Found women's stockings in our laundry basket

[AmyRoger]

Hi all, probably a stupid question to ask but I found a pair of women's stockings in our laundry basket at home today. OH is away for work trip and my heart sank. I've sent photo asking what they are and who they belong to and he's not replied . I'm not imagining things right ?

You are the one missing the point .
Just because affairs are dumb doesn’t mean they aren’t happening All the time .

And the poster never said they agreed.

You are being pretty naive that’s why they asked if you are 12.

Probably a cross dresser
What woman wears stockings in this day and age

What was the letter about?

One who likes warm legs and hates bacterial vaginosis.

We occasionally use old stockings when looking for things like a lost earring.

We put them over the end of the hoover nozzle. Are the toes really dusty?

I know it is a slim chance.

Not a keen gardener by any chance is he OP? Stockings make an excellent tie when tying in trees or young shrubs to stakes. Unused stockings are also great for making apple juice or cider as the mesh allows all the juice to drain without the pulp.
I can also remember my mum taking her tights off and threading through the neighbours dog collar when the aforementioned mutt had escaped and gone for a wander down the road! Tights and stockings really do have a multitude of uses, every home should have a few pairs lying about!

Oh that is a good idea!
I'm.always losing and searching for lost earrings.

I am not enjoying typing this, but this happened to a friend of mine years ago, and the woman her fella was shagging had put them in the laundry basket so that he'd have to move out, and in with her.

Edited because I've just read your update: He was accused of having an affair and just started talking about other random things? Nah.... change the locks.

Stuffing them with human hair clippings and hanging them around your garden keeps the deer out too.

Apparently.

If the husband had used the stockings for one of these practical reasons surely he would’ve just said when OP asked him. He didn’t. He changed the subject. He’s obviously cheating or wearing them.

Duplicate post

Now that you've messaged him (and there is no judgement, who wouldn't want to?) you've given him time to get his ducks in a row. I'd start looking everywhere in your home for signs of an affair, which includes his wardrobe, drawers, desk, tech if you have passwords to his accounts, before he changes those. You said OH, so you are not married? I'd watch your bank accounts carefully. Are they joint? Can he move money without your permission This sounds dramatic, but so often once they know it's over, they act fast especially with financials, etc. You need to have your head screwed on tight right now and be thinking forwards. Sadly, I speak from experience on this.

Assuming he didn't use them to effect a lightning repair on a car fan belt, to tie up an apple tree sapling or to rob a bank, OP, I think you can assume their presence probably signals something amiss, rather than an innocent mistake. A man who innocently came by a pair of women's stockings somehow (they got stuffed into his pocket at work as a joke, someone gave them to him by mistake, etc) wouldn't put them in the wash, he'd chuck them away, or show them to you and you'd laugh about it.

I think either he's getting turned on by using women's underwear himself, or he's seeing someone who popped them into your laundry basket for you to find, because she wants to escalate things and 'bring it into the open'. Or perhaps he himself put them in there so you'd find out about his fetish because it validates it for him? As a matter of interest, does he ever do the laundry himself?

Changing the subject when your partner says 'hmm, totally unexpected underwear in our family laundry that isn't mine, what's that about?' isn't an innocent act, I'm afraid. It's not what someone would do normally.

if they were cut up crack on, it’d be weird if kids were just given stockings to play with 😂

Using the handy penis beaker?

Use the time whilst he's away to dig a little deeper. If you're able to access the bank accounts print off statements and look at them with a fine tooth comb, flights/travel booking confirmations - look for anything out the ordinary. I became quite a ruthless detective and waited until he was on his flight 8+ hours and hacked his iCloud, a night I'll never forget and confirmed I wasn't going mad. Him changing the subject when questioned unfortunately rings alarm bells! Keep your guard up and big girl pants on.

This is some next level detective wifing

I like that you're staying in character to post.

Cherche la... inflatable sex doll!?

❤️ I don't have anything to add but assume if you've ruled everything out & have your suspicions about him your probably right.

Can't imagine he meant for you to wash them though might have just been keeping them somewhere you've picked them up.

I think the most innocent answer is that he’s been to a strip club or similar when away with work and these were provided by a performer. However, even that is unpalatable to me.

There is no plausible or acceptably innocent explanation for women’s stockings in a married man’s laundry that would save my marriage. At the least I’d be advising him to find alternative accommodation upon his return. You might want to consider some marriage counselling before initiating a divorce etc, if you are stronger than I am, but I’d personally it would be done for me.

Me too 🙂

Dear Lord!

The most likely explanation is that DH has been having sex with another woman or women. Possibly whilst on his working away trips.

I would be looking for additional evidence but I suspect you already know OP?

It's often someone close to home.

Do the tops smell like any of your friends' upper thigh?

I know this is random, but a woman I know did just that when her lover was dragging his feet and did not tell his wife he met someone else and was leaving her. They had an affair for a while and he 'was going to tell the wife' only clearly did not. So she deliberately dropped her earring in the bed. Everything went to her plan - a row, separation, etc., until it did not and he got back together with his wife.

Or I just thought (and edited the post) - could it be a rejected woman out of spite doing it or his stupid friends, for a prank?