Living with Partner three days a fortnight who wants Rent?

[Ava55]

Hi all,
Please can I get thoughts on this. I’m moving jobs in the next few months and will be spending 3 nights at my partners every fortnight ? He wants what would be a monthly rental ? Is this fair ? Thoughts please ?

At the very MOST you could offer to pay $148 a month which is what 6 days a month would cost based on $750 a month. But for that you'd expect either your own room space, or that total would cover all contributions from you for those days - so covers all food and utilities.

Probably easier just to get your own hotel room.

Haha! I was thinking that too. Sublet it to a big sweaty hairy-backed bloke though, not a woman. Can't have cocklandlord ogling the poor lodger every time she exits the bathroom in a towel. I'm not surprised the last one left!

Do you get your own room? Was the tenant there 3 days a week? I would he getting a new partner.

If you are paying to sleep in his spare room presumably you can sublet it for the other 24 days a month you won't be using it? You should be able to make back most of the £750 hopefully. Did his last lodger actually share a bed with the tight-fisted knob?

Get a hotel or airbnb for the nights you need to be in that area. Dump him.

Well this is a new twist - trying to be a cocklodger in his own home.

Is he usually tight OP? Does he 'forget' his wallet? Always expect to go halves on anything you do together but somehow you end up paying more than half?

I’d pay £750 on a lovely weekend away after dumping this weird stingy git.

£750 for 6 nights a month? So £125 a night? Sounds like he doesn't want you there. You should be able to get a very decent B&B for £125 a night.

oh this made me laugh

What is the actual work situation? Are they sending you, in which case you'd get an allowance. Or is something you've chosen to do and will be a permanent or temporary arrangement

Go to a premier inn. Half the price.

@Ava55 I hope you have decided to dump his sorry, cheap ass. He doesn't deserve you and wants to make money on your relationship? That is wrong in every way. I hope you tell him exactly how you feel and give him a bill for 125 pounds for every night he ever stayed with you.

I really am gob-smacked that he even thought about this. Worthless cad.

Book a Hotel nearby and if the boyfriend wants to stay over, charge him Hooker's rates.

Realistically, boyfriend needs to get another lodger to rent his spare room.

How many days a month does he stay at your a month?

That’s over £115 a night.😮 Is he really that good a shag?

@Ava55 I'd refuse to stay there. Can't believe he suggested it but as you said it's probably to make up for his loss of income from the poor lodger.

Absolutely it does.

That is absolutely outrageous. I would have laughed in his face and broken up with him on the spot.

He's showing you his true character here OP, so pay attention

OP, I had to read your post several times to check you did say partner because this is so weird.

Your 'partner' doesn't seem to see you in a romantic way but more as a source of income for him.

Usually a situation where you stay with each other regularly would be a chance to test your compatability and see whether you want to live together in the future, but he is just looking for profit. This will end up being a pattern of behaviour where you pay for most things and he will celebrate the fact that he made a 'saving'. Not equal at all.

I really hope you dumped him as this is going nowhere.

Has your fanny not snapped shut yet? Eww.

ABSOLUTELY insane 😅 This is so bizarre, how long have you been together?! I hope you didn’t take the job to be nearer to him!

Book a Travelodge or something similar, no way would I expect this charge, cheeky shit.

I can sort of see his point as that's 6 days a month, so almost a week, right? Pro rata wouldn't be out of line, but not particularly romantic. If he got £750 p/m rent then £150 p/m for a safe place to crash and buy some groceries would be fair. Shoe on the other foot MN would call the guy a cocklodger.

This.

Although I just dont know how I could stay in a relationship with someone making a request this egregious

So what has he actually got going for him, because it’s certainly not his kind, warm, loving personality!!!