Husbands food preferences driving me crazy - NEW THREAD

[Jessa85]

NEW THREAD for those following my thread from yesterday!

I will post the update of my conversation with my husband in a second.Original thread

@Jessa85

what did he say when you confirmed why you moved the money?

Bet he's absolutely fuming right now. Poor wee lamb 😂

Is your solicitor emailing the divorce papers today?

Honestly I would send OW a message just saying your problem now 😘

I need to go get my girls from school, take care everyone. I'm going to take the advice to rest later.

He might have another woman for the time being, but I suspect the shine is going to wear off pretty quick when she's stuck in grey UK with him, all his stuff cluttering up her spare room and nothing but a baked Potato for a romantic dinner for two

Just wow. What a piece of work. I’m so sorry he’s turned out not to be who you would have liked him to be. It’s very hard, you feel like you’re grieving twice over. You’re doing so well.

He was livid, a lot of shouting but I calmly explained I am entitled to do it.

Divorce papers will be emailed hopefully tomorrow, keeping my fingers crossed.

Give your mum a big hug have a glass oh wine and blast tunes so you dance emotions out!
You have done incredibly well and this is the start of a continual process but you are protecting your girls and ultimately you for having and deserving your future happy life. You have all the evidence you need.

Ensure you log all messages etc and ensure you can't be accused of parent alienation.
Would speak to your in laws tomorrow keep to the facts you have filed for divorce they are welcome to see the girls when they like but please respect the boundary that this is not going to change.

He will spin it to everyone and anyone keep cool keep your head and know you are in the right here.

He hasn’t a clue how powerful our @Jessa85 has become.
Probably thinks the details of his sordid life are still locked away and he can go and celebrate with the OW over bowl of ready salted crisps.
Clearly hasn’t even asked after his daughters?
Jessa didn’t need a better job to get a glow up, either.
She has done it with her own strength.
Go and rest. You’ve been amazing!

Re telling you about the OW... he did it in spite, hurtful. Told me he's got another woman anyway.

You took the wind out of his sails, so he struck out. He's a horrible, vile, man who only cares about himself, not his family. Good luck to her (I hope she enjoys her beige food diet!)

You are officially my hero 🙌

Go enjoy your evening in the house of awesome women that your home will now be!

I see he’s doubling down on the asshole behaviour. What a prince.

love everything you are doing @Jessa85 💪

You’re amazing @Jessa85 ❤️. You must have spun that fucker’s head right round! There he was thinking he was in complete control and about to drop a bomb on your life, only to get cleaned out, caught out and sacked off all at once, totally out of the blue, on a day he wasn’t even expecting to see you! It’ll have sent him reeling.

You must be feeling completely wrung out, but hopefully now he’s out of the house and your mum’s here to help you can let go a little bit for a day or two.

It’s not easy when you’re jangling with stress, but try to get some rest. Have some nice food (this is your life now - just eating whatever the hell you like!), bath, movie, snuggle with your girls - whatever will help you feel calm. Hope you manage to get some sleep.

Oh my, so he thought telling you he's got someone else would make things better for him?
Poor Mr Beige Food. I'm almost inclined to feel sorry for him. I did say almost...

The OW is in for a shock when Romeo turns out to be a bitter, angry, controlling arsehole 😂😂

They're in for a lovely evening then 🤣😂

Not your problem now!

Please do rest Jessa, you must be absolutely drained. You have handled this whole situation with so much grace and decorum. He on the other hand has zero qualities and lashed out in such an immature and twatish way re the OW. I don't think their little love bubble will last much longer as now real problems and stress are going to set in taking his mind from her.

Take the time you need to let this sink in. Regardless, you will have some moments of doubt and fear but they will get less with time. Your new normal will take over and you will start to enjoy life again. Give you girls and mum a big cuddle, get some food in you and breathe. You're doing fantastically.

Yay op. I am so so happy for you. You will be so so much happier.

I have been following your thread.
Well done for standing up for yourself and your girls.
I told my husband (he’s a good one) and he said that you should write a book on this.
You’ve handled it so methodically, protecting your finances, emotional health and that of your girls.
Good luck in your future x

Omg well done!! I've been reading your threads silently cheering you on! You've well and truly taken the wind out of his sails!
Look after yourself in the next few days it's going to be tough but surround yourself with people who love you. Good luck with everything!

@Jessa85

I found this thread the other day when you started part two. I went back and read just your posts, and I have to say I have gone through the wringer with emotions just reading it, so one can only imagine how things have been for you.

The strength you have shown is admirable, it's amazing . From your first few posts about his meals, to the realisation that your relationship was coercive at best, down right abusive at worse and the anger, and taking that anger to make your situation better.

The sheer heartbreak to find out about the affair , I cried for you

But you didn't crumble, you got angrier and used that anger as it should be used - to move forward

I will read out till the end, but I will post no more. I wish you and the children nothing but peace and happiness moving on, with your mum and granddad at your side, covering your back you will be grand. Sore, battered and bruised a while, but your strength will return

One last thing, I thank you for posting the unfolding "story" as it happened. Im sure there are more then a few who are reading along and hearing their own alarm bells ringing , maybe they have an idea but are too feared to face them. Hopefully your strength will help someone else

The very very best for the future - YOUR Future, your way xxxx

Been following your thread quietly and curiously. Well done for getting your ducks in a row calmly and taking what is rightfully yours. Get some rest and hug your mum and daughters.

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I hope that amidst the hurt and exhaustion, @Jessa85 👑
you’re also feeling incredibly proud of yourself.

Have you told him about the divorce, or will the papers be the first he hears of it? If so, brace yourself for more abuse. But if you’ve blocked him and have your mum with you, hopefully, you’ll be able to ride that wave too.

I can’t begin to imagine what kind of honey trap you set to get him to admit he was in the UK and agree to meet you—but you are an absolute genius mastermind! I hope he understood how thoroughly he'd been played and how totally he underestimated you.

I know you probably hate him (God knows all of MN does), and the way he treated you was appalling. But he was still your husband, the father of your children, so it’s natural that the affair and the end of your marriage will hurt. You may even find yourself questioning whether you still love him at times. Just keep breathing through that pain—it’s like childbirth; it won’t last forever.

Huge respect for the dignity with which you handled him today and good luck for when you tell your girls.
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The OW is now going to have listen to him ranting and whining on and on instead of having a nice time like she would have been expecting 🤣🤣

Wise move to not say a word about OW.

Far better to hear him lie and squirm about.

Goodness knows what he might say.

Remember you have been a victim of financial and coercive control so all recordings you have mafe are due to you simply trying to protect yourself.

Playing stupid about the affair could suit you very well.

Give him the opportunity to tell more lies etc.

Well played. And he's left you to tell the girls which while cowardly is actually a good thing. I prescribe a takeaway with them and your mum, and when they're in bed, a glass of wine in a nice bath.

@Jessa85 You are amazing, cool, calm and collected. Your strength, poise, timing and delivery were perfection. chef's kiss

Who is drab now Mr Beige Food! Even better that you didn't let on that you knew about the OW, as he knows you left him because he is such an arse, and not that you were a scorned wife.

I genuinely did a little happy dance for you.

Thanks for updating us. Sending you lots of strength 💪