DP positivity thread, anyone?

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Just wanted to excess my feelings somewhere! (I already tell DH constantly.)

I just love him so much. Today he came home and just chatted so much, and I was so happy to hear all about his day and his thoughts. (If I could crawl inside his mind and live there, or occupy the same physical space as him, I would; that would be perfect intimacy for me.) He is so smart and kind and thoughtful and handsome, and is always trying to be an even better partner to me (and he succeeds!) I feel incredibly lucky to be his wife.

What are some things you love about your DP?

OP, it reads like something out of Stepford Wives.

Do you have hobbies and pursuits and connections outside the relationship.

My DPs good at ironing.

I do wonder what it would be like to have experienced someone who was honest, had good values and loyalty. I really think it's lacking in so many people.

No, we just dont start threads saying how fabulous our DHs are.
I mean look how this one has gone...

I have a couple hobbies and several projects in progress. DH is supportive of whatever I want to do in life, whether that’s going back to school, getting a job, staying home and looking after the house and DD… I’m close with my family, though I don’t have space in my life right now to make and maintain friendships. Will do that when DD goes to school.

And a part time career. Dunno how that one slipped my mind considering I’m getting ready to leave for 2 weeks of work 😅

it was “rude” to post a disgusting pic of a half dressed middle aged man with a bit of a sag without giving a trigger warning!! I really didn’t want to see that. Shudder

If you have no friends, work very little during the month and live long distance from your family…. What do you do all day OP?

im guessing your 4 year old DD is in nursery .., quite a bit?

2 days a week, usually. Sometimes she does drop in days if I have a work obligation that occurs on a week day.

Cook, clean, garden, do the laundry, grocery shop, take care of DD and the pets, make arrangements for and oversee major house maintenance, complete tasks for my job… probably a bunch of other tasks that I’m forgetting.

No wonder you look for a little bit of extra marital fun

I didn’t think a preview would display; I assumed people would have to click the link to view the photos.

You’re acting like he’s buck naked. Men exercise or go to the beach shirtless all the time, including significantly less in shape and saggier men; do you clutch your pearls and insult them then, too?

No wonder you clean so much given your aging prince He does this thing where he gets stressed out by the state of the house if it’s not cleaned to his standards, and then he starts moping about it“

did you ever clarify how he met the woman he has a massage and roll around with?

The level of undress wasn’t really the issue op

it was weird to post a photo of your husband let alone a gross one

Yes. Fetlife

I wouldn’t feel the need to if people like you were questioning and over analyzing every detail of every one of my posts.

I don’t think it’s hard to see why someone might enjoy massaging and having sex with DH for free when he looks the way he does. He attracts a lot of attention from women who like muscles. You might not like muscles, but many women do.

I don’t see muscles

I see a rather saggy looking 53 year old man

this has become a really sad thread

Maybe it’s time to schedule a visit to your optometrist, dear

Or your therapist, since you feel such a strong need to tear strangers down?

Oh goodness, OP, you need a friend you really do.

I know you're getting a lot of flack here (I was also guilty of that), but I hope that even if you don't admit it here (it's none of our business), some of the issues and red flags people are bringing up will start to make you think.

(From a 40-something year old with a number of happy, respectful relationships under my belt - some monogamous, some ENM, so no 'pearl clutching' here).

Hopefully you won’t return to absolute disgusting squalor as you did before, on your last thread (the one after the thread about wanting to shag your colleague because you dh never makes you feel sexy)

Have you ever had a good friend Op?

I’m almost done with the cleaning; giving DD over to my mum so I should be able to actually finish. Dogs are boarded. DH comes home in a week, and I’ve asked to do some maintenance cleaning until I returned, if he felt up to it. He said “sure.” Even if he does nothing again, at least it’ll only be a week’s worth, and I won’t be on a time crunch to catch up.

I’ve had good friends when I was in school. Then I went away for uni and lost contact with them, and struggled to make new ones. I like spending time with my coworkers when I go away for work; it’s kind of a special bond given the nature of the work. I’ve been too busy to even try to make friends since I had DD, though she makes friends everywhere she goes and I figure eventually I’ll click with one of her friend’s mums, right? I’ve had lovely conversations with parents at soft play and such; just haven’t had more time to spend with them.

Ohhh you've got a BDSM relationship where he's your master or something, and hence the intensity? I often think those are like deliberately created trauma bonds.

'Splains a lot.

Fetlife features more kinks than just BDSM.

We are both switches, though I tend to be more sub and DH is more dom. (He was actually quite vanilla when we met, and I got him interested in BDSM.) It’s enjoyable to engage in, not traumatic.

I don’t think the power dynamic transfers to everyday life or affects the way we make decisions together. I tend to trust his judgement because it’s very good, but he also carefully considers all my thoughts, suggestions, and insights.