I agree that some of the posts here have been too harsh. I think, in their frustration, some people have forgotten that you are a victim of domestic abuse and rape, and there is a tone of victim blaming from a few posters.
I also understand that it is extremely difficult and uncomfortable to face certain things which may be true. While it's uncomfortable, it's worth examining why these things are so difficult to read.
If I'm honest, my main concern throughout this thread has been your daughter rather than you. This is because I'm unfortunately well aware how children learn from the relationships their parents model to them. The patterns and behaviours we observe as children as our parents interact and react to other adults shapes our view of relationships. Children who grow up with parents who are in abusive relationships do suffer later in life, as their view of a normal, healthy relationship is skewed. Unfortunately, there isn't a way you can protect your child from this while you are still in an abusive relationship. However much you think you are protecting her, she is learning from your behaviour, and when she grows up her lack of healthy boundaries will mean she is at risk of ending up in the same situation you are.
The posters here, while sometimes too harsh, are appalled because you are in a terrible situation. This man, who is known to be abusive, has lied to you, manipulated you, and is now raping and sexually assaulting you.
Try to look at his actions, and not his words.
I'm sorry that reading this has been difficult. I wish you the best, and I hope this cycle doesn't continue.