He does not see you as having any power in your relationship, so you simply can't raise it with him in a way he will hear. You would need to show him you have power too.
The only thing I can think of for dealing with him is, whenever he starts treating you rudely, shouting at you, talking down to you, etc. to say "I'm not prepared to be spoken to like this." and leave the room. If he follows you, leave the house. Go and stay elsewhere. Text him with something along the lines of "Let me know when you've remembered I'm the woman you're supposed to love and you're prepared to talk to me as a partner, not some underling in a Dickens novel."
The problem with this approach is that he is abusive, so if you aren't going to let him shout at you he probably won't see it as an indication that, actually, he can't just talk to you like that and you take it. Instead, he may up his abuse and turn physical instead, block you from leaving, remove you access to a phone, etc. push you, drag you to whatever it is you're supposed to have done when you walk away to "show" you what he says you're ignoring, hit you, choke you, etc. The lesser stuff at first and more over time. But that may start happening even if you don't stand up to him.