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I’m really going to fall out with my brother over a family holiday

338 replies

WanderBug16 · 23/07/2025 11:37

I am 26. My brother is 25.

Last year, my dad and I went to a formula one race together. He loved it and we booked tickets to Monza in September. The holiday grew from just being my dad and I to my family - mum, dad, me and brother. This was my parent’s idea and they very kindly offered to pay (which we accepted, obviously 😂)

Over the last 9 months, since booking the tickets, my dad has faced multiple health problems and it’s been uncertain whether he was able to go. The first time this came up it was agreed that no matter what, my brother and I would go on the trip - on the understanding that he came with me to the F1. This was the only condition my parents placed on it and at that time, my brother was fine with it.

My mum is now facing being unable to fly due to a potentially torn retina. Obviously the same discussion has happened again and the same agreement has been reached. No matter what, my brother and I will be going.

He’s now being a brat about the entire thing. Saying he refuses to go to the F1, saying he’ll only go if I pay for everything while he’s there, and just generally kicking off a bit. I want to shake him and get it through his head that he would be getting an entirely free trip to Italy on the basis of him spending two afternoons at a race track. I’d happily go alone but I don’t think my parents would be okay with that, and on this short notice I can’t afford to pay for the entire trip myself and hope for the best.

I’m just venting, really, and a bit pissed off that he’s being this spoilt over a free holiday! We’re so incredibly lucky and fortunate that our parents have said we should still go, instead of cancelling it all.

OP posts:
Pinkdhalia · 24/07/2025 22:45

I think you've two option go alone because you enjoy F1. Or don't go and let your parents claim against the insurance. But don't go with your brother! It doesn't look like it will be fun .

Seasonofthesticks · 24/07/2025 22:48

I can’t believe your parents won’t let you go away on your own at 26! I’m 33, by 26 I had a toddler and was taking her on solo holidays all over Europe!

anon666 · 24/07/2025 23:34

Listen to the book "Let them " 🤣.

Let him do what he wants. If it results in the cancellation of the holiday its on his head, albeit disappointing.

yellowdress34 · 25/07/2025 09:06

Come on now, children. Play nice!😅

SomeOfTheTrouble · 25/07/2025 12:13

anon666 · 24/07/2025 23:34

Listen to the book "Let them " 🤣.

Let him do what he wants. If it results in the cancellation of the holiday its on his head, albeit disappointing.

Or read it 😁

Fluffyblackcat7 · 25/07/2025 12:32

Tell your brother that you are quite happy to go to F1 on your own just as long as neither of you tell your parents in advance so that they don't worry.

Also, if you are able to sell the ticket when you get there, he can have the money to go towards his holiday expenses. If not, he can just pay for his own food and entertainment just the same as he would if he was at home.

Sorted!

SomeOfTheTrouble · 25/07/2025 13:02

Fluffyblackcat7 · 25/07/2025 12:32

Tell your brother that you are quite happy to go to F1 on your own just as long as neither of you tell your parents in advance so that they don't worry.

Also, if you are able to sell the ticket when you get there, he can have the money to go towards his holiday expenses. If not, he can just pay for his own food and entertainment just the same as he would if he was at home.

Sorted!

The OP isn’t happy to go on her own though, she said it would be rubbish on her own. She doesn’t want to compromise, she just wants her brother to do what she wants!

DarkwingDuk · 25/07/2025 13:58

Oh wowza! You're 26 and talking like you're 16 - At this point your brain is fully matured, so there's no excuse for you throwing a wobbly at the fact most people think you're in the wrong here. You've even finally admitted, after a lengthy drip feed, that you simple don't want to go alone - grow up!

Your brother is not obligated to "suck it up" for you - just as you aren't for him. You're both individual adults and should really be acting as such.

For the life of me I cannot understand why your parents are continuing this facade when you're both behaving like children. Neither of you "deserve" a holiday - but your parents do if they've been putting up with this nonsense for 25 years. Crikey my parents would have cancelled a holiday if my brothers and I acted like this at 10, let alone bloody 26!

Get a grip on yourself and either sit down and have an adult conversation with your parents outlining that your brother doesn't want to go to F1 but you are happy for him to escort you there and meet you after if that works for them, if not they should cancel the trip and you can all go when they are well enough. You're both acting like scroungers - if you want a holiday, pay for it.

FrogFalacy · 30/08/2025 14:26

Oops wrong thread!

Dragonflydancer · 30/08/2025 15:45
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Okay...

Chonk · 30/08/2025 16:09

Is that you, @FamilyHolidayTroubles 🤔

Zonder · 30/08/2025 23:10

Chonk · 30/08/2025 16:09

Is that you, @FamilyHolidayTroubles 🤔

😉

I think the OP needs to move out and build her life away from her family, given the other thread. The four of them living together, holidaying together really isn't working.

Protectivemummy2025 · 31/08/2025 10:12

You are so pathetic, I am in my early 30’s and I remember being 26 and I would not have been this ridiculous over a holiday 😂

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