My boyfriend said my vagina scares him ??

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I feel really upset over this and it’s stupid I know . But basically I’ve had three babies ( including one with said partner ) I’ve suffered from terrible self confidence issues regarding my lady part ( have a slight prolapse and obviously it’s changed a lot since births etc like no matter how much I do pelvic floors it makes no difference) so I feel like it’s horrible and there’s not much I can do about it , HE KNOWS all this . Anyway while I was in hospital last week my partner out of nowhere just said “ my vagina scares him !??” What the hell does that mean ? He wouldn’t elaborate just said it’s MEATY !?? Wtf . I’m now really annoyed to the point I don’t even want him to touch me now . AIBU ???

He always says he doesn’t watch porn 😂 like yeah right

Ok well he can just look after his sick father, as he needs to, and leave you alone - good time for a very long break eh? You can just co-parent and be civil to each other. Surely there's no actual love there! And dont listen to anyone who tells you he said it because he's under stress wrt sick dad. Most people who have a loved one dying of cancer get snappy or tearful, they don't start telling their partner they have a "meaty" scary vagina FFS. Disgusting way to speak to you.

Feel like he's trying to get you to end things in all honesty.

Why don’t you believe he doesn’t watch porn if he tells you he doesn’t? Do you generally trust him, or has he lied to you before?

What made you both decide to have a child together? How well does he get on with your other children? I take it has lived with you in the past, but has just moved out to look after his father, that must be very stressful for you both. Are you sure he’s not just scared of hurting you, especially with his dad dying, his emotions must be all over the place.

Just say his comment has got you thinking.. And say tbh bf your penis isn't up to scratch either.. And ltb...

That is something that you wouldn't even expect an adolescent to come out with never mind a grown man and father of one of the children you have given birth to. It is massively insensitive and insulting and I'm not sure why he would say it. I would not feel comfortable have sex with him ever again and I would be completely re-thinking the relationship.

I personally wouldn't ever have sex with someone ever again if they said that.
It's misogynistic, repulsive, disrespectful and massively immature.
Tell him to fuck right off. Permanently.

Ex boyfriend I hope. If not now then later today.

You’ve had 3 children and your vagina is no longer perfect. I suggest he finds someone without children if that’s what matters to him.

You’re better off without him.

Next time he gets his cock out point and laugh.
That'll teach the pathetic lump.

I would imagine most men use porn despite what people think. Despite this most men would have the maturity and cop on not to make such a horrible hurtful comment to their partner. As someone has said previously he must not have much experience with women’s bodies in real life. I actually don’t know how I could forgive a comment like that. So insulting and shows such a lack of respect and empathy.

I imagine that his penis is somewhat lacking and rather address his own embarrassment about his little acorn he would rather you believe that you have a problem with your vagina.

This atrocious and deeply unkind comment cannot be unsaid and I would be dropping him like a hot potato.

Book him in to visit the Vagina Museum in Shoreditch. They have a whole wall of photographs of different labias he can look at so he can be desensitized.

I would find that comment very upsetting.

'Meaty' indeed.

So is his head.

Is he financially supporting you even though you are living separately?

Sounds like he's trying to project his own inadequacies on to you. Or he's at least partly gay and in denial. Or he's just rubbish with his knob.

Whatever, it'd be terminal ick for me. Don't let it get to you. Personally I'd dump the weirdo.

Is he secretly gay....
If he is I can understand his comment,and the relationship would be over .
If he isn't gay
Relationship still over , because he wouldn't be getting near my vagina again .

Meaty? What does he expect it to be made of, lambswool?

Honestly just dump him, this is the kind of stupid shit that comes out of the mouths of teenagers who've never actually seen a real life vagina or vulva, not grown ass men who have children for god's sake!

Well you wouldn't want to scare the delicate little soul, so best he never gets to visit it again then. If he isn't ready for an adult woman with her perfectly imperfect vagina, that brought his child into the world, then that's his problem. There are plenty of surgically enhanced fannies online - he can spend the rest of his life with those and his hand.
Your vagina is fabulous, enjoy it without the disappointing man!

He's probably watched too much porn where all the porn stars have had them surgically enhanced and bleached. An impossible standard for the rest of us.
Ask him if he's really gay.

You had three children: you are a frikin goddess, that's what you are. He is pathetic, a nobody. Pity him.

I do feel that, at a totally unconscious level, he senses his lack of worth, as the "fear of the vagina" is a powerful fear throughout history and let me tell you: nothing good has ever came of men fearing vaginas. I agree with pps: dump him where he belongs.

Take care and treat yourself as you deserve 💐🙏

Not sticking up for him at all. I am however suggesting that hospitals, stressful environments, added pressure does make people say stupid things.

Meaty!? Tell him you had a nightmare where his bits went green camo and hunted you through the forest and you're scared of it now.

What an idiot. Tell him you worry about his wonky knob!

Sounds like he is being a twat! (No pun intended!)

I'm so sick of these arseholes on MN. You couldn't make this shit up. Surely this can't be out of the blue? He's obviously a complete spanner.