Living with Partner three days a fortnight who wants Rent?

[Ava55]

Hi all,
Please can I get thoughts on this. I’m moving jobs in the next few months and will be spending 3 nights at my partners every fortnight ? He wants what would be a monthly rental ? Is this fair ? Thoughts please ?

His bills will be the same whether you are there or not. A partner wouldn't expect any more than a reasonable contribution towards food. Maybe sourcing and cooking an evening meal and bringing in a few bits and pieces ..a few snacks. Maybe some weeks getting a takeaway instead. Anything more than this, to my mind, is trying to make a profit out of you. 🤔

Absolutely not please tell me you have told him to F%#k off and also dumped the cheap skate! That’s disgusting of him to even ask that 😡

So basically he wants to charge you £750 a month for a few nights sex. Wise up OP. Get a Premier Travel Inn or similar.

I'm pretty 'careful' with money (i.e. mean!) but even I wouldn't even consider charging my partner rent for staying at mine! Any increase in his bills would be minimal and surely he'll benefit from your company?

£750!! No way! That's worse than unfair. I'd dump him immediately.

Travel lodge would be my best bet.

He wants to charge $125 per fuck? Or per opportunity for a fuck?

Umm, no thanks.

And in a shared bed????

Seriously, a Travelodge would be cheaper, and you don't have to share the bed and bathroom.

How is it win win? That would imply that it would be a win for you, which blatantly it isn't. Why can't he just get another tenant?

And is there any reason he can't get another tenant?

I'd actually rather pay MORE to stay in a hotel then spend another night with him!

I stay at my partners 3 nights every fortnight too and it wouldn't enter his mind to charge me a rent for it!!
I often buy food in for dinner or breakfast or get a takeaway but that's it. He's usually got a fridge of food and will often take me out for dinner too.
That would really put me off someone.
I'd say a hotel 6 nights a month would be cheaper - especially advance booking of a premier inn or such like.

Rent a lovely b&b room, with breakfast and fresh sheets and not him.

Honestly what a massive stingy ICK.

This is a sliding doors moment for you.
if you stay with him
this is your future.
you’ll have kids and have to beg for money to buy them shoes and he will call it a favour.
go go go

Surely there’s no going back after being asked to pay £750

I suggest you present him with an invoice. At least £120 a night.

£750 for 6 nights per month?? That’s the price of a hotel. Ask him what he plans to provide for that.

Then dump him.

£750 for three nights a week when you’re sharing his bed?! No way!

A small contribution towards the extra food you eat/power you use doesn’t seem too unreasonable I suppose, but that’s the extent of it. Tell him no.

Presumably the tenant wasn’t going to share his bed, so he can still have the tenant?

I’m glad you’ve seen his true colours.

For the few days you are staying, buying a takeaway and groceries to last a couple of days would be more than fair.

£750 for 6 nights a month is the equivalent to £125 a night. Certainly more than a premier inn or Travelodge. How many nights does he stay at yours.

if this was a serious request I think I’d reevaluate the relationship.

Ditch any idea of having a baby with this man, he would probably charge you double rent for the baby.

He thinks you're a tenant rather than a partner - tell him no, stay in a hotel or airbnb - cheaper.

Also can you imagine if you actually moved in full with him how much he would be asking from you then…🤯🤯🤯🤯 he doesn’t respect you ditch the twat

i would ditch him and get a nice airbnb - what a twat he is.

And how much is he paying in mortgage?