To want to f&£k this man?!

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So I know it's a marriage problem. My DH is into kinky shit I just don't want in my life anymore. He's not pressuring me into anything cos well the kink is he likes to be dominated and then he also likes other stuff I don't want to go into it. The bottom line is I'm 43 and not had sex since August.

My friend's DH is being a bit flirty with me and the other day he came to pick something up from our house, DH was here they were chatting and then for a reason I won't say on here he asked for my number (to share a contact) and he asked for my number and put his head down like he knew he was crossing a line. I don't flirt with him. I actually act very loved up in front of him to my DH. But deep down I fancy the pants off this guy. He's married of course I'm married and it's dangerous territory I'm not going to enter. But I know I can sense he wants me too. I'm just putting this here to stop myself being a stupid idiot.

You need to fix the issue in your marriage (or end it)

Shagging this man will not help fix things. Though it may end your marriage but in a very destructive way.

You're reading a lot into this I think? Unless he's messaged you in a suggestive way since getting your number? Sounds like you and DH need some counselling though maybe, if you actually love him and want it to work.

I don't know how to fix it cos we've been together 20 years. DH is a good man, like he's an involved parents works hard. He's amazing in all ways except the bedroom it's just I've had lots of therapy and I don't think I've put myself first and now I feel so desperate. It makes me feel ill I can think this.

Lots of other incidents - he always collects his DS from ours even when his wife could come, he always always comes in to have chat.

He messages me on FB quite often about things I post.

😂🤣 I don't know how you expect this thread to go, exactly.

Yeah, don’t do that.

Unless you want to put a bomb under your life, steer well clear. Either work on your marriage or leave, but don’t have an affair, especially with a married man.

@Circumferences I don't know either I feel like an idiot posting it and bloody name changing for it. Of course I know no one is going to say go fuck this guy.

They expect and are seeking exactly the reaction they’ll get.

Do you have a question?

That would be a huge betrayal to your DH, friend, and the kids.

It's okay to fancy someone, but don't take it beyond that, limit contact, and either try and sort your marriage out or end it.

Also, what a sleezebag flirting with you when you're his wife's friend. It's giving me the ick.

Re your husbands kinks, should we assume you don't share them at all? Do you need pointing to the transwidows threads?

@Mydogisamassivetwat and it would be goddam nuclear cos our kids are good friends and at the same school.

This guy makes me so bloody horny - I can see he often just wants to be near me let's say in other social situations I can see he seeks me out to speak to me. I honestly act so loved up to my DH I really try not to give off any vibes at all.

I think he is just a flirty charmer and your dry spell is making you read too much into things i mean... put his head down?!
And i send DH in to collect kids and deal with other parents because i'm anti social and he doesn't mind.

I’m sorry this is your friend’s husband? Jesus you are a shit friend

But hey, you haven’t had a shag since August so I’m sure she will understand 😒

My friend's DH

My friend's DH

Is she a friend? Because flirting and fucking her husband will seriously fk that up.

Come on, you're better than this.

You sound very delusional.

You are almost the same age as me. I’m a year older than you, also married with kids. So I’ll put it bluntly. Grow up.

Seriously.

@Whatifitallgoesright what are the transwidow threads his kinks in the past have been:

Lots of butt (strap on) - I had to get stop this I couldn't cope

• fantasy of cuckcolding
• erm just being dominated and humiliated by me basically
• golden showers

This isn't a joke btw this is real. Generally though it's vanilla domination so me just saying he's my slave and telling him what to do to me.

I'd say we've never made love as such. I can't be vulnerable, I don't feel desired.

If you're gonna have an affair could you not go a bit further than the husband of your FRIEND dad of your child's BEST FRIEND?! There is no shortage of cock last time i looked..ps the butterflies dont always translate in the bedroom.

You’re emotionally lonely. This is not the answer.

Fix your marriage or end it.

If not strong enough to do this and content to face the terrible consequences then at least find yourself a random one-night stand, use a fake name and don’t exchange numbers. A married man is not the answer, least of all one so closely connected to you and your whole family! If you want to ignore your husband’s feelings and his wife’s life, can you at least imagine what this would do to all the children as it sounds like they are all friends if his son is at yours regularly.

Snap out of it.

@Nodlikeyouwerelistening I know I am. DH is so black and white in life, he's not emotional really. He's also always stressed with his job.

I feel lonely in a lot of ways but try to fill my life with friends and activities - of course work, kids and job keeps me busy too!

Cant you work some agreement with your husband about opening up the relationshio then you could go and find a suitable fwb?

If you want to end your marriage OP then go for it but try not to ruin someone else's. I fully appreciate it takes two but just don't go down that road. It's never worth it. He's just a man. What do you really think is going to happen even if you sleep with this man? A happy ending?

I actually said this to my DH the other day. He said No and I asked again and he said No.

I'm not even sure I could go with someone else. This is all just ridiculous fantasy in my head.

@Eldermillenialyogi I know I know. I'm being an idiot.