Argh! DD caught me with FWB in the house

[Lionesseses]

Long story short, my DD(15) came home unexpectedly from school earlier, and arrived home to find me in the house with my ‘friend’. She knows him vaguely as he’s the dad of a school friend of hers (we’re both single parents, and that’s how we met originally).

She didn’t catch us at it, thank God. But we were both upstairs (we had just had sex, and had got dressed again). I was all easy breezy about it saying ‘Oh, Andy is here! We weren’t expecting you home!’ But I was embarrassed and massively thankful she hadn’t been ten minutes earlier!

Then he left and she was asking why he was here, are we seeing each other etc. She doesn’t know that we’ve had this arrangement for a couple of years now, completely physical, friendly on the rare occasions we see each other otherwise but with no intention of becoming a proper couple.

I don’t want to explain our relationship to her because it’s not really her business and it’s not the kind of concept I’d want her thinking of (especially not in the context of me!). Am I right to do that…?

And I worry it might have spoiled things now cos my DD will tell her mate, and it might lead to embarrassment all round. Argh! Annoying.

Any thoughts? I guess I’m hoping it blows over.

I thought this post was about 15 yr old DD. Not about a 40 something adult divorced woman.

But it was actually all about the OP.

It's bullying when someone's previous posts ACTUALLY bullying op last night is called out including extremely derogatory and misogynistic language towards her?

Nice

@SquashedMallow you posts are disgusting.

DBS checked?😂😂😂😂😂😂

Only people who think it’s grim are people in very boring sexless unsatisfying relationships. And are very boring full stop . Go OP 🙌🙌😂

Tbh I think the OP originally posted this in order for it to be a funny post about nearly being caught out.
Its actually turned into a bunfight about the OPs morals.
Which is a dreadful shame, so much for the sisterhood eh?

You could say the same about a married couple in bed at night, when their daughter could walk in on them. Or are you worried about the fact he is her daughter’s friend’s dad? I still can’t see the problem.
In my view, this is the situation:-
A single mum and a single dad spend time in bed together and have sex.
They are sure they are alone.
The daughter unexpectedly comes home but doesn’t catch them at it exactly.
So what is the problem. The OP is entitled to have friends and she could pass off the fact he was upstairs in the way others have suggested.
I would leave it there. If the daughter asks, it might be best to come clean but when all’s said and done, they are doing nothing wrong.

Dear JudgyPants (I presume that is your actual user name :))
wind your neck on. Do you. oP’s business is none of yours & does not impact your life. Sex is healthy & fun.

Once her daughter is 18 and living her own life, what business is it of the OP? I certainly will not be interfering with my children’s private lives unless I felt they were unhappy or being treated badly. Sounds like the OP has met a lovely man who treats her well and makes her happy. What’s there not to like about that?!

Who said anything about random men? Read the post and stop trying to stir up trouble you numpty. Are you so bored you just want to try to stir up trouble?

Christ on a bike! You’re not “old fashioned” - you’re a bloody pearl clutching prude 😂😂

Exactly.

What my daughters do in their private life at 18+ won't be any of my business if it involves my daughters being happy and of course, it's consensual.

To a certain extent, I feel that way from 16+.

@SquashedMallow You seem desperate for attention and deeply interested in the sex life of a stranger. Your energy would be better spent addressing what’s driving your obsessive need to have strangers on the internet validate you.

I'm not interested in engaging with provocation of your amateur psychology.

Thank goodness' this thread will be full In a couple of posts and the bullying and harassment of people can be shut down for the night.

🤣🤣🤣

Outstanding

This thread is surely headed for classics, some of the comments have had me howling.

OP, I won't congratulate you on being an absolute sexual degenerate but well done on being an all-round decent human being, regardless of what some of the more insane MN members might believe

I hope you carry on living your life for you and enjoying it

And your hideous comments will be hidden away?

I have not made any hideous comments. Except you implying I've directly called the op a wank bucket.

Already explained…Corporate jobs…flexible working…actually very respectable.

The OP situation is completely different, fgs. 🤦‍♀️
Adults.
Consent.
Long term friends.

Stop researching me and being like a dog with a bone. You won't leave me alone and keep trawling up previous messages. I'm not engaging with you further. I think it's counterproductive to use OPs last few posts to keep doing tit for tat responses to each other.

But you are yourself being a Billy to op calling a wank bucket.

🤣
I’m not researching you.
You have made yourself very visible on this thread, which I have followed with interest as I think the OP is amazing.
However, as a feminist and a supporter of women, I have found your comments to be outstanding.
Not in a good way, but in an awful, judgy and derogatory way.
I honestly couldn’t give a shit about what you think, and I’m sure you feel the same about me.
But there is absolutely no way you can say the things you have and not be called out on it.
And your constant “report report report!!!” is nothing short of back-pedalling.
But hey! You do you sister! (Or not)