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Holiday ruined, husband ill and being a bit of a prat

459 replies

Blocuian · 03/06/2025 10:16

Me and DH are abroad on what was meant to be a much needed holiday, first one in years just the two of us. It’s been totally ruined. He’s come down with what I think is food poisoning – been in and out the loo constantly, can’t eat, sweating and miserable. I get that he’s ill and it’s not his fault, but it’s how he’s being that’s getting to me.

I offered to get a doctor (hotel can arrange and we’ve got insurance) but he snapped at me that I “don’t care anyway” and told me not to bother. I’ve been sat in this hotel room for 2 days while he refuses food, won’t let me open the curtains and gets stroppy if I even mention going out for a walk or a coffee. He says if I go out it just proves I don’t care.

This sort of behaviour isn’t completely out of the blue either – lately he’s been a bit controlling in general, doesn’t like me doing much without him, makes digs, gets passive aggressive. I didn’t realise how much until being stuck in a room with him like this.

I’m honestly thinking about flying home early. I feel like I’m not helping him by sitting here while he sulks and makes me feel guilty for wanting to leave the room. But I know if I go he’ll say I abandoned him.

What would you do? Anyone else been in this sort of situation? Feel like I’m going mad.

OP posts:
justasking111 · 12/06/2025 16:39

Ilikeadrink14 · 12/06/2025 10:59

No, I think this is just another one of those posters who come on here, have their moan, get us all trying to help………. then bloody disappear! It makes me sick how many posters think it’s fun/ok to do this!

You're correct, did a search @Blocuian no longer exists on Mumsnet.

TooSquaretobehip · 12/06/2025 17:32

justasking111 · 12/06/2025 16:39

You're correct, did a search @Blocuian no longer exists on Mumsnet.

Their posts are still searchable on Mumsnet through Advanced Search so they're still here (or at least their posts are still on here). They only have 8 posts and all are on this thread. So maybe they NCed to post this thread and just got busy and never came back. Hopefully they will though.

alsoFanOfNaomi · 12/06/2025 18:15

There's also the possibility that what OP's husband had turned out to be infectious and she's now ill :-(

pipthomson · 09/08/2025 22:17

Flat coke (regular not diet ) works a treat for tummy upsets ( either end)

BIWI · 09/08/2025 22:35

@pipthomson the OP started this thread two and a half months ago. I’m sure she’s sorted the problem out now!

ASimpleLampoon · 11/08/2025 11:19

My goodness!

Send him a text saying you will speak to him again when he is ready to treat you with respect.

Go out and do what you want to do.

See if you can check into a different room hotel - otherwise stay out and enjoy your holiday as much as you can.

pipthomson · 11/08/2025 16:47

BIWI · 09/08/2025 22:35

@pipthomson the OP started this thread two and a half months ago. I’m sure she’s sorted the problem out now!

Just noticed that LOL my advice doesn’t expire

Givenupshopping · 11/08/2025 20:35

Tell him to stop being so bloody ridiculous, he's got food poisoning, he's not dying! Then get your book, your purse and anything else you might need, and leave him to it. Personally, with a partner like this, I'd be hoping that he would die!!

Nominative · 12/08/2025 09:15

I expect OP's husband has either got better or died by now, or maybe she's shoved him over the balcony to help him on his way.

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