To think this message absolutely does equal a dumping ?

[Passengerseatisopen]

Together just over two years. We don’t live together (by choice we both have older children).

Spend two or three nights a week seeing each other, stay over one or two nights every few weeks.

Spent the night together last week, no issues, great night together. The next day chatting away as normal and then I get a message saying he “has a lot on and so could we not see each other for the next 8 weeks”. I’m not sure what you’re supposed to say to that? To me it’s a soft dumping. I didn’t respond and an hour later had a message asking if I was ok.

I was at work so couldn’t call but just said “look not sure how you meant that message to land but sounds very much like you don’t want to see me anymore; if that’s the case then I don’t really know what else you want me to say, I’m not going to be messed around etc etc”.

He messaged back saying “you sound annoyed today?!”

I’ve ignored and we haven’t spoken for two days.

I can’t wrap my head around it

Has he got an 8 week jail sentence? I can't see any other reason for a specific timing like that.

What a load of rubbish

8 weeks that’s like 2 months, how can he know he doesn’t want to see you for that exact time, it’s weird I’d just say let’s not bother anymore hey and tell him to stop contacting me.

I’ve heard a few things from people but never this. How odd?

Seems like a soft dump or it’s on the cards, ask him outright if this is the end as you deserve to be told with dignity after 2 years. I mean what the heck.

Has he someone else and working out who to be with, any chance a fling got pregnant? Is it likely someone is on the side / you are the side? I know it sounds mean questions, but I cannot work it out.
Whatever the reason, nothing deserves a statement like that on a text, that would be my driving force for a new start.

No fucking way!!! What the hell how dare he pick you up and put you down when it suits him!

Block him on everything OP

I think he's having some sort of surgery, as the 8 weeks is pretty specific. Possibly lipo? With the cover that he's working on his fitness....
Why not just go to his house to check?
A friend of mine - who I'd known for years suddenly went off grid and later revealed she'd had a nose job.... at the time I was seeing her at least once a month or so and she just ghosted everyone then did a big 'I'm back'!

You are annoyed and instead of communicating and finding out what’s going on you’re having a hissy fit and stonewalling him.

I think at this point it would be reasonable to dump you if you carry on. You’re the one messing him about.

The Traitors (or Celebrity Traitors - is he a celebrity?)

Big Brother

Love Island

Arsehole

The MP and well known womaniser Alan Clarke apparently covered his affairs with the phrase "talks about Uganda".

I find that vaguely more plausible and less insulting than "working on my fitness".

I’m sniffing more bullshit than a cattle market from him OP….. not a chance is this ok … xx

The whole situation is odd, and he's coming off like a weirdo, too. Even if he came back and tried to be more normal diplomatic, I don't think I'd find him worth investing more of my time and energy in.

How absolutely extraordinary. I had a weird guy like this once and it was a way for him to see if he could ‘do without me’. All very weird and he was definitely not a keeper! I would just not reply to anything, just ghost him or tell him via text that he’s binned. Awful! You definitely deserve more than this, so hurtful and bizarre.

Well he’s fucked that right up hasn’t he?! 🤣

Is he going to prison? 8 weeks is a bit too specific. I’d run for the hills!

Well he’s fucked that right up hasn’t he?!? 🤣

(was what my last post was meant to say)

Really? Just really? You think OP is being unacceptable for not accepting ‘I need 8 weeks from you to work on my fitness’. Really?

That's hurtful after two years together, 'we can be text friends but I can't be bothered seeing you irl'. Nasty of him.

@Passengerseatisopen has he got an ex who is returning for a two month holiday with whom he fancies rekindling an old love??????

That's such a strange message OP! Very specific on the 8 weeks, plus to message you that after a 2 year relationship is beyond weird. If it's specific for work (e.g. project abroad) you'd expect to discuss for sure. I see you have said you think it's a fitness programme (fair enough) but not to just leave you hanging. What happens the next time he wants to do a "project" on himself. Is he going to tell you "I hate a lot on and I can't see you for 4 months" whilst he learns Spanish or something. I think you need to move on, especially as he gave you zero consideration after 2 years. Seems like he could do that at any time in the future too. Sorry OP.

Was ''8'' a typo? Did you check?

I think you're right.

That PP is a deliberate goader - look at their posting history. They post the opposite of every else’s opinion to get a reaction. Don’t hire

I just skip when I see their handle. I feel like they write whatever to get a reaction.

... you’re having a hissy fit and stonewalling him.
OP is doing neither of those things. You should learn the meanings of words before you use them.