Husbands food preferences driving me crazy - NEW THREAD

[Jessa85]

NEW THREAD for those following my thread from yesterday!

I will post the update of my conversation with my husband in a second.Original thread

Well done Jessa - I hope the OW has plenty of un-roasted cashews and Horlicks in stock - it's going to be an interesting evening!

Minor, petty things like him having a long-term affair with an OW he plans to take to Dubai with him and divorce the wife he has at the moment have passed you by? Tsk. There's a neat little button to press with "see all" on it, under the OP's posts, which gives you all the posts she has sent to the thread so that you don't miss teeny weeny clues like that....

You are so brave. Well done.

And the fact he slung out "I've got another woman anyway" just shows that he is absolutely not able to self-reflect in any way on his own behaviour, or his own part in why your marriage broke down. Its all about what's in it for him and his own selfish needs, and how he gets what he wants. Wanker.

I can only imagine how grim his night will be - all his stuff jumbled up in his car, nowhere to call home, no contact with his children, with a woman who suddenly has the shine taken off her as she isn't a sordid secret anymore...having to suddenly move in together or find a place of his own, and a heck of a lot less richer than he was yesterday. The weight has been lifted from you and dropped right on him.

Look after yourself and don't feel the need to update until you're ready - its your real life, not our entertainment. Take care xx

What a sorry bastard trying to upset you with news of the affair. I hope they enjoy their nuggets. I hope everything from here on goes in your favour you’re incredibly brave. Time to treat yourself and enjoy life with your family x

I'm glad you dealt with him in the way you did. You are an absolute star. A rest,then some spicy food and wine later with your mum. I felt sad and grieved for the end of my marriage and for the future I wouldn't have, but my life has been generally calm and enjoyable. No badtard to criticise me and bring me down.

WELL DONE TO YOU! I am so proud, you've handled this all so amazingly👏

Been following your threads but haven't commented before

Wow though. You are amazing. Well done for standing up for yourself and your girls and three hoorays for your mum too!

Sending you positive vibes going forward - truly amazing!

You’re an inspiration to women everywhere! So proud of you. Hope you and the girls are doing ok.

I'm in awe, what a strong, resilient person you are op. Well done for how you've handled all this. I've just read both threads right the way through and feel like I've been on a rollercoaster so god knows how you feel. But this is the next hard step, keeping strong against his inevitable retaliation, he will probably with old money etc, use the kids but you'll come out on top. Record every time he refuses to pay towards the children and mortgage (if he does)
I know you said you won't jeopardize just job but you can certainly use the threat of it to make sure he oats child support and continues to when he's in Dubai. If he refuses at any point I'd threaten to publicly tell all on LinkedIn, directly to his employer and on social media including all the dirty receipts. Not many employers will like their employee using a relocation promotion as an excuse to abandon his family and take his bit on the side with him

You have been amazing OP. I wish I had even a little bit of the strength you have shown in these threads. I hope you continue to be strong over the next few weeks, even when the adrenaline starts wearing off. Good luck with everything!

Well done @Jessa85 - you handled it amazingly.
There will be bumps in the road but you will cope & your new life starts now

@Jessa85 did you actually meet him at the airport? where did you hand his keys over? or did he come to the house and not get in? do the divorce papers mention the beige food loving fancy bit? oh to be a fly on the wall for the next few days!

Well done, you bloody hero! 💪👌

There's already a MN heartbreak playlist here: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5zxkMgaI0mKRSm2d2mR7ym?si=SMravkCcRdSuxRtF3hXdXg&pi=VCQdeAodQlKMg

This is not a soap opera.

I am trying to wrap my head around what an empty ballsack this man is! Of course he yelled about his entitlement. Knob. Shows you he had plans for your half of the money and had every intention of leaving you high and dry.
Did he come to your home to get the keys or did you drop them off at the love nest? He must be bricking it knowing that you had time to collect his gear and put it all in the car. (Are you entitled to half the cost of his car too? It could be a marital asset.)

Have been following this, you are an inspiration Jessa85. Really amazing. Thank you for keeping us updated.
I am so pleased your meticulous planning has worked out, such a huge relief. His incredibly massive loss - and the start of your amazing new life with the true loves of your life - your girls.
One day your girls will understand it all and be incredibly proud of you. I am in awe.❤

Wow. I’m in awe. You are incredible. Sending you hugs and strength (not that you need it) for the days ahead.

@Jessa85 I am sure his parents are also going to be disgusted with him, especially when you tell them what he thought of his daughters, their grandchildren. the sun will no longer shine out of his arse!

Well.done @Jessa85 I've been following your threads from the start & I'm in awe of how you've handled yourself. From now on I'm going to call 'marry me' chicken 'divorce him' chicken in your honour!

Please don’t feel obliged to give us the ins and outs of what he said/ you said etc- it’s your life , not Eastenders and it’s probably going to be a bit emotionally tough for a good while. I’m sorry it turned out to be what it was but actually given that he sounded an entitled pain in the arse anyway, even leaving out the lying and infidelity- it may well be all for the best- wishing you well going forward x

Well done @Jessa85 what an utter twunt, I really hope the arse dropped out of his world when he found you'd emptied your half of the savings, I doubt he ever thought you'd dare do that.

Glad he has fucked off elsewhere without attempting to stay in the marital home, that would be a nightmare.

He really couldn't give a shit about anyone but himself could he, I hope your solicitors get every possible penny out of him for you.

Bet the mistress is in shock, not having expected a snarling bad tempered man to pitch up on her doorstep.

You've totally fucked up their plans @Jessa85

@Jessa85

Congratulations, you Star you! You have carried this out with dignity and aplomb. You should write an instruction manual on how to move like a ninja and pounce like a panther.

As far as you not telling him you knew about his affair when you handed him his keys and him then throwing it in your face to 'spite you', he is too stupid to realize that you want the divorce because he is a shit, not because he is a cheat. And that his little chippy is welcome to him, because you certainly don't want him.

And now, yes, rest. And if you suddenly have floods of emotions both good and bad, know that this is perfectly normal. You just have to 'ride the tide' and they'll dissipate. Lean on your mum, breathe deeply, and eat whatever sounds good to you.

There is still work to be done, but it can wait until you've caught your breath.

Peace.

You are amazing! Stay strong. We are all behind you x