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Found condoms...I have had Mirena for 11 + years

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noideaoffuturenow · 25/03/2025 17:38

So...I've had a Mirena in situ for 11+ years. Cleaning today-opened a random, unused cupboard (up v high & hard to reach) in the laundry room. Found a box..in it were a few of DH unworn Christmas jumpers, a tin of receipts and random objects inc a paper bag of 8 Skyn black packet condoms. UB 10/2026. Never ever known DH to use these even when we did use condoms. Many years ago....
Feel sick to my stomach.
What would you think?

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SmurfKingdom · 27/03/2025 23:20

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 27/03/2025 18:58

OP said the condoms could possibly have been bought while she was waiting to have the coil changed. He may have been advised to get them from a clinic while they waited.

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Why would he be advised to get them from a clinic? And advised by who?

sykadelic · 27/03/2025 23:46

noideaoffuturenow · 26/03/2025 13:34

Also-I've checked; the Skins appear to be the 'orginal'kind. Plain black pack-'exp 10/2026' and '2111P41122' handwritten on the bag.
Does this suggest manufacture in 2021? It seems contradictory though; the SN suggests they were manufactured in 2021 but as have no spermicide expire after 3 years but say '2026'? Can anyone help with this?

If they were obtained in 2023 that's way more damming in terms of why/who for. My new coil was inserted in July 2023 and the old one was still ok-it was changed from Jaydess brand to Mirena so could be used as part HRT and was still ok for contraception. If there was a gap in coil protection it was during Covid -maybe 2021/2022 but I really can't remember.

Found on Google: "Keep in mind that non-latex SKYN condoms have a shelf life of about three years for those with spermicide and five years for those without spermicide."

So, it appears they were manufactured in 2021 as there's no spermicide so last longer.

Not "new" but not "old" either.

yesweknow · 28/03/2025 01:34

MonkeyMag1c · 26/03/2025 23:52

Appreciate that lots of people said he must be having an affair but I would just say that I've got some condoms in my bedside drawer with a BB 2028 on them. My partner and I don't use contraception, and we've been together quite a long while. I've never been unfaithful to her. So why have I got them? Honest answer: they were on special, and it gave me a thrill because they said they were specially for anal sex. I've got no intention of using them.

Honestly, men are weird. But we're not all unfaithful. Yours might be, I don't know.

I wish there was a way of preventing men from posting on Mumsnet. This proves my point. They constantly show themselves to be weird, stalky or irrational and add nothing to the conversation. I bet Mrs MonkeyMag is over the moon he's never been unfaithful to her.

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/03/2025 01:49

SmurfKingdom · 27/03/2025 23:20

Why would he be advised to get them from a clinic? And advised by who?

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Yes, and if he had been advised to get them, why didnt he use them if they were still having sex? Presumably the OP would have at least seen the discarded wrappers if they had?

Thewookiemustgo · 28/03/2025 11:01

@MonkeyMag1c brave post on MN. 😂
You’ve got as much chance of being believed here as Pinocchio with a six foot nose.
Personally I’d dump them before your partner posts on here saying you never have anal sex but she has discovered that MrMonkeyMag1c has specialised condoms in his drawer.

Ariel896 · 28/03/2025 11:33

yesweknow · 28/03/2025 01:34

I wish there was a way of preventing men from posting on Mumsnet. This proves my point. They constantly show themselves to be weird, stalky or irrational and add nothing to the conversation. I bet Mrs MonkeyMag is over the moon he's never been unfaithful to her.

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Totally agree. I don’t think men should be able to post on mumsnet

BeenThereAlready · 28/03/2025 12:27

Hi OP, I am so sorry you are going through this. Please do yourself a favor, and buy this book:
Codependent No More
Author Melody Beattie

Mmhmmn · 31/03/2025 17:09

CandlePrick · 26/03/2025 16:33

She said he’s very secretive with things like that, won’t even let her have the Netflix password.

Hes not a good partner based on that alone really.

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Oof I missed that bit. He keeps the Netflix password a secret? How controlling. And what else besides.. I'd be making moves to dissolve that relationship, OP.

Christmaschildcare · 11/05/2025 21:00

Hope you’re ok @noideaoffuturenow x

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