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HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 05:36

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

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MileyPsoriasis · 21/01/2025 07:16

OP, you have developed a very unhealthy obsession over this.
You need to stop it before you find yourself in real trouble for stalking and harassment. What impact will that have if you have a child to care for?

He doesn't want you. He doesn't want you there because your behaviour has become disturbing and unreasonable.

I feel that you're vulnerable because of your past and that is a shame but you need help with your mental health and must seek it from a professional.

SwerveCity · 21/01/2025 07:16

He didn’t invite you because he doesn’t want you there. Don’t turn up uninvited. That’s just weird.

WarriorN · 21/01/2025 07:16

He sounds like he's running a cult. It's all cult like tactics

You need to be de programmed

DreamTheMoors · 21/01/2025 07:17

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:15

Nooo i can't get there lol but wondered what he would say

He’d say

STOP STALKING ME!!!!!

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:18

I did say id gift in 2 weeks as get paid but guarentted he'll phone me towards then im not gonna answer and just stick to chatting with the girls in the stream. I like people who ar straight down the line and not make excuses tell me how it is and not make excuses. He told me not to block him when i said im leaving all the Internet scene

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Chocachocalatte · 21/01/2025 07:18

With respect, have you actually read any of the very helpful comments and do you plan on taking up any of the useful productive life-changing, positive, confidence-building advice offered?

ImAnAutum · 21/01/2025 07:19

He would probably shit himself and cancel because he is probably scared of you in real life. There is absolutely no way you can be like this and also have the sense/intelligence/emotional maturity to be a good mother to. Absolutely none. Get a job, get medicated, get counselling, get off the Internet. Honestly I don't know what other way to say it.

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:19

He talks bad about one of them and he stil invited her she's always pestering him to meet up and even stopepd gifting him but she's invited she stalks him phones him asks to meet 24/7 somethin doesn't add up

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GanninHyem · 21/01/2025 07:20

The parasocial relationships people have with streamers are wild.

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:20

I actually think hes more scared that im screwed on and will know his game more than anything to be honest because im so straight down the line with everything i don't think its fear of me being full on just fear ill know his game

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andyouwillknowusbythetrailofdead · 21/01/2025 07:21

He doesn't like you, that's why he hasn't invited you.

Why do you bother posting on here? You never pay attention to anyone's answers.

andyouwillknowusbythetrailofdead · 21/01/2025 07:21

Just walk away.

SomeOtherUser · 21/01/2025 07:22

It sounds like you're experiencing limerence: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

I've experienced this (albeit in milder forms) so I know how it can trick you into thinking that you have a connection with someone when you actually don't. I too agree that you should seek contact with real humans without a transactional element attached, and also find a professional to talk to if you can.

Limerence - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

BlondeMamaToBe · 21/01/2025 07:24

Stop wasting your time and money. You’re very silly to be gifting money to anyone who streams as they don’t care about their gifters, they just want your cash.

NotISaidTheCat · 21/01/2025 07:24

I guess I'm old, but I can't imagine what on earth is even remotely entertaining about watching someone else play video games.

Aside from that, OP -- you do realise that he's probably already in a relationship, and just pretends to be single to get money out of gullible, lonely women? This is starting to read like a wind-up and I hope for your sake it is.

HeffalumpsAndWoozlesAreHoneyRobbingTwats · 21/01/2025 07:24

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:20

I actually think hes more scared that im screwed on and will know his game more than anything to be honest because im so straight down the line with everything i don't think its fear of me being full on just fear ill know his game

Screwed on to what?

If you like people who talk straight down the line, we must all be your best friends by now.

ImAnAutum · 21/01/2025 07:25

@Flowercandy there is not one thing about you that is screwed on. You can't possibly read everything everyone here has said, and believe that.

dawngreen · 21/01/2025 07:26

Join a dating site or go on a blind date. Spend money on dating in the real world. At least you would get to meet them, and chat. I think you feel safe chatting to him, and you need to talk to some one about how to move on in life. I watch streamers from games I like to play, but I never pay money to them.

onwardsup4 · 21/01/2025 07:27

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:20

I actually think hes more scared that im screwed on and will know his game more than anything to be honest because im so straight down the line with everything i don't think its fear of me being full on just fear ill know his game

Why do want to go and why are you bothering with any of it then? If what you say is the case then maybe you are listening to what we're all telling you?
Either way forget about him

NestaArcheron · 21/01/2025 07:27

Streaming and content creation is literally what they're doing for work - he isn't friends with any of you. You're his followers. He doesn't want you to go, you aren't friends and you are obsessive. You need to stop. You don't know this person, get off the stream and seek some help. This is not normal behaviour and you simply aren't listening.

AndThereSheGoes · 21/01/2025 07:29

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:20

I actually think hes more scared that im screwed on and will know his game more than anything to be honest because im so straight down the line with everything i don't think its fear of me being full on just fear ill know his game

Ok. Maybe he knows you've worked him out. Maybe you know him better than all the other girl's.

But so what? The relationship or friendship is pointless is he doesn't RETURN the feeling. He doesn't see you as a friend ( or anything else).

That's his right by the way.

Its not a bad thing. Most of us have fallen out or picked the wrong people to like. Now you know he's not a fan of yours you can step away and find a decent group of friends.

Ihopeithinkiknow · 21/01/2025 07:29

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 07:18

I did say id gift in 2 weeks as get paid but guarentted he'll phone me towards then im not gonna answer and just stick to chatting with the girls in the stream. I like people who ar straight down the line and not make excuses tell me how it is and not make excuses. He told me not to block him when i said im leaving all the Internet scene

I don't know how much more every single poster on here could be more straight down the line than they are but it's still not going in

Bestfootforward11 · 21/01/2025 07:30

Hello. Just to say, you’re giving a lot of headspace to work out what was in his mind but this is impossible to do. You are turning this on yourself and thinking it must be because he doesn’t like you. I think you are mistaking interactions with him and his other viewers as friendship. What the streamer is doing is his self-appointed ‘job’ which he hopes ends up with him getting gifts. So all interactions whether online or in person are hoped to result in him getting something.
I think you need to stop this and think about why you are devoting so much headspace to this streamer. What is it you are looking for? Similarly with the viewers you mention. Speaking to them and forming a friendship is not the same thing. I don’t know much about your life but I’d aim for using the computer less and thinking about other things you could do to meet people. Best wishes.

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 21/01/2025 07:30

Hes a tiny male escort. This is his JOB.

Stop "gifting" him things ans stop "watching" him.

Get out in the real world,live your life and save your money or spend it on yourself.

I cant even handle how dystopian and messed up both your threads are.

You dont know him. He doesnt know you.
He is not a good person.

mnat · 21/01/2025 07:30

I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

That's the bit you found weird?

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