Pre digital era my DHs ex girlfriend subjected us to a protracted “stalking/trolling”” experience. It went on for 10yrs. Throughout we told no one but it became very apparent that she was telling mutual friends that I was trolling her.
It started with phone calls, she never spoke but would call both DH and I at home and at work. I just assumed it was a miscall or wrong number until DH clocked that there was no dialling/disconnect tone. It was just as call ID was being introduced but she always disabled it. Eventually we changed the number after a series of calls in the middle of the night when my DM was dying. I would leap out of bed expecting the worst only to find that it was a nuisance call.
The weirdest behaviour was sending the same Christmas card every year for 10yrs signed in the name of his girlfriend that preceded her. It became a bit of a tradition at Christmas ceremoniously opening the card, she always got the address slightly wrong so we knew from the envelope it was her annual card.
I wouldn’t mind so much, but he had finished with her ( she was having an affair with a married man who she married within 2 yrs of DH and splitting up) 18 mnths before DH and I started seeing each other.
I could write a book about her antics but ultimately we just got on with our lives and tried to ignore it.
Because it was pre digital age it was really easy to identify who was trolling us. Handwritten cards were a give away since her hand writing was easily recognisable. DH is a bit of a hoarder so still had birthday cards from their time together so we could compare them, in addition DHs DB was in CID so was able to check them over. He advised we keep everything in case we needed evidence. He said that people do indeed do stupid things and they would be able to take prints if needed.
She was close friends with my BIL’s girlfriend who probably, quite innocently imparted certain information leading to some really nasty cards we received. Stuff that only the family knew about.
Fortunately it all stopped when we had DS. She was unable to have children and I was worried his birth would escalate her behaviour, but it seemed to have the opposite effect.
I’d like to add that my DH is not some super husband or drop dead gorgeous. He was devastated by her infidelity and when he started an emotional affair I was disappointed that he didn’t feel that his actions were comparable but that’s another story.
When you have a mystery re nuisance texts then you have to look close to home first. It’s unlikely to be a random acquaintance. It’s likely to be an ex who may have recently gone through a break up and is now looking to cause trouble. Or someone who feels slighted or has become a little obsessed with your DH. Batshit women do exist and they go to extreme lengths to disrupt other people’s lives.
I really didn’t think that other women were capable of this behaviour but after suffering ( well minor irritation) at the hands of one I can assure you they do exist.
I wouldn’t engage unless she or maybe he escalates. Screen shot everything. If you haven’t got a ring doorbell, get one, if nothing else it discourages personal deliveries. Also if it is a batshit admirer it is likely they are regularly driving past your house.
I do bump into my DH’s ex occasionally, she can’t look me in the eye and scurries away rapidly to avoid interaction. It’s quite entertaining.
DS is 21 this year so it’s very much in the past but it did upset me at the time. We lost a number of friends who assumed that the bullshit she was feeding them, that I was doing the trolling, was the truth. A couple of friends actually warned me off in a round about way. At the time I didn’t have a clue what they were trying to tell me but it later dawned on me that they thought I was doing the trolling.
Hopefully your mysterious texter will get fed up quickly if you don’t engage.