Crushing so badly on my sons primary school teacher.

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Ok so before anyone jumps on me for this, I KNOW how wrong and inappropriate this is. My son started in his class in September and from the moment I first clapped eyes on this man, I couldn’t help but find him extremely attractive. I’m not with anyone by the way and haven’t been for a few years now. Just recently, I think I’m seeing things that just aren’t there and it won’t go away. We had a meeting in school recently, and I’m not joking when I say the chemistry is real! For me obviously, not him. It’s all one sided. Anyway, as I walked to the school, my heart was racing and I’ve never felt ‘butterflies’ as bad as that before. As I waited in the reception area of the school, I could see him staring at me through the glass whilst he was quickly getting himself a drink. I also saw him give me a quick stare as he walked into the office. As I said, I know this is wrong but I can’t help the way this man makes me feel. I’m not sure if he’s in a relationship, all I know is, he’s the same age as me but doesn’t yet have any children. How do I stop this ridiculous behaviour of mine? It’s an embarrassment feeling this way in my 30s! He has also invited me in for an additional parents evening, that was just before Christmas, but again, I know all of these things are just him being nice and a lovely teacher. Even if he did find me attractive, how would I know? Is there any body language or anything I can look out for? Reason I ask is I’m pretty sure there’s another parents evening coming up soon, and I just wondered how he would act whilst siting directly opposite me if he was to find me attractive too. Thank you for reading if you got to the end and sorry for rambling on.

No it's purely based on how beautiful he is 🫣🤣

I don’t know, ask him out, don’t, your call. We’re only going on your words.

You got caught out talking rubbish.

Own it.

No she didn’t – pearl-clutching is a metaphor, it doesn’t refer to someone literally clutching pearls.

And even if it did, it’s obviously true that anyone can wear pearls, the sex is irrelevant. But as we know, it’s a metaphor, so again, the sex is irrelevant.

Yes men are regularly described as hysterical and regularly wear pearls.

Lol.

Pull the other one.

She was caught out taking rubbish and assuming the poster was a woman.

Not sure why you're so invested in contrarianism ..... But I suppose this site is full of people like that.

You’re the one arguing and being rude to everyone 🤷🏻

I responded to a rude, offensive, misogynist comment.

By someone who assumed the poster they were responding to is a woman.

It's perfectly obvious.

They looked like a fool.

You're now arguing for absolutely no reason that they didn't assume they were a woman .. .. when it's clear you're wrong

Men regularly wear pearls and are described as hysterical...... Riiiight.

That's why I responded to you.

Get it?

A shrugging emoji doesn't change the irrationality and pointlessness of your post.

being rude to everyone

No only to the misogynists and their defenders.

I never assume that everyone here identifies as women.

Ay yi yi, don’t latch onto me now. Have a nice day!

@StrawberryDream24 They looked like a fool.

You really want them to remember that don't you.
It's eas clearly obvious they just misread. They don't have to 'own it'or any other shit because it was inconsequential.

Chill. Enjoy the sun

I a guessing male primary school teachers are used to school mums getting crushes. Don’t ask him out 🫣

Why not?

"He’s kind and gentle with the children as well, really nurturing. I know that’s part of his job but he’s just really sweet, so it’s not just that I find him extremely attractive"

The teacher is a man who is safe with your son in a caring role. He's a green flag in that respect. You're 6 years out from your marriage ending so that trauma isn't immediate now. You're seeing your kids grow and realizing they're not going to be children forever. Your life has been about your kids and as they're growing, you're feeling safe enough to feel attraction. It's really a shame it's with your son's teacher though, sorry.

Have you done the Freedom Program or therapy to help with the aftereffects of your marriage?

To be honest, no I haven’t done anything like that. Maybe it would be a good idea though! I have a plan in mind anyway. I’m going to wait until the summer holidays and then ask him. If he says no it’s not a problem as it’s a crush that will soon pass

Your right it shouldn’t be like that, but my considerable experience in this job tells me, no screams at me that its inappropriate. All of those Safeguarding courses I’ve done over the years ands the main thing thats hammered home is

”Do not put yourself in a position where your actions can be misinterpreted because nobody cares how long your career has been and nobody is going to be there for you if the shit hits the fan”

I wouldn’t dream of putting myself in this position, its just not worth it.

I didn’t want to end up in this position and obviously wasn’t expecting it either. I wish I didn’t find this man attractive and I wish I didn’t go all gooey eyed when I see him, but unfortunately I do. Not an ideal situation I know but when my son leaves the class in the summer, I guess I’ll just have to ask him or forget the whole thing. By asking, at least I can say I tried. He might knock me back due to work, already being with someone, just not interested or what ever other reason there might be, but I don’t want to have any regrets and if it’s a no, that’s fine by me.

Just found this thread by accident and have to ask, what ever came of it? Summer holidays are nearly over and after reading through all your posts, I'm intrigued 😁

Am wondering that too. Just read the whole thread and OP did an excellent job of dealing with all the joyless miseries. I hope she’s currently out somewhere with the hot teacher.

There’s no joyless miseries. We wanted the Op to be happy, hence sensible advice. She was the one with an all consuming crush and therefore more chance of getting hurt.
If a man is keen he’ll find a way to ask you out.
But yes interested in how this panned out too.

Yep, there were quite a few.

Why are people giving OP negative feedback? She’s attracted to him. Usually, at our ages (parents with kids that are single); when we think another is attractive, the other person probably does too. It’s tricky because he’s Teacher at son’s school. But, I had huge crush on my son’s teacher and we would have nice joking banter here or there. I finally said, screw it, and told her at an event I think she’s pretty and my bad if it’s little inappropriate. She smiled, gazed at me, said thank you, it’s appropriate in this context and you’re cute. We started dating. Still going.

This thread is dead, no need to resurrect it.

Love to know if anything came of it, dating is hard work.