Who is likely the father ?

[Coolbabygirl2]

Hi everyone

This is a no judgement zone and I’d just like everyone’s thoughts as I am unsure and just extremely anxious and it’s causing me stress.

On January 13th 2024 I had a period that lasted until the 16th January.

On my period tracker app, it states that my ovulation date was 24th but changed to 25th (or the other way around). My fertile days were 21st Jan until the 27th Jan 2024. During this time I did an ovulation test on the 24th and 25th Jan but I still ended up having unprotected sex and ended up pregnant.

Mr A - we had unprotected intercourse and he ejaculated inside me on the 1st of Jan, 9th of Jan, 17th of Jan and 23rd of Jan at around 9/10pm.

Mr B - we had unprotected sex on the 19th of Jan and 29th of Jan but he didn’t ejacutlate inside me on the 19th of Jan.

My baby was born on 12 October 2024 due to being induced early. My EDD was 19th Jan due to period calculations and my final EDD from my first scan was the 16th of oct.

I do see a lot of similarities in the baby to Mr A and so do my friends and family.

Mr B, not at all, but I’d still just like to have a peace of mind.

me and Mr A were a thing but used to mess up so we’d make up and break up a lot in a small space of time. However, then he suddenly switched on me whereas mr B it was just a fling here and there whom I only slept with twice.

I know I am stupid for this, I feel it, but I just want to know everyone’s thoughts.

thank you

How old are you OP? Having read up on ovulation tests as contraception you need to be abstaining for about 10 days. Nothing wrong with admitting you wanted a baby. To be fair you seem to have put more effort into trying to concieve than we did. Impressive.

If you know the potential fathers’ blood type and baby’s blood type you might be able to rule one of the men out.

Tertiary syphilis used to be called General Paralysis of the Insane (GPI) and is a severe neuropsychiatric disorder that manifests itself 10 - 30 years after the original infection. I'd hate to see it come back due to antibiotic resistance, and some people don't realise they have syphilis in the first instance. Scary stuff.

Sounds like Bridget Jones' Baby - hope it's Mr Darcey.

Mr A - he’s the only one you had sex with during your fertile window. I’m assuming you mean you had a negative ovulation test on 24 and 25. If so you may have ovulated the next day - sperm can survive inside you for up to 5 days but typically you’re likely to get pregnant if you ovulate within 3 days. You probably got pregnant from the 23 Jan.

Actually that's a bit rude. We all make mistakes but giving you advice to use condoms is very wise

Whoa ease back there. She’s giving you sound advise and not judging.

Sperm can survive for a week inside you so it could be either man. Speculation is stupid and in no way going to tell you the father. Either man could easily be and a DNA test is the only answer.

It appears that neither of these lads are particularly interested in you or your baby.

The fact you are willingly having unprotected sex with them means they will automatically have an opinion of you and sadly they won't be thinking of you as wifey material. You have purposely put yourself in a position which leaves you as a single parent and your child without their biological father in their lives but you only have yourself to blame. No one avoiding pregnancy would actively have unprotected sex near their ovulation dates, that's brain-dead crazy.

That's because they are not a form of contraception

Poor baby :(

Please get a dna test while your baby is still a baby. I don't know who the father of my 7 year old is and it's not fair on her it's caused a lot of issues and upset for her

OP why did you come on here?

Anyone with half a brain will tell you there is no way whatsoever that anyone can tell you who the father is of your baby. Sperm can survive a week inside of you. It could be either guy. Anyone who says otherwise is speculating and has no scientific evidence.

People have been concerned for you (and the baby cause sti”s affect them too!) and you have been rude and short.

You don’t want people to comment on your choices but you have asked in a very public forum for speculatory chat.

You want people to have no judgement but you have continually been rude and snappy with anyone who doesn’t give you the exact response you are looking for.

As everyone has said get a test. Didn’t take a whole post to get to that.

No judgement just surprise really, I've never had unprotected sex in my life because I don't want kids and yet there are actually women out there doing that with two men, on a consistent basis.

Like, I'm not an anxious person but I couldn't ever fathom being that chilled. Like, how do you go through life giving that little of a fuck? It's kinda commendable in some ways. Bonkers of course but, I'd imagine it makes for an interesting life.

Does she go to a school that somehow blocks the internet wherever the teachers and pupils go during term time or lock their devices in vaults that are only unlocked in the holidays?

Like, I'm not an anxious person but I couldn't ever fathom being that chilled. Like, how do you go through life giving that little of a fuck? It's kinda commendable in some ways. Bonkers of course but, I'd imagine it makes for an interesting life.
Wow is that really your take on this? Commendable?! 😳🤯😶 @Pinkbonbon
Why is any of the ops behaviour commendable?

I wonder if you could do an ancestry test and find out by proxy? 🤔

I'm not talking about her actions so don't start.

I mean, her ability to not be a nervous wreck at just one unprotected innocent. Let alone several. I'd be a mess.

Woman must be a zen master.

Girl / Babe / Hun... FFS 🙄

I thought that … I wonder how old the OP is ?

Mr A. I ovulated early both days I fell pregnant and it would have been day 9 of my period.

Seeing as Mr B didn’t finish inside of you until day 16 of period while Mr A did on day 10, plus that your dc looks like Mr A, he’s most likely the dad. Of course the only way to know for sure is if you do a dna test.

@Pinkbonbon fair play, my misinterpretation of your comment.
she's clearly manipulated a situation Mr A & Mr B probably know nothing of each other . Band aid baby attempt , neither are knocking her door down to come see her or the baby.

I understand what you mean@Pinkbonbon. I don’t understand what ‘being slick’ about something means? I assume it means giving your honest opinion about a bit of a shit show.

This.

You can’t just ‘guess’ who the father is by asking random people on a forum - you need to do a DNA paternity test 🙄

The child deserves to know who their father is and he has a right to a relationship with them - so take responsibility and go get a definitive answer. You sound a bit unhinged OP, I hope you can make better choices going forward.

From what you've told us, it sounds like A is most likely but it really is impossible to say without a proper test. You should definitely get that test, partly to claim the child maintenance your baby is entitled to have from their father and partly so you know for medical history purposes.

I didn't use the term 'being slick'. Musta been someone else.

Ahh...it would make sense if she was trying to get pregnant right enough. Yikes.