New boyfriend wants sex all the time

[agencies]

I’ve been dating my new boyfriend for about 3 months now and he always wants sex. We live 15 minutes apart and see each other most days. On the days we don’t see each other, he talks about it and asks for naughty photos. On weekends, we often end up having sex several times a day (8 times on Saturday). It’s hard to just relax and watch TV without him wanting to jump on me. He seems to want it all the time. He says it’s because he fancies me so much and gets really excited.

I used to think I had a high sex drive until I met him. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong btw. In fact, I’m starting to wonder if I’m the problem because I don’t want it as much as he does. I understand that new relationships are exciting, which explains his frequent desire. However, I’m worried because I don’t share the same feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I really enjoy our sex life, but I would be content with once or twice a day instead of multiple times daily.

Is it concerning that my desire for sex isn't as strong as his?

I think that you need to work out whether you just fancy each other and its just about sex, or whether you actually like each other too.
There's nothing wrong with you both liking a lot of sex, but 8x in one day and not being able to do anything else without being pawed at, is more obsessive than attracted

8 times a day.....he's not giving you much attention during sex or you would be in bed all day....guess you know why he's divorced.

Are you walking like John Wayne?

Any idea why he got divorced? Maybe his ex was sore after that much sex?

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If you cannot have a conversation where you both can express your likes and dislikes, listen to each other, taking into account the other persons feelings and respecting them, I think you may have a bit of trouble brewing. Put your foot down and tell him that you're uncomfortable with his demands. If he cannot honour you, which would be a sign that he has heard you and is responding accordingly, then give him an ultimatum.
If it gets to far you will be damaged.

God, I thought my DP was bad at wanting sex three times a day (if he could - my sex drive is way lower). I'm guessing it's just a mismatch, that's incredibly hypersexual.

Ew! Leave

Agree.

Having been through something similar where even having spent a day at the funeral of my BIL who died unexpectedly young, couldn’t make him control himself, I did start viewing that as red flag behaviour. He also would say things along the line of ‘shouldn’t be so fanciable then’ and with time it sounded more passive aggressive and like things are just being ‘done to’ rather than ‘with you’. Was a big reason I called time on that relationship.

No way would I ever allow myself to be used like that again. The funeral night especially lives rent free in my head.

Are you still with him OP?

8 times a day is ridiculous!

This. ^ What a ludicrous amount of times to be shagging in one day. How can anyone even do that? Male or female?

Even at our shagginglikebunnnies peak, me and DH did it 8 times a week. Not 8 times a day!!! After 5-6 years together, it dropped to 3-4 times a week, then after 11-12 years or so together (and 2 DC) it dropped to once or twice a week. That was enough for both of us. I'd feel like a sex doll if DH wanted to shag 8 times in a day. WTF is wrong with him @agencies ??? Tell him to go and have a wank!!!

I would be bored rigid...and sore. It's clearly an addiction isn't it because no one is that desperate for release.

3 times a day is more than enough for a new couple IMO. Once in the morning and twice in the evening.