Husbands food preferences driving me crazy - NEW THREAD

[Jessa85]

NEW THREAD for those following my thread from yesterday!

I will post the update of my conversation with my husband in a second.Original thread

I have also read through all the thread and what an inspiration you have become! Have even conveyed the story to my eldest! Such resilience and resourcefulness! I second a vote for PM and running MI5 on the side!
I really hope all is well and the day has gone as planned.
Tentatively awaiting an update. X

Hi It's been an emotional day, I think I've released 10 years of bottled emotions in one go 😢

I followed my plan, I moved the finances (huge relief) around the time he would have landed and within the hour I got a lot of calls and messages which eventually forced his hand to reveal he was back in the UK. Thanks for all the advice on here telling me to deal with it calmly/aloof because you were absolutely right and I think his ego took a huge knock today. I'd never heard of grey rock until here so thank you!

He revealed the affair to me himself, I think in an attempt to gain some control back but it didn't work, I simply handed his car keys over. The divorce papers should reach his email very soon and overall I feel like a weight was lifted.

So glad I have my mum here, I think today has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do. As of this moment, he’s not tried to contact me or my family which I’m relieved about.

Thank you for helping me see the light ❤️

Wow. Your head must be all over the place. Did you tell him you knew? Was he truthful about how long it had been going on.

You have done so well. Be proud of yourself but remember to take it easy. You've been through so much in such a short space of time. I hope he realises and regrets what he has lost x

He doesn't know that I know. I'm exhausted

You are an absolute hero. Blooming well done. I hope your mum spoils you rotten while she's there, you deserve it.

I can imagine that now the adrenaline that has got you through the last few days is going, that you will now start to feel a lot more emotional and on a bit of a come down. Be kind to yourself. You have handled this brilliantly.

Oh @Jessa85, I'm so glad the first part is over and you got through it ok. Now all of your hard work and research will pay off as the solicitor gets into action, and you can try to relax a bit. Thank goodness your mother is there.

Well Done @Jessa85

I know people on here will be wanting the ins and outs of what happened today, but the important thing right now is you take care of yourself and your girls.

The next little while is going to be stressful, and rocky, and littered with self doubt, and questions with no answers.

The important thing to remember is no matter how hard the next few weeks and months feel, that light at the end of the tunnel, when you're finally free, and you and your girls can live a life free of him and his bullshit, is worth EVERY fucking moment.

I'm 8 years out, and i remember being where you are and wondering if i could do it, and i'm here now, free, happy, with happy teenagers, and life is good.

You can do this, keep your chin up.

Oh OP - you are a hero indeed. Please take a rest and look after yourself ❤️

I hope you eventually get some sleep. Be kind to yourself.
Now that you have done that, the crash may come.
Sending you strength.
So sorry this is happening to you.

@Jessa85 "He revealed the affair to me himself"

What did he say?

Well done. The relief must be overwhelming. You have nothing to fear now.

Did you keep hold of the iPad? I imagine he will tell OW he has left you, rather than admit you dumped him for being a cockwomble.

He must be so bruised by your lack of reaction to his affair “bombshell”

Well done! Get lots of rest, listen to audio books or a podcast to get a break if your thoughts start whirring round your head. And eat delicious varying food!!

@Jessa85 I’m so glad you’re ok, take all the time you need and only communicate with him on your terms and when you’re ready. You’ve been incredibly strong 💪.

I'm fifteen years on the other side of a similar situation.

There will be tough moments ahead, especially while the children are young, but every single tough time will get you a step closer to an authentic and entirely free life.

You deserve that, you absolute legend.

@LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta he did it in spite, hurtful. Told me he's got another woman anyway. I didn't let on that I knew.

@Bluenotgreen he hasn't figured out the ipad yet, it's still in my possession

🧡❤️🧡❤️🧡❤️🧡🧡❤️
Well done 👏

Well done! You are amazing, what a good plan you had! Wishing you and your dear daughters lots of happy, now you are free. 😘🌺

Well done! Handled it like a champ. Next job on your to do list is to make a breakup play list! Something you can stick on and sing your heart out to when you’re feeling wobbly. Think destiny’s child survivor, I will survive, since u been gone etc

you are an absolute inspiration

I just have to say Well Done! I've admired the level-headed way you've approached all of this and never stooped to the (completely understandable) temptation to get revenge. You're bound to be tired now. Try to relax and sit back for a bit. You deserve a rest - and a huge pat on the back.

Bloody well done, you lovely people treat yourselves to a pizza, popcorn and movie night, and maybe a glass of wine or two, proud moment op, 👏👏👏👏👏

You’ve been so strong @Jessa85.
well done. It’s really not surprising you’re completely and utterly exhausted.
I hope you can have a sleep on the sofa or rest listen to audio books and eat whatever you want. Am so glad your mum is with you ❤️
its not going to be easy but you’re incredible and he is the one who has lost so much.
As others have said, let solicitors do their work now and do some things for you and your girls and rest up xxx

Well done, Jessa! We are all sending you strength and our shoulders to cry/lean on, we’re so very proud of and in awe of you ❤️

Mr Beige Food can feck off with his chicken nuggets and OW, you can hold your head up high knowing you’re an amazing person and mum.