is, on the contrary, he’s treating you like a sex doll

Your body is not his for the taking. For goodness sake, just say no.