DP positivity thread, anyone?

[LastPostISwear]

Just wanted to excess my feelings somewhere! (I already tell DH constantly.)

I just love him so much. Today he came home and just chatted so much, and I was so happy to hear all about his day and his thoughts. (If I could crawl inside his mind and live there, or occupy the same physical space as him, I would; that would be perfect intimacy for me.) He is so smart and kind and thoughtful and handsome, and is always trying to be an even better partner to me (and he succeeds!) I feel incredibly lucky to be his wife.

What are some things you love about your DP?

I’m going to hide this thread… too depressing to think of a friendless 28 year old shacked up with this man

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I am aware of what Fetlife contains.

But you are describing being sub and dom so it falls under the BDSM umbrella.

I'm not saying it's not enjoyable or not consensual, but I do think it can create pseudo-trauma bonds.

OP, I get the feeling you're pretty vulnerable. MN isn't going to respond well to posts like this because they feel very forced and ingenuine.

There are a few others proclaiming adoraion and it makes me think they know their husband's are going to read this tbh.

There's no shame at all in therapy or anything like that. Many of us should do it. I have found it very enlightening for myself. It seems to me that your relationship is really unhealthy and you'll be the one to suffer more than him.

Posting the pictures doesn't make sense either. It's ok to be proud of your partner and find them attractive. It's just going to attract alot of negative comments here because many of us find the husband fawning thing comes from a place that isn't truly admiration, but something else.

He does this thing where he gets stressed out by the state of the house if it’s not cleaned to his standards, and then he starts moping about it— being quieter than usual, being less physically affectionate, giving off this horrible dark cloud of energy that I just can’t stand, etc. It drives me insane.

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I’m sorry you’re so cynical. I wouldn’t be happy to go through life like that

Reality is really shit OP. For alot of people when they face it. It's hard and tough to accept it.

Just protect yourself financially and emotionally with things outside of him so you have a piece of yourself that's just yours.

I’m good financially. I have savings, half ofthe marital assets, and a career to fall back on if, god forbid, anything were to happen to end our marriage. Though, I don’t think I would be okay emotionally for a long time afterwards.

Oh, it’s the mad backpacking woman!

If any of this is real, I feel truly sorry for your child.

Here we go again

This is bizarre. He gets upset if the house isn’t cleaned to his standards but is incapable(?) refuses to lift a finger while you’re away? But says he’ll TRY on this trip.

I must have missed his hypocritical/warped reasoning? What is it? Weaponised incompetence despite holding down a job? A physical disability? A severe allergy to cleaning products but not dust? What’s he told you?

He just doesn’t like to do housework, other than cooking occasionally, and his job is extremely stressful. He likes to come home and decompress, which is fine. He works hard to provide well for our family.

So if he gets home while me and DD are gone, and has the energy to do a little cleaning, great. If not.. well, the house is going to be dirty until I catch up with it. He hasn’t moped since I’ve raised the issue with spending time with him vs being home to clean, so as long as he doesn’t start back up again, I don’t mind if he takes time to relax.

Oh Op, this reads like a tragedy 😞

and you trying so hard to convince us otherwise (I saw the revolting pic) is heart breaking

and the fact that you have zero friends because you’re simply too busy (with one 4 year old child, you work a couple of days a MONTH and family hours away) is quite telling. I bet your husband has friends. I bet he socialises (in addition to the woman he sees for a massage and shag)

I don’t “like” to do housework. unlike your husband, I don’t respond by

being quieter than usual, being less physically affectionate, giving off this horrible dark cloud of energy that I just can’t stand

which drives partner “insane”

The one silver lining is that given he’s 25 years older than you (and hopefully has a decent life assurance policy), he will likely pop his clogs many years before you OP. Although any inheritance will also have to presumably include his children from previous marriage.

Talk about attracting the evil eye.
I wouldn't ever boast to anyone about me and DH relationship.

I think it’s much more tragic that you get your kicks from attempting to be mean to people on the internet.

DH does have friends. Sometimes we hang out as a group. (But we need to get a childminder for that.) Sometimes I hang out with his friends without him, like if we’re going hunting, for example. (DH doesn’t like to shoot anything that’s alive and he doesn’t eat game meat.) We are presently in the process of planning a trip to visit DH’s father and go alligator and anaconda hunting hunting, for which I’m excited (Alligator sausage is delectable!)

His living will says that DD and I would get approximately 50% of the assets and the other 50% will be split between DSC. Even then, I would be able to continue working very minimally.

But honestly, if I didn’t have DD I’d rather go before him than lose him. Just being home without him for the last few days has been killing me.

Just out of curiosity @LastPostISwear where in the world are you based?

I would prefer not to share the answer to that question

My husband and I have been together for twenty years, all of our adult lives, and I just fall more in love with him with every year that passes. He's the kindest, sweetest, funniest, most considerate, supportive and intelligent man I've ever met and I feel so incredibly lucky to be married to him. He is my best friend and we share many of the same hobbies and just love spending time together. We recently had our first baby and it's wonderful to see him with our daughter. I knew he'd be a brilliant dad but it's still such a joy to see how much he loves her and how naturally fatherhood has come to him, especially since neither of us had any significant experience of caring for babies before having one of our own!

That’s wonderful! Congrats on the baby too ☺️🎉

Oh, OP, after sharing in detail the self-deluded disaster that is your domestic life?

Is this a contest to see who can be the most dramatic on this thread? I feel like I missed the memo

@LastPostISwear Fair enough. Just wondered as anaconda hunting isn’t a particularly UK-based sport, though I concede you could be holidaying for the purpose. I don’t think posters have been particularly dramatic in calling you on your relationship - the whole thing sounds like a particularly dark piece of YA fiction.