Living with Partner three days a fortnight who wants Rent?

[Ava55]

Hi all,
Please can I get thoughts on this. I’m moving jobs in the next few months and will be spending 3 nights at my partners every fortnight ? He wants what would be a monthly rental ? Is this fair ? Thoughts please ?

I’d say ‘I don’t want you as a landlord, I kind of hoped you saw me as more than a tenant’. Guessing you’re both young and he’s got a tenant so he can afford the mortgage? Would you be happy with him having another tenant while you’re there? If so then he’s out of order.

This. ^

This man sounds grossly unnattractive and unnappealing - whether it's a case of he's a tight fisted arse, or he is brassick. No woman wants, or likes, or needs to be with a penny-pinching man. Dump him @Ava55 he sounds utterly repugnant.

Alternative chain accommodation would be less expensive. You’re his partner, not his lodger in a transactional relationship. Where’s his kindness and love? Tell him to do one.

No I’m livid it was even a suggestion

Whaaaat??? I’m gobsmacked!!

I’m easily made to feel like I need to be completely self sufficient but I don’t think even I could convince myself that is in anyway anything other than a massive piss take.

How horribly transactional! Did his tenant also provide emotional support, companionship and sex 🤣 and pay him for the privilege??

Is he giving you your own room, contracts and rights as a tenant?

Thought not….he’s a CF.

So you should be. Wave him goodbye for even suggesting it.

Suggest you charge him £100 a night every time he stays at yours too

Thank goodness.

He seriously wanted £750 a month for you to stay there 6 nights a month? £125 a night? WTAF? 😂 Please tell me you laughed at him!

No-one would charge someone that if they lived there full time 30/31 days a month!

£750 for what, 6 days a month! That's hotel prices

Does he even like you?
Please tell us you're dumping this shit.

Hope you haven't taken this job in order to be closer to him.

Gouging miser.

I’d rethink the relationship. Surely he just gets another tenant to replace his missing income and then you chip in with some food when you stay.

I'd charge him for any "services" you provide. Dump him anyway!

Surely anybody who doesn't live with their partner stays over multiple nights a week? Sometimes it might be more biased towards staying in one house more than the other for various reasons, but you don't ask each other for rent? Maybe getting a bit of food in, but you've got your own house to run too and surely that's the price of just having your partner stay over?

My partner and I (don't live together) usually spend 3-4 nights per week together. Sometimes it's more at his house, sometimes it's more at mine. He might do odd DIY jobs I need doing, I might give his place a hoover before I leave (for example), but I can't imagine charging for simply being there!

We will both always make sure we have food or drinks in that the other likes, even if it's not things we'd eat/drink ourselves.

Double some hotel prices!

What a twerp to be unable to distinguish between a lodger and a partner. He doesn’t deserve you. Wave him goodbye.

Hard no. You can give this one back to the dating pool. Massive red flag.

Only if your name is on the deeds

And get his leg over on top id guess.

It'll probably be cheaper to do a hotel OP. Tell him no thankyou but now you know your relationship is that transactional and expensive you can both work out how much to charge both ways for sleepovers.

Look at it as a long term positive.

He's shown you what he is and now you don't have to waste any more of your life on him

Good luck with the new job

He wants $750 a month for you staying 6 nights along with sex.

To the trash can with him. He's tight, selfish, and greedy. Tell him the sex isn't worth it.

I could see you giving him like £100 or so to cover water and electric and providing a bit of food but he wants you to pay what his old roommate did for 1/5 the time.

Missing the 😆 emoji! Good advice. Mums Net. Instead of treating us all like children please 🙏 bring back the pmsl 🤣 option.

Id tell him to stuff it.
Get yourself a nice AirBnB.
Also, think twice about this guy. What he’s expecting is batpoo.

Op you must have been so upset as well as livid. This is truly horrible of him. Just shows what a money grabbing strange man he is! Whether he’s hard up or just tight no man in his right mind charges his gf rent of £750 for 6 nights a week. How long have you been with him? Has he always tried to get you to pay over the odds for things? It’s truly a horrible characteristic and I’d have to dump him.