DP positivity thread, anyone?

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Just wanted to excess my feelings somewhere! (I already tell DH constantly.)

I just love him so much. Today he came home and just chatted so much, and I was so happy to hear all about his day and his thoughts. (If I could crawl inside his mind and live there, or occupy the same physical space as him, I would; that would be perfect intimacy for me.) He is so smart and kind and thoughtful and handsome, and is always trying to be an even better partner to me (and he succeeds!) I feel incredibly lucky to be his wife.

What are some things you love about your DP?

Did you tell him about the thing with the colleague and you wanting to f*ck him?

have you got over your fury with coming back from holiday to an about rubbish heap of a house?

This is toe curling

If I could crawl inside his mind and live there, or occupy the same physical space as him, I would; that would be perfect intimacy for me

I'm sorry OP but that comes over as seriously creepy.

Doesn’t it just? But tip of the iceberg really!

He joked his way out of the conversation about moping if the house was dirty but taking me away from it for fun things, but we were out together all Sunday and a couple times this week, and he stopped doing the mopey thing! I am so pleased. And the house is coming along.

I’m over the coworker, so I think things have gotten better at home (or my sex drive just lowered. One of the two.)

Ah, I clicked on to say I'm really quite pleased with mine but agree, this sounds a bit unhinged.

Happy you're happy. Carry on.

I know 🙈 We could be laying half on top of each other, and I want to be closer. I told him such one time and he thought it was romantic, so I guess we’re two weird peas in a pod.

Once I told him “I wish I could see inside your mind for a day,” and he said, “No you don’t. It’s chaotic in there.”

This is a satirical post, surely?

Or are you currently drunk/off your tits?

If you read that whole thread rather than skimming it and becoming obsessed with one detail, you would have seen that it wasn’t about Coworker, but rather that I wasn’t feeling desired by DH, which is ultimately what I want.

I also said on that thread that if DH wanted a totally monogamous relationship, then I could be perfectly satisfied having sex with just him for the rest of my life. We do non-monogamous things together, mostly, and as fun, explorative sort of “bonus” activities.

I talked about the difference between sexual [non]monogamy vs romantic [non]monogamy. DH and I are very much romantically monogamous. So I only have that particular sort of intimacy (sharing deep thoughts, cuddling, kissing, wanting to be closer than is actually possible, etc.) with DH.

No, that’s just how we are. I understand that not everyone is like that or wants that

Isn’t a fortnight two weeks? Two weeks ago I was on day 4/10 of my hiking/camping trip with DD. Do you know what day it is, or are you confused? Maybe you should get checked out

Bless you OP. Your posting history shows that you have a very complex and, at times, turbulent, relationship with your husband. I've been in relationships like that before and interestingly, I would have said the same about them- I was absolutely besotted with these men, and could not get close enough to them for my liking! It was a kind of hysterical bonding, I think, resulting from insecurity because they had made it clear that they didn't want to be monogamous with me- that I alone wasn't enough for them. That made me bond to them in an unhealthy way.
I'm in a healthy, loving, monogamous relationship now and I don't want to crawl into his mind or thoughts! I love him madly but it's a very different feeling to the "love" I felt in the more dysfuntional relationships- this time it is quiet, and respectful, and reasonable and real.

FWIW you deserve someone who respects you enough to sleep with only you. His unwillingness to be monogamous is not a reflection on you. He will never be happy with one woman.

So you feel like this OP
but on basis of your other thread, your DH doesn’t feel like climbing inside your body!

We’re fine. Everyone has ups and downs and lulls in long term relationships. We’ve been together for 10 years; I don’t expect it to feel like the first month of our knowing each other all the time. I also think most people just don’t share as much about their “turbulent” times or crazy-girlfriend-thoughts as I do.

I brought up the fact that I don’t need sexual monogamy to DH first; it wasn’t like he said “Heeeey, would it be cool if I shagged other people?” and I reluctantly agreed. I simply don’t feel sexual jealousy. If he gets with other people it’s not disrespectful towards me at all, because it doesn’t bother me. I tend to be more curious about his experiences: what he liked and what he didn’t, whether he’d like more of that going forward, and if there’s something I can learn from it.

So he never initiates sex with you or any kind of flirting

and he suggested a non-monogamous relationship?

Always been deeply suspicious of SM posts by people claiming to adore their spouses, and this is why.

I didn’t say that I wanted to “climb inside his body,” to be clear (that sounds skinwalker-y!) I said I wanted to climb inside his mind, and to occupy the same physical space as him. Like, defy quantum physics and merge atoms or something equally impossible

I recognize that’s not exactly a normal way to feel lol; most people like being two distinct individuals with private inner worlds. I’m happy enough that he likes to cuddle with me.

You sound and come across creepy and very obsessed possessive.

You lost me at the differemces between the two types of non- monogamy.

Too complex for my tiny mind.

But you want a lot more than a cuddle whereas it would seem that’s perhaps mostly what he wants with you (but wanting sex with other women) hence you feeling very dissatisfied and thinking about sex with colleague

If he gets with other people it’s not disrespectful towards me at all, because it doesn’t bother me

but it does bother you that he never initiates sex or flirts with you?