My boyfriend said my vagina scares him ??

[Meeemeee88]

I feel really upset over this and it’s stupid I know . But basically I’ve had three babies ( including one with said partner ) I’ve suffered from terrible self confidence issues regarding my lady part ( have a slight prolapse and obviously it’s changed a lot since births etc like no matter how much I do pelvic floors it makes no difference) so I feel like it’s horrible and there’s not much I can do about it , HE KNOWS all this . Anyway while I was in hospital last week my partner out of nowhere just said “ my vagina scares him !??” What the hell does that mean ? He wouldn’t elaborate just said it’s MEATY !?? Wtf . I’m now really annoyed to the point I don’t even want him to touch me now . AIBU ???

Like a knobbly gherkin?

PS OP, I think you're a goddess too! Three children? You're a superhero.

What an absolute twat. Sorry youbhave such a low life in your world @Meeemeee88

I'd be sorely tempted to make some jibe along the lines of "that's rich coming from someone with a dick like...ohh nevermind' and refuse to discuss and see how he likes it.

Either way, I am afraid your relationship is over. You are never going to be able to put this out of your mind, or forgive him.

Hi XXX

I've been thinking about your comment regarding my vulva and have come to the conclusion that I cannot stay with you.

It's quite possibly the most revolting and immature thing anyone has ever said to me, and whilst it does make me realise that your knowledge of the female anatomy must be based on the aesthetically modified and unrealistic depictions seen in porn rather than real life experience, I cannot allow your lack of experience and knowledge be an excuse for a cruel and ignorant insult delivered to the mother of your own child.

I wish you luck in your quest for a Barbie style fanny but will just caution you to remember not to impregnate anyone else if you don't want the magic spell to be broken. And fwiw, your willy - though reasonably generous in size - could do with a few lessons in restraint and patience.

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Dump immediately.

Ridiculous. I would FEEL like saying to him out loud so everybody could hear "well your micropenis isn't exactly heaven!".
But I wouldn't because I have experience of how boys react when I crit their little friends!

I think what I would do is ask him where that came from, and deny him access to it.

I agree with this. Dump, get child support. Be wary of the cost of raising his child on your ability to contribute to things like private pensions and ensure he does his part too.

He's being an absolute arsehole. Just because he's good looking doesn't give him the right to treat you like that, OP. His face is just what the genetic lottery dealt him but his behaviour is much more telling.

Unless there's some big drip feed and there's a big birth trauma that he witnessed and is struggling with. Not that it excuses his hurtful approach and rude attitude but it may make it easier to understand and work around. Especially if he's finding it hard to manage his stress at the moment as the sole carer for his dying father.

You know him, OP. Is he a blunt, rude arsehole looking to hurt you or is there more going on?

So your vagina via which his child was conceived and delivered is not up to the quality standard of this whingeing man? Good grief, I wish men gave birth, apart from the fact that we would never hear the end of it and the human race would probably die out. I feel outraged on the OP's behalf, what a hurtful and hateful thing to say.

Sounds like he was the attractive kid at school who never needed to develop a decent personality to be popular. You can get away with that at 18, but by 33 you're a parent calling a vagina scary because it's doesn't look like the ones on pornhub.

Yes, this 100%.

Vagina Dentata, the ultimate male horror. Sorry, I doubt he'll improve, OP, get ready to upscale without him.

I suspect he may be trying to get you to dump him, or worse, destroy your self esteem so you’ll put up with whatever nonsense he’s up to.

By your account he is good-looking with a massive wang and has slept with a bevy of local goddesses who all had fannies like mouse ears. Good of him to overcome his fears long enough to create another human being with lucky you. Wow. Tbh I find men who criticise women’s genitalia are either ignorant or deeply insecure.

For me there would be no coming back. My vagina has had a similarly tough paper-round and I wouldn’t contemplate a man who viewed me with anything less than delight. I would call him a cunt but that’d be an insult to cunts.

I think this should spell the beginning of the end with this loser.

Ok, I’m not saying DONT leave the bastard but…is it possible that he was trying to say that given the prolapse he’s scared about hurting you and spectacularly fumbled the wording? If everything else has been fine but new baby and dying father has added a load of pressure and stress I might be able to move past it after discussions with each other and possibly therapy on his part.

But if he’s basically always been a total manchild that makes comments like this it would be game over.

This isn’t necessarily a porn thing but equally it could be. Only you know him well enough to make that call.

Eh? Are we superheroes and goddesses now for having kids?

Yes but I just wanted to tell her in my own way that I think she's amazing. Is that not ok? :(

He is so gross I just got instant heartburn. You should probably look into having your prolapse assessed for your own sake though.

No he is a large penis! LTB

yeah I wouldn't do it personally.

I’m sorry OP I don’t think I’d be able to get past this either, I’d certainly never feel comfortable or confident enough to be intimate with him again. I had an episiotomy and a tear last year when I gave birth to my daughter, I’m well aware my vagina probably looks like something from Frankenstein now and I highly doubt it “feels” the same as it did pre-baby, still my husband would honestly never ever make a comment like this.

What's his IQ?

If he's calling it "meaty" perhaps he's confused the words "vagina" and "vegan" 😁

He is a very large penis.

I cannot imagine my H ever seeking to body shame or demean me like this. Especially not about something he knew I was sensitive about. Especially after I had given birth to his child. It’s just unthinkable.

Who are these despicable and utterly lacking men?

Years ago if there was a natural tear when giving birth, they used to sew the tear and make it 'smaller'..the so called ''Husband's stitches''..Have no idea if this is true or myth.
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