My boyfriend said my vagina scares him ??

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I feel really upset over this and it’s stupid I know . But basically I’ve had three babies ( including one with said partner ) I’ve suffered from terrible self confidence issues regarding my lady part ( have a slight prolapse and obviously it’s changed a lot since births etc like no matter how much I do pelvic floors it makes no difference) so I feel like it’s horrible and there’s not much I can do about it , HE KNOWS all this . Anyway while I was in hospital last week my partner out of nowhere just said “ my vagina scares him !??” What the hell does that mean ? He wouldn’t elaborate just said it’s MEATY !?? Wtf . I’m now really annoyed to the point I don’t even want him to touch me now . AIBU ???

I dont disagree with you. It's unkind and upsetting but I'm assuming that the OP has asked for an explanation as to the lack of intimacy. He's been honest in what he said. Dont ask a question if you don't want a truthful answer. Surely rather than LTB it's worth having a conversation first.

leave him

Get rid of him and his abnormally large, weird penis.

He is a grim weasel.

Everyone's standards and expectations in a relationship are at different levels. This goes without saying, but the choice of words op's partner has used is deeply disrespectful to the mother of his child. This is something that would be completely beneath me quite honestly, I couldn't have a relationship with this kind of childish ignorant person, if I was the op. Honesty would be concern over op's prolapse, maybe helping her to get that fixed, not insulting her vagina, which is neither productive or kind, with no goal other than to cause shame and hurt.

I get that. And I'm not excusing it. But the alternative is that he lies in order to save OPs feelings, and not much good ever comes of that either.

Neither does being bluntly truthful about something so personal, and which OP can’t change.

Tell him to research ‘vagina dentata’. That should shut him up for good!

Fair enough. I understand he could of been more gentle but at least she knows the truth now. I'd always rather that than have someone lie to spare my feelings.

What a child he is. He would never see mine again after a comment like that.

I’m now really annoyed to the point I don’t even want him to touch me now .

Good. This is a very healthy reaction to his nonsense.

Last week he just went off sex for a while I tried to turn him on

This is less wise. The thing about self confidence is that, as adults, we build it by being kind to ourselves, by treating ourselves well. We often misunderstand and think we need to have strong self confidence to treat ourselves well it really works the other way round.

Treat yourself well and your life will start to get better as your self confidence grows. Don't put up with people who treat you badly.

If you don't quite believe me, Try it and see. Treat yourself well, like a person who deserves respect. You have got this. Well done.

Very immature of him. I would definitely reconsider your relationship with him. Have you been to the doctors regarding the prolapse? You can been seen by physio and if that doesn’t work there is always surgery.

Agreed, it's a jerky comment.

Im Confused as to why a post about OPs vagina made you search her previous posts.

What? I didn't search her previous posts. I only read her other thread today so I recognised the username.

I haven't looked it up but is that a fanny with teeth?

What a child. Scares him my arse. He's clearly had no life experience if this scares him. But I also think he's planning to leave.

He would get to even breathe the same air as me again after this.

If he recognized that he was no longer attracted to her he simply could have ended the relationship. He didn't have to make a negative comment about a part of her body that he know she knows he knows that she is self-conscious about. Honesty without tact is cruelty. That's exactly what this was.

FFS.......he needs a lesson in anatomy and physiology PLUS he needs to be familiar with actually how babies are born.

Just dump the immature fucker already. I bet he’s nowhere near as attractive as you think, that type always show their vile personality through their faces.

Leave him to his “large” cock and porn whilst he stays with his dying dad and doesn’t look after his own family 🙄

Yes, tell him this is what will happen, should he ever try to enter it again! 😂

How many kids do you have?

Your other thread said nothing about a partner to help out?

Yes, he sounds like a huge bellend.

If my husband ever said anything like that to me he would never be scared again.

Well most of us older mums have a labia that looks like a kebab, been chucked out a high rise window then run over.
If your p doesn't understand what a womans body goes through, throughout the years, he's not for you honey. Get rid, he sounds very immature.

But they have a child together. Is he financially supporting you as a family?
I agree that his comments are insensitive but perhaps he needs to reflect and apologise and give the relationship a chance.

Shame he can’t keep his opinions on your vagina ‘extremely private’.

The more you say about him, the more he sounds like a complete arsehole. Honestly, ditch him. He’s a child.