No Children at weddings AGAIN!!!!

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Can't believe it. Opened the post this morning to find wedding invite number 3 for this summer. Yet again 'UNFORTUNATELY NO CHILDREN ALLOWED!' stipulated.

That now means that for three weekends in may and June we will have to choose between the wedding of 3 close family / friends or finding a babysitter for 12 hours at a time!All weddings are over 150 miles away.

Is this the current vogue to have adult only weddings? Personally find that some weddings without kids can be stuffy and v formal. Much prefer old fashioned celebratory sort! Any one else finding this?
What are you doing?

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Pixie I am not critisising your wedding, My Dp and i could get married and it would cost less than a hundred quid. I understand why people want big weddings though.

I'm not married but I have an opinion on everything, so shoot me.

i'm with you turnip, i know most of my mates wont bring their kids as they'll want to have a drink and a late night but if they do then thats fine

people get so upset dont they!!!

It is possible to do things cheaply - Mine was cheap and cheerful and making things more expensive wouldn't have added anything to the day.

Children were invited to my wedding although only 1 came. During the vows a double decker bus could had driven throught the room and I wouldn't have noticed. Don't recall if the baby cried or not.

I'm not angry about dc not being invited to weddings but think that they should be taken into consideration where there are no babysiters easily on hand. However, if the couple are childless then they probably wouldn't realise there are issues.

If I ever marry I will be inviting the chldren and banning the adults. Its the adults who casue all the problems...

It's just a small but noisy minority of breeders who think that having managed to breed somehow makes them worthy of extra-special consideration, and the envy of everyone they meet. (LIsten up. Having kids is not rocket science. Cats, dogs and cockroaches do it all the time). THey think that the childfree ought to make tons of extra effort to accomodate their offspring, and are exactly the sort of people who let their little shits darlings run riot because children are so luvverly and the British are so cold and repressed and hate children etc etc etc.

Madamez are you trying to go out of your way to be bloody offensive?

Just wondering

Nah, it's educational therapy for fuckwits. Offend 'em enough and it clears their circuitry.

Eh?

Why can't you contribute to a threadwithout being obnoxious.

You might consider yourself a breeder with shits for kids but I don't put myself in that category you ignorant woman.

Evening ladies.
We have quite a sad situation as far as no children at the wedding is concerned.
My step son is getting marred on the 30th August. There are no children allowed at his wedding except the bridesmaids. My dh and I have 3 ds's and my sil has 4 dc and none of them are allowed to go. My dh is very angry and upset at the thought of our boys not being able to see their big brother get married. The reason for no children is because the brides uncle owns the cricket club the reception is being held and he doesn't want children there.Apparantly the bride has a brother who has an autistic boy so he can't leave him with anyone so even her own brother can't go to the wedding either . What do you think?

I think it's their party and they can invite whomever they please and if you don't like it, then don't go.

That's what I think.

No we won't be going but I feel gutted for dh as he realy wanted our ds's to go and be involved.

There will be other weddings in their lives.

Gingeme, whether you agree with your stepson not inviting his half siblings or not, surely your husband has a moral obligation to go to his OWN SONS wedding, would he miss your sons!!! Your husband is very, very out of order.

Oh Im sorry I didn't say that dh is going to the church to see him get married just hes upset that our boys can't go too.

And now, I am VERY out of order too, I am sorry.

Maybe he could think about going to the whole day as it is his son. I think that if I was him, I would swallow my pride for the sake of my son, even if it ment choosing one over the others ... especially as its a one off. BTW how many step kids do you have? Is a situation like this, likely to happen again?

I have 2 step sons. They don't live with us though. It would have been less of a shock had he have told us earlier iyswim? I just assumed we would all be going. Even bought ds's a little suit each and a dress for myself.

I can quite understand why people might want to have events without children present. Let's face it, other people's children can be a right pita. I love it when we get invited somewhere and i don't have to take the children. It means DP and I can be a proper couple, have a lovely grown-up time (ie get pissed) and not have to be responsible for a few hours. Not everyone likes children, and they really do change the dynamic of a "do".
Book the babysitters and go have some fun!

Why won't your husband go to the whole day? Why just the church?

gingeme
fwiw for many ASD children a wedding would be pretty much torture.
i would happily go to weddings with 2 of my Dc's (were they invited) but would have very serious concerns about inflicting that whole process on DS2.
i did not attend my brothers wedding (although invited) because it would have been hideous for DS2 and the only person who he would be happy with was unavailable to sit with him.