He’s cheating! Caught him out shocked!

[Stunnershaz]

Hi everyone this is my first post so please be easy with me. I’ve been married for 20 years to dh and have 5 beautiful kids. Our relationship like everyone else had its ups and downs yet we stuck together through it all. If u ask if im happy I would say im secure and now made this life which is fine. Last few years have been tough as seeing changes with dh for example not answering my calls, staying out late and just generally not giving me much attention. Our sex life doesn’t exsist which doesn’t bother him and to be fair I didn’t make a big deal due to him feeling embarrassed about his ed.
I had been having a feeling he might be cheating but I tried ignore this and try carry on with our lives. He’s very protective and feel like he would question everything to me but I’m very laid back and just let him be which could be my fault.
last week I don’t know what made me do this but I seen his Snapchat pop up a few times and he just kinda ignore it and turned phone over which I found weird. I went and made a fake account and added him to it( what was I thinking) I don’t even know why I did it but the feeling just kept coming to do this. Anyway after a few hours he added me and said hello. I said hello back and he asked me where I was from so I kinda just went with it and made up a character. He then asked me for a picture and he sent his picture straight away. I asked if he was seeing anyone and he said no he’s divorce with no kids!!!! Wtf!!! I was shaking and just logged out. He came home from work like normal and I just carried on like normal. I don’t know what do with this information? I can’t confront him as I’m terrified about breaking up my family yet I can’t go on like this knowing he is doing this crap. He’s sent a message today saying let’s meet up wtf! I’m such a mug! I don’t even have the balls to confront him as he will turn this on me

This morning he said he has the Christmas work do but he’s told them I won’t be able attend as I’m away that day. I asked why he said that he started laughing saying you in a dress ppl will laugh as it’s black tie. I was like that’s so hurtful and he goes well I love you that’s why I tell you the truth and walked off get his golf stuff. Honestly how nasty. I’m only a size 12 too. He only said that as I was having some toast trying to stop me eating

You might not need the code. Modern household safes usually come with a small, unasuming key that you can use to override the code. The keyhole on ours is hidden near the number pad, behind a bit that pops off.

Il have a check but its in his office and he knows the minute anyone has come in there he’s very organised and if anything moves out of place he will question it

So guys what are you all up to today? Get my mind off things. I’m sitting here with a pile of ironing to do and I’ve got to sweep the back garden as we have leaves coming over from next door which is a nightmare. x

Got pick up my my younger two from their nan in evening and the other 3 are still in bed lucky sods x

Not sure what your financial situation is but just wanted to give you the heads up that UC won’t pay housing element to rent from your Mum, I hope that doesn’t affect things for you.

Good luck, I hope you do actually leave x

Great that you are moving forward in this way. I urge you to be very, very careful now. I don’t want to put you off taking these steps but you need to be well informed about the actions of this type of abuser when a wife leaves. If you think he is suspicious you must get out immediately. Stay safe! x

I’ve been fooling the world for years so wants another 2 months ehy? I’m off to get his lasagne stuff for tonight as he wasn’t impressed I didn’t make it yday for him. The ingredients are sitting bottom of my wheelie bin lol how petty was I

By the way il be getting it from the shops not the wheelie bin x

100%.

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Get yours and the kids from the shops. Make him a wheelie bin special 😉

BBC radio 4 Money Box has details of divorce, episode on 14 December . It would be good for you to listen to the podcast, which is free,

I rang up this morning hun, they open till 12

My mum gave me the number

No told him I will meet her in town on Monday so she don’t need come to the house instead I’m off to solicitors

I’m sorry you feel like this but it’s my life unfortunately

You can’t be serious about making the lasagne.

@Stunnershaz You are being very brave! Please be careful and plan everything well. The divorce will not be easy and he will use everything in his power to drain you emotionally and financially. He might even get physically abusive, since he is clearly capable.
You will get through this, but watch your back. Your new life will be immensely better than this one but he wont make it easy for you or the children.
Plan, plan , plan. Cover your back and file for a restraining order on him based on past abuse. Because he will go mental, and you need protection.

I’m sorry you feel like that x

Thank you x

guys im off now need go pick up a few things. Hope you all have a wonderful day x

That is disgusting! How can someone say they love you in the same sentence as trying to make you feel bad about yourself?! I hope you get sorted out and away from him but also get everytjing you deserve from the relationship (materially): Don't let him get away with everything @Stunnershaz