Who is likely the father ?

[Coolbabygirl2]

Hi everyone

This is a no judgement zone and I’d just like everyone’s thoughts as I am unsure and just extremely anxious and it’s causing me stress.

On January 13th 2024 I had a period that lasted until the 16th January.

On my period tracker app, it states that my ovulation date was 24th but changed to 25th (or the other way around). My fertile days were 21st Jan until the 27th Jan 2024. During this time I did an ovulation test on the 24th and 25th Jan but I still ended up having unprotected sex and ended up pregnant.

Mr A - we had unprotected intercourse and he ejaculated inside me on the 1st of Jan, 9th of Jan, 17th of Jan and 23rd of Jan at around 9/10pm.

Mr B - we had unprotected sex on the 19th of Jan and 29th of Jan but he didn’t ejacutlate inside me on the 19th of Jan.

My baby was born on 12 October 2024 due to being induced early. My EDD was 19th Jan due to period calculations and my final EDD from my first scan was the 16th of oct.

I do see a lot of similarities in the baby to Mr A and so do my friends and family.

Mr B, not at all, but I’d still just like to have a peace of mind.

me and Mr A were a thing but used to mess up so we’d make up and break up a lot in a small space of time. However, then he suddenly switched on me whereas mr B it was just a fling here and there whom I only slept with twice.

I know I am stupid for this, I feel it, but I just want to know everyone’s thoughts.

thank you

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Also, why didn't you get the MAP? You knew you were likely to get pregnant.

They didn't work as a form of contraception

Do you have any other surprise children? If so how did you work out who their father is?

I did on the 19th but it clearly failed

And neither of them have asked if they are the father? Odd. Either they can’t count or they assume you have no idea either.

No because you had unprotected sex when it was positive

Just adding this bit of info

Eh. Tracking ovulation and having unprotected sex during it has never been a form of contraception. It's the exact opposite.

To be fair there were quite a few careless moments weren’t there? It’s not as though you got unexpectedly jiggy behind the bike shed and neither of you had a condom…..

Thanks !!!!!

I'm not sure I am the dumb one, I don't had a random baby and don't know who it's father is......

Why the 19th? You peed on the stick on the 24th which was the morning after you had sex. That is when you should have taken it surely.

Okay darling. You done?

Told you I've got I have plenty of time so I'm staying ...

OK, sounds like OP was trying to get pregnant but "forgot" to inform the lads of this intention.

I'm raising a son. It's the fact that women like OP exist that will ensure my son hears all the time about taking his own precautions and to never-ever entrust contraception to a random shag he'd rather not be bound for life to.
He's only 11 and we already had this conversation with him as a top-up to sex-ed at school.

How could they work as a form of contraception if you went on to have unprotected sex during your fertile period?

Ewww how grim.

i wouldn’t be worried about seeing Mr A / B or whoever at the upcoming event I’d be focusing on your new baby, the DNA testing and educating yourself enough to ensure you don’t make this mistake again. You’re already saying you won’t be using ovulation tracking as contraception anymore.

Respectfully, I think you need to focus on the shit show you’ve created and not the next time you’re going to be having sex.

Right, as expected so many people have their opinions about me sleeping with more than one person, STI's (which I'm aware of), desperate to find out the father and so on.

I don't think anyone is that fussed about any of those things actually. They are more alarmed at how casually you have approached bringing a child into the world, picking its father with less care and thought than you probably put into choosing its pram.

It sounds like it's Mr A. You had more sex, with more VE, and you say the kid resembles him.
But I guess you'd need a DNA test to be sure. In the absence of that I'd go with A.

I'm guessing Mr B based on dates, but it's a guess.
Get some decent contraception.

"I am aware that there are STD's and STI's floating about in the world. I get tested regularly and I am very serious about these sort of things"

There was no judgement in the advice to use condoms only good advice and whilst it's great you are checked regularly you must surely know that A) prevention is better than cure with any disease B) there are some STI's/STD's that once caught can never be cured and the effects will be with you for life and C) there are some that can be passed onto a foetus. So, basic truth - check ups good, prevention so much better.

firstly congratulations on your baby.

when you say the tracker showed ovulation on 24th or 25th do you mean when you uploaded your ovulation strip? or was it by an estimate looking at your period dates? if it was by uploading a photo of the strip then its very likely to be Mr A's baby x

You seem incredibly young. As pp have said you chose to have unprotected sex during your most fertile period. Regardless of STI etc it reads like you were trying to have a baby. DNA test is the only way to know for sure. My guess would be Mr A.
Look into other types of contraception that may suit you better.