HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

Maybe he's trying the 'friend' approach to get then gifting

1. This is NOT a friendship. He's grooming you and PRETENDING to be bothered about you when he chats to you. Friends don't manipulate money out of single mothers who can't afford food.
2. He's said he hasn't invited everyone because he has some odd followers. He then invited everyone apart from you. Join the dots!!
3. Don't use his other followers as a yardstick of what value he places on you. They are not your friends either. You need dialog, interaction and communication with REAL LIFE PEOPLE you can spend time with and see IN REAL LIFE. Do you have any community centres that hold chatty cafe type events? Could you volunteer and get involved in anything? Can you ask your GP for referral to a social prescriber/link worker.

I'm repeating No.1 again....HE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND!!

Do you work? You say you have a son? I'm getting an image of someone lonely spending their days getting in touch with people online who are taking advantage, I'm sorry if this is wrong.

If you don't work I think this would be a much better focus to get a job and a better standard of living for you and your son.

He isn't your friend.
He isn't your friend.
He isn't your friend.

Come on love, why on earth do you think this scamming scumbag is your friend?

Do you interact with him in the same way as you do on this forum? I ask this because it's rather intense and repetitive, and you don't seem to listen to or consider anything anybody says to you. He/they might be concerned about how you'd behave in a face-to-face setting.

Maybe he just doesn’t like you 🤷🏻‍♀️

its a fact in this world, not everybody will like you. It’s taken me ages to accept this and not care about it. I used to try to pander to people and adapt myself to make myself likeable to them. Now I don’t give a shit because I don’t have the time nor mental bandwidth to try and mind read what people want from me. I wear/say/act/do what I want and if they don’t like it, fine. (Within reason obviously! I am not talking about being a massive twat. I just mean not fretting about if I say the right thing or which trainers to buy etc) but if they don’t like me then that’s that, it’s not a relationship to invest it. I’ll find my tribe elsewhere.

i certainly don’t like everybody! I bet you don’t either.

keep watching the lives, why not. It’s entertainment. But taper off your interactions. Find something else to fill the space - there will be other people. Other lives, other events. Hobbies. A new tribe.

He's not your friend
Delete the app where you watch him
Stop spending money you don't have on this rubbish

OP, you aren't listening to a thing anyone is saying. You are just obsessively steamrollering on saying the same things over and over. There is no chance that you are acting 'normal' towards this grifter. He knows you and the other women are all vulnerable by virtue of the fact that you are following him and gifting him in the first place, but you have obviously pushed it so far that you have even weirded an online scammer out.

Unicornsandprincesses i like that vibe yeah i shouldn't care really i just felt it bit weird. I don't act like this to him at all tje others r all jumping round him etc mayhem i don't given enough out there vibes im the oppersite to what i am on here tbh

I don't know why some posters are calling him a scammer tbh he isn't deliberately deciding to scam money by being deceitful like a scammer does.
I don't get the hype with streamers either and I can't see myself giving anyone money for playing a video game or whatever else these streamers do but it is something a lot of people make an income doing.

Are you trying to stalk him or something?

He is a scammer but your behaviour is unhealthy. Focus on the other things in your life op.

Do you think he think you're getting a bit too intense/involved ? The fact you've started a thread here about it suggests you are. I don't think it matters what his reasons are he didn't invite you. I think you need to put your energy into something more worthy of your time.

Noo i hardly bother with him tbh i just like the vibes in his live with everyone. I rarely answer the phone when he calls when he's not streaming its genuinely i felt bit left out with the circle of friends etc

Op, he doesn’t want you to come. You aren’t a close friend. He creates content for you to view and you are a viewer of his content.

Gifting doesn’t entitle you to anything. Having feelings for him doesn’t entitle you do anything.

He isn’t scamming anyone that we know. It doesn’t appear he is lying to get gifts. I hate the idea of gifting. Because so many people like you, do it because it gains you greater access to someone. It’s a really unhealthy dynamic to be in. For both sides.

You need to take some steps to remove yourself from these interactions and this view of a relationship with him

The invite more than anything i fort why wouldn't he want me to go i don't act luke obsessed i don't even answer his normal calls i just liek the way we all get on in his live

You can't buy friendship with money. If you have to keep paying him for him to be your friend, he's not really your friend. He's more like, a servant you are paying to entertain you. From your previous thread, you can't afford it easily. You've got to delete that app.

How often do you talk to 'everyone' else? In the group and individually? If you aren't bothering with him directly, why would be think to invite you?

Because he's the one setting it up and we all know each other from him

I never knew this was a thing! And if I found out either of my adult children were doing this, I'd be worried about their MH.
He's not your friend. The other gifters aren't your friends. They're just people on the internet.
I can see that countless people have told you to block him and get back to the real world. I think you should listen to them.

He ddi it was ashame he couldn't invite me cuz i live far but i wasn't givin the opportunity to even say that

I’ve never heard of giving money to streamers. Why would you do that? Completely bizarre.

What on earth is a streamer in this context? I thought streaming services were things like Netflix.

He doesn't like you, or any of his other followers. You're all just a job to him. He turns up, entertains, and gets paid.

Just like, a comedian isn't friends with his audience. Or a footballer isn't friends with supporters. They're good at their job, they enjoy it, but the fans are just the paying customers, not friends

He didn't invite you because he doesn't like you. That is why your not invited. He doesn't like you and your not his friend. It is not real life. I would hazard a guess neither him, you or the majority of others in that group even work. Please just be a mother and focus on your child and your own mental health. I'd say deep down, he's probably a bit afraid of you. I don't even know you or have read the other thread, and I'm already feeling the same way. You desperately need some mental health support. Absolutely none of this is normal.

Oh god @Flowercandy CAN YOU HEAR ANYONE?

Your obsessive behaviour and intense fixation is slightly terrifying. I’m not saying you’re a danger to him, you’re a danger to yourself. This is so incredibly unhealthy and damaging. Stop it all. You won’t but you need to.