Living with Partner three days a fortnight who wants Rent?

[Ava55]

Hi all,
Please can I get thoughts on this. I’m moving jobs in the next few months and will be spending 3 nights at my partners every fortnight ? He wants what would be a monthly rental ? Is this fair ? Thoughts please ?

Reaching for what? A point of view you don't share?

I’d be thinking this relationship has run its course.
er no I’m not paying you any rent & your attitude is disappointing so jog on.

No, for some sort of bizarre explanation for how a man charging his girlfriend £750 to sleep over 6 nights a month can be reasonable.

Hope you've not got anything strenuous on today 👍🏻

You're just being silly and contrarian for shits & giggles, I think.

He’s done you a huge favour by outing himself as a selfish halfwit at a point where you can bale out.

His thought processes speak to a stupefyingly unintelligent and transactional person.. This is who your “partner” is. Imagine sharing a lifetime with him?

£750!? Absolutely not
The only way this would be an acceptable request was if you’d asked the previous lodger to leave and wouldn’t let him get a new one. Then he’d be fair to say you need to pay.

But on the assumption none of the above is true he’s a cheeky fucker for asking. You staying there makes no difference to the cost of his rent. He’d have been more reasonable to ask for money towards utilities if they’d increased with you staying (although unless you're putting the heating on 24/7 or having 4 showers / baths a day it I doubt it would be much and it certainly wouldn’t be £750 a month!)

Genuinely see this predicament differently to you. By all means have a strong cuppa and see if you come up with anything more insightful than laughing emojis and 'youre silly'.

£750 for approx half of the month (3 nights per week) equates to £1500 for a full month...that's a lot. If you moved in fully would he expect you to contribute that much to the joint expenses? How much is his mortgage? It definitely seems like he's taking advantage of your situation and it would be better for you to find a cheap hotel if possible.

I’d be looking for a hotel room and also a new boyfriend, he sounds horrid,

There's no reason to believe OP is expecting to have her own room at his place. It would be extremely unusual, given they're a couple. You're really reaching with thus.

It's normal for couples to stay over at each other's houses (sometimes more than 6 nights a month <gasp>) and not pay anything - or to share food costs and chip in a bit for bills.

There's no reason to think OP is the reason the guy doesn't have a lodger at present.

And no reason to think she's a reason he can't look for a new one. It's normal for someone who rents out a room to have a romantic life and for it to make no difference to whether they have a lodger or not. 🙄

If he doesn't want her to stay because it's convenient for her work, then he just has to say it doesn't suit him. Not try to charge her more than a hotel would.

Honestly, this guy would be dumped if it were me. How romantic!

That is outrageous.

Feck no. Did his tennant share his bed? Did he have access to a room for only a few days a month?

Does he ever stay at yours?

Haha when I think of all the cocklodgers on here living with women for free.
I'd create your own win win situation and dump this fool.

Agree, and then point out you will not be having sex at all on any of these nights as it would be like you were paying him for sex....which is illegal....

So why would it be awful to (metaphorically) 'kick somebody to the kerb' or 'throw them under a bus' for charging their partner rent? If my partner wanted to charge me rent when I stayed at his, I'd happily dump him.

If you read the thread you'd know that, and also the OP has asked other questions on different threads about this Prince Charming that show what an absolute waste of space he is.

No, but from his point of view, it might make his spare room a lot harder to let if the OP is there a lot too, especially if there's only one bathroom. He's asking the OP to compensate for that loss, albeit clumsily. He'd have been better to say that she couldn't stay over that often because it wouldn't work with him having a lodger.

And yes, if he wanted to stay with the OP 6 days a month, Mumsnet would be telling her to make sure he fully covered the extra cost of him doing so or crying cocklodger.

OP, that isn't a relationship, he sees you as an answer to his cash flow problems.
Three days a fortnight, I'd definitely expect to contribute to bills and food, but £750 a month in rent???
This doesn't come across as a loving relationship.

No way!!! It would be fair to pay for some groceries but £750 for 6 nights is insane.
Honestly I don’t think I could stay with him after that, it’s showing you how he thinks and feels about you and could be a huge problem in the future.
Dump him and book a hotel or airBnB, it would be cheaper!

He doesn't love you even a little bit, does he?

Dear me, he is using you isn't he.

You'd be a bank that he could fuck (instead of generally banks fucking us, I suppose).

It's a very good thing you've got more self respect than this utter wanker.

This, @Ava55

He wants £83 per night you stay with him, and he buys a bit of bread and milk when he stays at yours.

WTF?

That tells you all you need to know.
Get out now, and take it as a blessing that he's shown you who he is before you've had kids with him.

Edited because my brain can't do maths this early in the morning.