Crushing so badly on my sons primary school teacher.

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Ok so before anyone jumps on me for this, I KNOW how wrong and inappropriate this is. My son started in his class in September and from the moment I first clapped eyes on this man, I couldn’t help but find him extremely attractive. I’m not with anyone by the way and haven’t been for a few years now. Just recently, I think I’m seeing things that just aren’t there and it won’t go away. We had a meeting in school recently, and I’m not joking when I say the chemistry is real! For me obviously, not him. It’s all one sided. Anyway, as I walked to the school, my heart was racing and I’ve never felt ‘butterflies’ as bad as that before. As I waited in the reception area of the school, I could see him staring at me through the glass whilst he was quickly getting himself a drink. I also saw him give me a quick stare as he walked into the office. As I said, I know this is wrong but I can’t help the way this man makes me feel. I’m not sure if he’s in a relationship, all I know is, he’s the same age as me but doesn’t yet have any children. How do I stop this ridiculous behaviour of mine? It’s an embarrassment feeling this way in my 30s! He has also invited me in for an additional parents evening, that was just before Christmas, but again, I know all of these things are just him being nice and a lovely teacher. Even if he did find me attractive, how would I know? Is there any body language or anything I can look out for? Reason I ask is I’m pretty sure there’s another parents evening coming up soon, and I just wondered how he would act whilst siting directly opposite me if he was to find me attractive too. Thank you for reading if you got to the end and sorry for rambling on.

Ok then like what 🤷🏼‍♀️

But he isn't some random you've been chatting to at the gym for a couple of months, he's your son's teacher, and you've barely even spoken.

Something may come of it, you may be right. But surely this is far too soon to be trying to persuade yourself that you should be signalling that sort of interest.

If we all never took risks, we’d never go forward.

More frequent conversations. Finding out about shared interests. Actual flirting.

All you've got is 'staring'

As I’ve said in previous comments, I won’t be doing anything whilst he is still my child’s teacher. I would never make that awkward for him or me because I respect his job too the same way I also respect my own job. Maybe in the summer holidays I’ll pluck up the courage to ask him if he’d like to go for a coffee or something, who knows

But people get asked out on dates after meeting in a bar! The date is where you get to know each other.

well I only see him whilst he’s at work and I don’t think flirting with him then would be appropriate. Maybe in the summer holidays I’ll find the courage to ask him if he’d like to grab a coffee or something

I’d far rather go on a date, having experienced chemistry/attraction in real life, than swiping on Tinder, followed by weeks of messaging. There’s nothing wrong with traditional methods!

Exactly that, I’m not on any dating sites either. This guy gives me serious butterflies, when he walks into a room or by his classroom door, it’s like the whole room just lights up. The chemistry I FEEL is very very real. Might not be anything where he’s concerned which is fine but there definitely is for me. I have only been with two previous men and I can hand on heart say none of them have ever made me feel that way

Have fun with it! What a lovely feeling to have butterflies regardless of where it leads. I bet he is enjoying it too.

How about a thank-you card with your number in it to stay in touch once the school year has finished?

I’m not sure if he even knows I like him to be honest. And that’s what I was gonna do, pop my number in a thank you card but I’ve been put off doing that now as others have said it’ll be all around the staff room and he would find it creepy and everything

If you end up marrying him OP can you come update the thread?some of us are rooting for you and the romance!

Ignore the others - I'm sure most of them have never crushed on a school parent and know that he could actually be enjoying it too!

No reason why you can't innocently leave him your number to thank him for everything he has done for your son this year, blah blah blah, and see if he reaches out.

Thank you so much 🫶🏻if anything was to ever come of it I would come back and update 🫶🏻

I don’t think he even knows that I like him, I hope he’s noticed but chances are he probably hasn’t. I need to stay professional whilst im with him and can’t flirt with him whilst he’s at work. I’d like to think he has noticed and is enjoying it tho! Definitely gonna give some thought into all of this, thank you!

As you're a teacher, could you engineer a "teacherish" conversation and ask for his advice on something?
I say that if your attraction is that strong, you'll always regret not doing anything

"Bullying" someone who's calling other women skanky single mums and tarts? I think you're getting off lightly, to be fair.

I’m sorry but where did I call other mums those names? I think you’ll find I actually said that is what people on the comments were making ME feel like, a skanky single mum who’s a tart throwing herself at a teacher. No where in these comments have I EVER said single mums are anything of the sort.

skanky, single mum

What a dreadful, judgmental thing to say OP.

I just can’t think of any scenario where leaving your phone number “to keep in touch” with your child’s ex teacher would not be weird. Especially if no other communication other than parent/teacher stuff 🤷🏻‍♀️

I just can’t believe you said it in the first place. You’re meant to be a “respectable teacher” too. It’s a vile thing to say about single mothers.

?? I hadn’t read the whole thread literally just the op post and commented!

And it was something I said about MYSELF, and how that’s how people in the comments here had made ME feel. I wasn’t calling anyone else that!

I take it you haven’t read the comments properly then because if you had, you’d realise I said it about myself and how that’s how I’d been made to feel by these comments. Not anyone else, just ME.

I had to read the post twice because I was shocked you would post that on here. Trust me, I read it. I’m surprised it wasn’t reported.

It’s only your later comments that backtrack on it.