Argh! DD caught me with FWB in the house

[Lionesseses]

Long story short, my DD(15) came home unexpectedly from school earlier, and arrived home to find me in the house with my ‘friend’. She knows him vaguely as he’s the dad of a school friend of hers (we’re both single parents, and that’s how we met originally).

She didn’t catch us at it, thank God. But we were both upstairs (we had just had sex, and had got dressed again). I was all easy breezy about it saying ‘Oh, Andy is here! We weren’t expecting you home!’ But I was embarrassed and massively thankful she hadn’t been ten minutes earlier!

Then he left and she was asking why he was here, are we seeing each other etc. She doesn’t know that we’ve had this arrangement for a couple of years now, completely physical, friendly on the rare occasions we see each other otherwise but with no intention of becoming a proper couple.

I don’t want to explain our relationship to her because it’s not really her business and it’s not the kind of concept I’d want her thinking of (especially not in the context of me!). Am I right to do that…?

And I worry it might have spoiled things now cos my DD will tell her mate, and it might lead to embarrassment all round. Argh! Annoying.

Any thoughts? I guess I’m hoping it blows over.

Careful.... You'll be reported for being "phallocentric" with the "balls deep" comment. But, I guess that's allowed when you're on the other side of the fence

You said that and many other horrors so forgive me if I find it unbelievable that you have womens best interest on your radar.

Ahhah

The penny has dropped.

Little bit of dont do what I do......do what I say going on here eh?

Fucking hell. Please report them to Mumsnet OP.

As a man, I feel rather privileged that I'm allowed on here at all, and that (mostly) I can contribute without being made to feel unwelcome.

Twats like that ruin it for everyone.

I've reported your continued harassment by stating I said something that I did not say. I have already explained that I stated men view women as this when engaging in casual hook up type situations. I did NOT call op a "wank bucket". Stop derailing the thread and stop spreading misinformation.

I suppose my question to the OP is...would you be comfortable with your daughter having a similar FWB arrangement in the future?
I can't quite believe how many people think a 15 yo is genuinely not going to work out what was going on!! Lying to her really isn't on - she needs to know her mum is open and honest if mum feels there is nothing wrong with her arrangement.

@WigglywagglyWanda

i don’t think Op is in the least bit repentant. Yay! Go, OP!

I thought we were able to exchange views and express opinions freely?
Surely if you can use obnoxious phrases I can then respond to that?
You say you’ve reported me and others, I actually find some of the things you’ve said in your posts incredibly offensive, I’m not reporting you however, as it’s your opinion to express as you so wish.

Are you okay? Read the thread?

I'm reporting the ongoing harassment of the previous poster. I'm concerned about your continued misinformation, not your views. I did NOT call the op a wank bucket. It's that misinformation I am reporting as I've told you numerous times that I did not call her one. I'm not going to keep explaining it, yet you keep continuing to repeat it. I'm not so sensitive they I report others views, however offensive.

Why so?

What's a wank bucket? Why a bucket?

Sorry that was unclear, it wasn't referring to OP

I reported too. a different post. for bullying,non stop - it is awful.

BeachRide · Yesterday 14:23

'Your attitude is grim.'

What is it with the MN sexually repressed and the word grim?

Just be honest and say you haven't been shagged properly in 20 years 😂

Sorry, but what difference does that make? He has no ties and neither has she. Why would it be preferable if she picked a man her daughter didn’t know? I don’t understand your reasoning, so perhaps you could explain.

“Being a wank bucket for a friend”
Erm…am I losing the plot here?!
Because you absolutely said that, and you absolutely meant that.
And I find that utterly repulsive, as in effect you are calling the OPs vagina a bucket, as an ardent feminist I think that’s reprehensible.
So you can report me all you like, funnily enough it’s had no effect so far, and I would strongly suggest you think carefully about the phrases you use from now on.

Do none of you have 15 year old DDs subjected to pressure to have casual sex and sexts/photos that are spread around school? The tirade of porn online and teenage boys?

This comment was perfectly ok until you had to cheapen it by being crude!

Nor do I, Moussaka!