I'm getting the fanny gallops for a man 16 years older than me

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What on earth is going on.

I met him at work not long after I started there a few months ago. We hit it off straight away. He's on a different team, but I find myself finding excuses to talk to him and involve him in projects.

BUT.

He's not physically attractive at all. I normally go for younger men. He's obviously much older than me. A bit overweight. A smoker. Basically the opposite of everything I would usually find attractive physically in a man.

But!!

I've just spent all evening texting him after we spent the full day travelling together for work today (a situation which was shamelessly engineered by the two of us so we could spend some time alone together) and I'm getting the serious fanny gallops over him??

Wtf is going on and am I right in thinking it would be a terrible idea to pursue this?

I have wondered if it's this. But I'm generally not short on attention/offers from men. Which is one of the reasons I'm so confused by being keen on this one in particular!

Pheromones innit! They cannot be ignored and sometimes they are very surprising

Fanny gallops! 😂 Hey, why not, sometimes you just can't fight the chemistry, even if it seems illogical. Good luck, and enjoy! Even if it doesn't turn into a lasting relationship, it might be an incredibly fun experience.

Fabulous. Enjoy the drink 🍸

You beat me to it - overweight smoker, 16 years older, chances of him being able to partake in a passionate affair are minimal...

This concerns me!! I've never dated anyone older than me before so this didn't even cross my mind.

I got the fanny gallops for a man 16 years older than me when I was in my early thirties.

Nearly twenty years later, he’s my DH and my fanny is still galloping away!

Go for it, OP!

Are there any rules at your work about relationships and are you ok with kissing an ashtray?

The work colleague bit concerns me, the rest not.

OP, you haven’t answered whether he is single or not? Fanny Gallops are the best and rare!

This is so lovely! Can’t wait for the updates!

He told me that he's single, yes.

I'm just so confused because my fanny gallops normally occur around much younger, physically fitter men this is a first for me!

My husband is 15 years old than me :) we just get on. Please don’t let age put you off x

Could have wrote this myself 😂 15 years older, not my typical type.before I got to know him I wouldn't have said i found him overly attractive. But now I can't keep my eyes off him. Even has the worst laugh 😂 but it makes me smile when I hear it.

Enjoy your date. I hope all goes well. Ages is just a number. FYI, we have spent a few nights together and no complaints from me so I wouldn't worry about that either.

Enjoy your date! When are you going?

This is reassuring! Thank you.

Not for 2 weeks. Is that weird? I only get one free night a week away from my kids and I have plans next week...

Call me sceptical but I'd triple verify with third parties that a) he is actually single and b) he raised his children almost completely by himself.

Both may be lies.

If he’s brought kids up alone, that’s probably why he’s a bit porky and smoking. I’d overlook it. He’s cared for others over himself.

Hope it goes well.

None of the “physically attractive” men have worked out for you op. this one could be the real deal.

I'm very cautious and cynical when it comes to men too so that had occurred to me!

If he’s definitely single go for it! My husband smoked when I met him and I nearly gave him a swerve altogether for that reason. He gave up a couple of months into the relationship for his own health reasons. He was being overtaken by men 20 years older than him on the football pitch.

If that's when you're free, i don't see an issue. And if you change your mind in that time that's fine too.

I wondered if the fact that he claims to have done most of the parenting is a red flag. The only reason I raise it is because if it was legitimate reasons, e.g. his wife died, or walked away from the kids then fine, but if he slagged off the mother I would be concerned about that because slagging off the ex is a red flag; it shows unaccountability as few relationships go down the pan because of just one partner. I have not met one man who has actually raised their children "almost completely by themselves", but I've met a few who claimed they did to impress women. Also, dipping your nib in the work ink is always a cautionary tale. I would avoid requesting trips away together, and keep as much distance as you can in the office, narrowing your meetings up to outside of work (I've been there, it doesn't end well). When it goes South, which let's face it most relationships do, think now about how you will salvage that at work. Fanny gallops or not, think of the long game here.

have you seen Gillian Anderson's husband?!! She has been on record may times saying how much he makes her laugh... which I can't help but think is code for, "yeah we all know he's punching, but..." 😂

So I'm now totally invested in those thread and how the date goes!

This.