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HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 05:36

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

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PickledPurplePickle · 21/01/2025 06:24

Please contact The Cyber Helpline and ask them for some advice on this situation

This is not safe for you

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:25

We are all friends etc that's what made 4me feel bit left out as there all the same as me just viewers

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Tiddlywinkly · 21/01/2025 06:25

I give up, you're not listening. Step away from that group. Please.

HS1990 · 21/01/2025 06:25

I'm amazed you are ignoring all the advice here. Are you that oblivious?

Hes playing you. Get a grip!

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:26

Im not in to him like that no more it's more of the friendship we've all built even the viewers same as me they got invited but not me

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Rachmorr57 · 21/01/2025 06:27

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:27

But why has he invited ones that don't gift that makes no sence

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SheWasPureSound · 21/01/2025 06:28

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:26

Im not in to him like that no more it's more of the friendship we've all built even the viewers same as me they got invited but not me

You’re not friends with him. Streaming is his income. Parasocial is the word.

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:29

People are saying its gifts but im not gifting now neither are the people hes invited so how does it work that' its about gifts its probably just me he doesn't want going

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Ihopeithinkiknow · 21/01/2025 06:29

PickledPurplePickle · 21/01/2025 06:24

Please contact The Cyber Helpline and ask them for some advice on this situation

This is not safe for you

I do get where you are coming from here but surely him not inviting her is the opposite of her safety being at risk, sounds like he is trying to hint that he isn't interested but is too polite to block her because it does look like the OP doesn't hear what people are saying and is maybe a bit full on.
I do think the OP should block him though and stop giving randoms money on the internet

66babe · 21/01/2025 06:29

@Flowercandy I say this with kindness

This is a stranger taking advantage of you and any other who will give them money

You have a child and are wasting money on this scammer

Delete , block delete and turn off the WiFi for a while .

Listen to what people are telling you , stop asking questions that matter not a jot

TravellingTartan · 21/01/2025 06:29

HE'S NOT YOUR FRIEND

I'm going to have to walk away from this thread now. OP please talk to real life friends or have they given up trying to f to make you see sense?

HeffalumpsAndWoozlesAreHoneyRobbingTwats · 21/01/2025 06:30

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:15

I like him as a friend im not in to him like that anymore as I've been chatting to local ppl. This is now more where I've made female friends to in the stream its not about the liking him now that's dead ajd berried its more of the interaction i have with the female to

That just isn't true. You wouldn't be so obsessed with this if you only considered him to be a friend. You're hyper-focused on the females in this stream because you consider them to be your competition, not because you value their friendship. Please get some help with this, it isn't healthy. It's consuming you.

Hopper123 · 21/01/2025 06:30

With kindness you need to step away from a virtual online world and attempt to meet people around you, do you have friends around you which are not online? Are you leaving the house or spending all your time online? This is not to slate you it's a genuine concern, and so much evidence to suggest that too much online and not enough in person socialisation is bad for our mental health. You are beginning to doubt yourself, to try to find something 'wrong' with you because somebody you have never met in real life has snubbed you you are not in a healthy position and I'd encourage you to start a journey of healing amd empowering yourself by switching off the livestream chat and blocking it. Streamers, youtubers influences etc etc are not our friends, they do not care about their viewers they're in it forn the money they need to smile and wave and act personal in order to pay their rent it's their job.

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:30

I don't gift anymore where all in once live we chat on calls etc but im to far away for the group meet up apprently but i wasn't even asked just straight out to far

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LittleLegoTree · 21/01/2025 06:31

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:25

We are all friends etc that's what made 4me feel bit left out as there all the same as me just viewers

He’s making you feel left out so you think ‘maybe if I send more money he’ll invite me’. It is a scam.

SheWasPureSound · 21/01/2025 06:31

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:30

I don't gift anymore where all in once live we chat on calls etc but im to far away for the group meet up apprently but i wasn't even asked just straight out to far

Are you reading any of the replies? What have you taken on board since starting this thread, OP?

GB81 · 21/01/2025 06:31

Do you work?

IDoLikeToBeByTheSea · 21/01/2025 06:31

To be blunt, he’s probably concerned about his safety. You are coming across as obsessive. Yes, he may interact with you in his streams or on the phone but obviously doesn’t feel safe enough to have you turning up in person.

SheWasPureSound · 21/01/2025 06:32

IDoLikeToBeByTheSea · 21/01/2025 06:31

To be blunt, he’s probably concerned about his safety. You are coming across as obsessive. Yes, he may interact with you in his streams or on the phone but obviously doesn’t feel safe enough to have you turning up in person.

Completely agree.

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:32

I have been chatting to my sons dad lately yes in terms of that side of things this is more i like them friendship I've made with ppl in the stream and there all looking forward to this group meet

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:32

If it was About money he'd not of invited tje ones that don't gift

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Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:34

I don't come across like this to him im actually prob the few that acts normal towards him

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LittleLegoTree · 21/01/2025 06:34

Flowercandy · 21/01/2025 06:32

If it was About money he'd not of invited tje ones that don't gift

This is how he works. Give a little bit of attention, just like he did with you, so that lonely people will give money. You need to realise this. People you only know on line are not friends, however flattering it feels. This man wants only money from you.

parietal · 21/01/2025 06:35

What opportunities do you have to make friends in real life? Do you work? Have any hobbies? Go to any social groups? Any volunteering? Spend your time on those and not online people who don't respect you.

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