HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

Seriously??? After all the advice you got given on your other thread??

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5160052-in-love-with-a-streamer?page=17&reply=141193087

No i don't gift now like i did i just enjoy watching streams im not stuck on to it anymore. Just wondered why maybe i wasn't invited and just assumed that i couldn't go without asking. There all looking forward to it etc sounds fun just felt maybe he prefers the others for company etc i don't know

Does it really matter?

Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this an excuse that he didn't want me going.

Who knows 🤷‍♀️

I suspect either:

A) He didn't want you there and is weirded out by you getting to know everyone in his life; or

B) He got mixed up, but he still only is interested in getting gifts from you because he is a streamer and that's what streamers do.

Either way, this doesn't sound healthy and you'd be better off without him in your life.

Or he hasn't invited you because you are not gifting as much anymore. Either way, get rid of him.

He said he'd plan something my way etc for another time. These are all people from his live see viewers amd om also a viewer to so it seems wierd i wasn't asked even if it was me to then say i couldn't make it etc

Oh darling. I remember your other thread as it was a brand new concept to me.

Had never heard of people giving money to streamers before.

You were given so much advice on that thread the best being "BLOCK AND DELETE".

He isn't and was never your friend, he a grifter only after money from you. If you're no longer giving him money, he's absolutely not going to be interested in meeting with you.

Please reread your other thread.

Do something better with your time and have some respect for yourself. Get out into the real world and meet some actual people who live near to you you can build face to face actual relationships with.

Please block and delete this man.

I saw on your other thread that you came out of an abusive relationship. I can tell you from experience that you need to focus on yourself and heal.

I found the Freedom Programme really helpful..

The other people hes invited don't gift much tho either i just found it a bit strange like we speak alot on phone and he says he frrls gutted i live far but i wasn't givin the chance to reply i couldn't make it i mean i could of got transport for all he knew

Please no! You're still speaking to him, even after your last thread.

He's a scammer!

You don't gift now like you did. Does that mean you are still gifting little bits?
Or you haven't gifted since December?

He is playing you. Unless you pay him you aren't invited.

You are still being scammed. Block, delete and find a new box set to binge.

Oh dear.

You are being played
HE’S NOT INTO YOU

I think you need some help on this. You cannot get a proper relationship based on gifting someone who streams.

I suspect neurodiversity in you and that you have been gullible in the naivety of thinking you can ever get anything more than this.

STOP engaging with them. They just want your money.

I can’t believe it still hasn’t sunk in, but:

you are being groomed and scammed for money

you do not have a personal relationship with this person, regardless of how it feels - you could be anyone with a working payment card

all he wants from you is money, and every interaction is designed to make you more inclined to give, and give more

you need to stop engaging in this activity entirely.

im starting to think its not the gifts its me, because he's offered ppl who have only gifted tiny and not at all i think its just me tbh

I like him as a friend im not in to him like that anymore as I've been chatting to local ppl. This is now more where I've made female friends to in the stream its not about the liking him now that's dead ajd berried its more of the interaction i have with the female to

And found it bizarre he's invited the people that we all chat to but not me it would of been nice to meet the others also its a group meet not just him see

HE IS MANIPULATING YOU - he doesn’t care or even think about who you are as a person, you are just a bank, or potential bank, to him. Please will you seek help from someone in real life about this? Even Citizens’ Advice if you don’t have anyone close to you. I don’t know what will make you see the truth but it needs to happen quickly. This wavering you’re doing now is exactly what he is trying to make you feel.

Please step away from all of that.

Its a group of us who chat its not me liking him in that way as I've grown to get to know his other viewers but only i wasn't asked or was just told I'm to far

You need to seek out help.

He isn't your friend. Seriously just stop engaging with him, you're wasting your life and your money.

Op, please don't engage with any of the chat, with him directly or the group of women/fans online. It's not healthy. Please seek help. I mean that kindly.

You're not listening to anyone and just looking for reasons in each post. You need to get help with this.

The group of ppl though are the same as me just viewers and a few streamers there'self's we all get on together. I just found it odd as he speaks to the others on the same length he speaks to me or maybe it is generally i live to far