asked me why I was playing with myself during sex!

[goodThingGonewrong]

Exactly as the title says. Dp suggested sex when we went to bed last night, when I said yes he said we couldn’t as I had my period. I told him it was finished then he said to have sex in the morning, I was a bit deflated by that. However 5 mins lasted he was guiding me to touch and go down on him. No foreplay for me so I did feel it a bit hard to get into on my side. We eventually had piv and even though I was wet, I did need some more stimulation so I started to play with my clit while he was inside me. He asked me once why I was playing with myself but I didn’t hear and he asked again. I just said because I enjoy it but recently there’s been no or little foreplay from him, I want to speak to him today, it needs to be addressed as things obviously didn’t feel right for him either.

Also so it’s not a drip feed he’s even asked me on the past to play with myself and vice versa…, it’s not a new thing. It just wasn’t in his request.

Looking for advice on how I bring this up so conversation openers and pointers would be good.

I have obviously name changed for this post:

@OpalOwls err because sex is a private intimate act between two people?

Oh bugger off back to the 19th century. Don’t read it if you don’t like it.

Jesus you really are a pearl clutcher aren’t you. I should go cover up in case someone sees my knees!

And people wonder why standards are dropping so swiftly. Is nothing private anymore?

Nice try trolling

I’m not a pearl clutcher I just have a degree of discretion

On an anonymous forum - she's not telling the neighbours about it. No-one knows who her DH is so how can it be disrespectful?

Oh bore off please, your input isn’t needed here. Have a little browse on Lovehoney and lighten up babe

So in the absence of offering anything constructive, and an obvious aversion to anything sexual being discussed online.. why would you click on a title that said "asked me why I was playing with myself during sex!"

You’re all so clever I’m duly chastised. Seriously though why do we need to know all of the private details? And then people criticise Bonnie Blue

Dp suggested sex when we went to bed last night, when I said yes he said we couldn’t as I had my period

Makes no sense. He believed you had your period, yet suggested sex, and when you said yes, he said no because you had your period (even though this was not the case, he just didn’t know it).

What I believe he thought was going to happen was;
DH ‘How about sex’
OP ‘oh, I can’t, I have my period’
DH ‘oh, no, was so in the mood and looking forward to it’
OP ‘how about I give you a blow job instead’
DH ‘okay’

Then, it all went pear shaped for him.

Maybe those floodgates need to be opened...

asked me why I was playing with myself during sex!

⬆️⬆️ that is the title of the thread, very obvious what it was about, you obviously willingly opened it to read. If you don’t like the content use the back button and find something more PG to read 🤦‍♀️

😂😂

Sounds like his ego was wounded that his cock alone wasn’t pleasuring you enough 🙄
I don’t think men quite realise that for most of us, we’re never going to orgasm just by penetrative sex. There needs to be more stimulation!

I think we get your point; you don’t have to say it 10 times 😂

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I really was not stimulated to come after being asked not to play with myself. @goodThingGonewrong

He actually asked you to stop? On what grounds? I can't imagine asking or being asked this at all.
It's one thing to comment on it "oh are you touching yourself" but to actively then ask me to stop, er, No.
Your body, your can touch it as much as you want.

Go off and be discreet then!

How odd.
"Playing with myself" is a standard part of sex for me, even if DH has engaged in a lot of foreplay (ie, pretty much every time). It's just a natural thing to do, feels good and most men would like how it looks too!

How odd that’s he’s querying something pretty standard that added to your pleasure!

I had an ex that used to tell me that self simulation like this during PIV made him feel inferior like he couldn’t pleasure me. The answer was he couldn’t! Glad he’s an ex - distinctly remember thinking I can’t live my whole life with sex this shit and orgasming alone so as not to offend him! Often think of his, now wife, who came after me and hope she managed to resolve the issue!!

i never post memes on here, bit honestly….

I doubt a man can tell if a woman fakes orgasm