asked me why I was playing with myself during sex!

[goodThingGonewrong]

Exactly as the title says. Dp suggested sex when we went to bed last night, when I said yes he said we couldn’t as I had my period. I told him it was finished then he said to have sex in the morning, I was a bit deflated by that. However 5 mins lasted he was guiding me to touch and go down on him. No foreplay for me so I did feel it a bit hard to get into on my side. We eventually had piv and even though I was wet, I did need some more stimulation so I started to play with my clit while he was inside me. He asked me once why I was playing with myself but I didn’t hear and he asked again. I just said because I enjoy it but recently there’s been no or little foreplay from him, I want to speak to him today, it needs to be addressed as things obviously didn’t feel right for him either.

Also so it’s not a drip feed he’s even asked me on the past to play with myself and vice versa…, it’s not a new thing. It just wasn’t in his request.

Looking for advice on how I bring this up so conversation openers and pointers would be good.

I have obviously name changed for this post:

Seriously? You know that some women have incredibly heavy periods right? There is no way on earth I could EVER have had intercourse whilst on my period…it would have required specialist (and disposable!) bed linen otherwise the mattress would have been fucked! Also…CSI would have declared to scene FUBAR!

Why didn't you use it? Personally I find reading about other people's sex lives grim and frankly it leaves a nasty taste in my mouth.....😬

@50andfailing why read it then? And why ask such obtuse questions? No one is making you read the thread. I don’t have to justify what I post or where to you or anyone else! I didnt realise that members were monitoring threads!

And yet, you click on a thread with the title “asked me why I was playing with myself during sex!” 🤣

Honestly, get a life.

Cos it's usually a pervert after a cheap thrill

Grow up

ohnoyoudont

Sounds like something from a Mills & Boon.

Why click on it then 🤯

Enter you, the perv patrol.

Er…no?

So he can get his rocks off but you just have to put up with it & you’re Not allowed to?! Well he wouldn’t be getting anything more until he understands that sex is a two-way street & your needs are just as Important as his! Selfish bugger!

And you wanted to take part?

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Members absolutely monitor threads 😂 For some, I think that's the main reason they're on MN.

Does anyone remember Mrs.CrumpleBottom from Sims 2 Nightlife?

Hahah yessss Mrs. Crumplebottom that’s a throwback!

@goodThingGonewrong never fake orgasms, it leaves you feeling like a performer for someone else, and you end up resentful. It’s ok to say, it’s nice, or it felt a bit awkward, or I enjoyed it but I didn’t come, or something else along those lines. But faking it is the top of a slippery slope to hating the other person for being a selfish lazy pig.

See, it's funny, in romantic relationships there is sex. It's very not all, very healthy. So posting in relationships is fine, no?

I'd have just been blunt and said 'because you're shit in bed and I'm otherwise not enjoying this.'

I’ve never been in your situation so idk how I would feel, but I don’t really understand why you find this hard to discuss with him. I’d literally just say “last night was awkward” and take it from there. I think your issue is that no one in this relationship is being direct. He just wanted a BJ and not full sex so was annoyed extra work was involved. You were just going along with it and faking it, he probably clocked on. Hence his question, why are you playing with yourself if he’s apparently so good that you came? I just think it it’s a super simple thing to have avoided but you’re walking on eggshells.

Yeah but she had been pretending she was loving it? So her words would have contradicted her performance

A selfish man between the sheets, is an utter turn off.

Knees! You shouldn't even be showing your ankles to all and sundry, you shameless trollop! 😂

Just don’t read it - the thread title was clear enough.

I mean, same in later years but I’d still be put off by a squeamish man tbh.