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Living with Partner three days a fortnight who wants Rent?

264 replies

Ava55 · 03/06/2025 21:38

Hi all,
Please can I get thoughts on this. I’m moving jobs in the next few months and will be spending 3 nights at my partners every fortnight ? He wants what would be a monthly rental ? Is this fair ? Thoughts please ?

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SmudgeButt · 03/06/2025 22:34

Does he pay if/when he stays at yours?

Cathmawr · 03/06/2025 22:34

Your boyfriend wants you to spend £125 a night to stay at his house? He's awful 🤮

Charliecatpaws · 03/06/2025 22:35

Ava55 · 03/06/2025 21:42

Wish it was. It seems really unfair

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OMG he’s taking the piss!

MumWifeOther · 03/06/2025 22:37

What the ?? Get rid!! What a loser he must be.

GabriellaMontez · 03/06/2025 22:37

If share the cost of food for these nights.

£750! He's a twat.

Onthemaintrunkline · 03/06/2025 22:37

How do you move on knowing he’s this tight? The old saying - ‘he’s shown you what he is, believe him’! Have a strong feeling this ain’t going to get any better.

Sometimeinadifferentworld · 03/06/2025 22:43

So this is the guy who ogles other women - including your family and friends, follows an ex on Instagram, and now expects you to pay rent - at an extortionate rate- for you staying over at his place?
It beggars belief to me OP why you are even in a relationship with him.

Springtime43 · 03/06/2025 22:46

alcoholnightmare · 03/06/2025 22:20

£750 is totally ridiculous. Get a hotel three nights a week and split the cost of dinners out.

This

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 03/06/2025 22:47

Sometimeinadifferentworld · 03/06/2025 22:43

So this is the guy who ogles other women - including your family and friends, follows an ex on Instagram, and now expects you to pay rent - at an extortionate rate- for you staying over at his place?
It beggars belief to me OP why you are even in a relationship with him.

Yes, this is the same, awful guy.

OP you need to bite the bullet and get rid of this one.

L0bstersLass · 03/06/2025 22:47

Onthemaintrunkline · 03/06/2025 22:37

How do you move on knowing he’s this tight? The old saying - ‘he’s shown you what he is, believe him’! Have a strong feeling this ain’t going to get any better.

@Ava55, I came here to say exactly this.
What valuable insight he has provided you with.

sheldonRockz · 03/06/2025 22:49

So he wants £750 for 6 days a month 😲

How long have you been together OP? As I’m in the camp of LTB - I can’t believe he’s trying to profit off you. Sounds like he’s just trying to sponge off you for as much as he can get, I’d be questioning whether this is the sort of person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

How often does he stay at yours? as if you want to stay in the relationship I’d be charging him a similar rate too - would love to know what his response to that would be.

Velmy · 03/06/2025 22:49

Did he get rid of the tenant to facilitate you staying? Not that it makes it any less ridiculous, I'm just trying to figure out how his (presumably) tiny mind thinks this is in any way a reasonable request 😅

Has he bumped his head recently?

DorothyStorm · 03/06/2025 22:50

Ava55 · 03/06/2025 22:20

Yeah and I wouldn’t dream of charging him. He gets the odd bit of milk or bread nothing over that tbh..

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Hiw often foes he stay at yours? And ask him for £750 a month yo cover it…

but in reality i would just end it.

wobblybrain · 03/06/2025 22:51

Is he trying to put you off because you have decided that for work you need to/can stay at his, rather then simply as part of your relationship. It seems like you are only staying due to work, rather than him?

ChocolateCinderToffee · 03/06/2025 22:51

Bloody hell. I had a lodger in my spare room and she paid £200 a month, including bills.

BrickBiscuit · 03/06/2025 22:53

Stay in the spare room with the door locked. And sub-let it to someone else the nights you’re not there.

TheJinxMinx · 03/06/2025 22:53

Crazy I wouldn't mind getting some bits of food in that would be the highlight bearing in mind ul be working not likely in the home all day only sleeping and washing which I assume you do if you stay over anyway. Your not his bloody tenant ur his gf what a tight arse using u to replace income from a lodger. Id be furious and seriously considering the relationship they fact hes suggest 750 a month!!! For 6 nights!! The other alternative is when he comes to urs for a sleep over its 300 a night mate, il even give u the spare bed because no way are u sleeping next to me after that suggestion 👍

TwistedWonder · 03/06/2025 22:53

Sometimeinadifferentworld · 03/06/2025 22:43

So this is the guy who ogles other women - including your family and friends, follows an ex on Instagram, and now expects you to pay rent - at an extortionate rate- for you staying over at his place?
It beggars belief to me OP why you are even in a relationship with him.

And she wants a kid with him despite being in their late 40’s.

I must admit I am thinking it’s a bit hmmmm

ChicaWowWow · 03/06/2025 22:54

Ava55 · 03/06/2025 21:50

£750. He had a tenant who left so I’d say it’s to replace the money there..

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The Fuck!?!???!?!? This guy can't be for real!!!!!!!!!!!! Back in the bin! This is a shocking ask!

MounjaroMounjaro · 03/06/2025 22:54

So his tenant's moving out and you need somewhere to stay for 6 nights a month, so he thinks he can charge you the same amount as the tenant was paying, just so that he's not out of pocket? Even though he could still get a tenant and he's never paid you to stay at your place?

This is one of the tightest cheeky fuckers we've had on here, OP. Make him a paper medal and use a drawing pin to stick it to his forehead.

CornflowerDusk · 03/06/2025 22:55

On the face of it he's a unreasonable, but if you are moving to get a new job near him and staying with him in order to go to the office on certain days or something it may also seem that you are taking the piss or moving in by stealth, maybe this is his way of shutting that down? How did this all come up?

OnTheBoardwalk · 03/06/2025 22:55

Many moons ago my work used to pay £25 a night if you stayed with family/friends rather than at a hotel per night

tell him you'll pay this if he pays it every night he stays at yours

he's obviously being ridiculous

CornflowerDusk · 03/06/2025 22:56

wobblybrain · 03/06/2025 22:51

Is he trying to put you off because you have decided that for work you need to/can stay at his, rather then simply as part of your relationship. It seems like you are only staying due to work, rather than him?

That was my thought also

HiRen · 03/06/2025 22:56

‘kin hell.

MN never ceases to amaze me.

cinnamongirl123 · 03/06/2025 22:57

LTB. I’m serious.

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