Who is likely the father ?

[Coolbabygirl2]

Hi everyone

This is a no judgement zone and I’d just like everyone’s thoughts as I am unsure and just extremely anxious and it’s causing me stress.

On January 13th 2024 I had a period that lasted until the 16th January.

On my period tracker app, it states that my ovulation date was 24th but changed to 25th (or the other way around). My fertile days were 21st Jan until the 27th Jan 2024. During this time I did an ovulation test on the 24th and 25th Jan but I still ended up having unprotected sex and ended up pregnant.

Mr A - we had unprotected intercourse and he ejaculated inside me on the 1st of Jan, 9th of Jan, 17th of Jan and 23rd of Jan at around 9/10pm.

Mr B - we had unprotected sex on the 19th of Jan and 29th of Jan but he didn’t ejacutlate inside me on the 19th of Jan.

My baby was born on 12 October 2024 due to being induced early. My EDD was 19th Jan due to period calculations and my final EDD from my first scan was the 16th of oct.

I do see a lot of similarities in the baby to Mr A and so do my friends and family.

Mr B, not at all, but I’d still just like to have a peace of mind.

me and Mr A were a thing but used to mess up so we’d make up and break up a lot in a small space of time. However, then he suddenly switched on me whereas mr B it was just a fling here and there whom I only slept with twice.

I know I am stupid for this, I feel it, but I just want to know everyone’s thoughts.

thank you

Blimey, after reading all your replies OP you clearly need to take your dilemma over to netmums.

You'll likely find the chavvy echo chamber sympathetic responses you're after there, hun x

It's probably A but you know what you've need to do to be sure x

Good idea. She can fire up her time machine and just go back in time and do that.

Why did you record when you fucked and if they nutted in you or not?

Do you have a fuck diary?

Ovulation is normally two weeks after start of period. So would have been around 26/27th. Unprotected sex on the 29th is the most likely candidate.

To be honest I don't think many are judging you for sleeping with multiple men, it happens, you were single, fine.

People are judging you on your snarky and rude attitude to people literally just responding to your OP though. You're coming off horribly not because of your sexual choices but because of the way you're speaking to people. You're a mum now, knock it off.

She’s telling her for the future as shagging around is likely in her future, and she doesn’t need a second incident of guessing who the daddy is

A fuck diary 🤣

Moments

Poor kid

Only way is a DNA test. I get you're saying you'll do one "in your own time" but really that just isn't good enough. Babies are only small for a very short period, and it's already 2 months old. It should have been done either prenatally or upon birth. You're depriving the baby and their dad of the ability to bond because it's still unknown who it is. Your babies birth certificate is blank on who the dad is.

People have sex. People have sex with more than one person. Whatever, your body your choice. But the fact you're taking so long to sort this out is what I would pass judgement for. You've chosen to bring this baby into the world and making sure you know the identity of their dad for certain, and providing them the option to have that bond (if safe to do so) is the minimum that baby deserves. You need to put that first.

It’s not really about being perfect though is it? If you’re going to sleep with two different men, multiple days apart, the least that can be done is using a condom

this is a no judgement zone!

This is mumsnet😂

Old enough to know that contraception is free 😉. You are coming across like a silly, belligerent little girl and it’s doing you zero favours.

I want one. Wouldn't need many pages ,unfortunately!

Who is on the birth certificate out of interest? Did you leave it blank?

It is stupid.
I know OP is here is for support - but that doesn’t mean you don’t tell the truth.

Having unprotected sex with 2 men within a week is a danger to health.

OP a DNA test is the only thing that will put your mind at rest.

Re the 19th…

I have also explained the purpose of using the ovulation tests. That obviously didn't work and I said I will not be using them again!

I’d say that worked pretty well.

No one is judging you for sleeping with 2 men. Most are judging you for your rude responses and for testing positive for ovulation but having repeated unprotected sex anyway.

It’s a bit like relying on condoms but whipping the condom off in the heat of the moment and then blaming the condom for not doing it’s job!

Busted

OP , you have had lots of what you probably see as criticism.Some a bit harsh. Most people really want to help and are concerned .Particularly as there is a tiny baby involved. Are you coping ok( new baby lots going on as you say) do you have any support if you need it?
I hope you get it sorted as the father needs to know . For legal/ financial reasons but also for health reasons in future. Myself and my siblings have just learnt our true paternity which has massive health implications for our futures.
Meanwhile ,many congratulations on your new baby .

She has a point. You cannot rely on ovulation dates on an app. Bodies don't work like computers. Use a condom.

Plus, he seems quite fertile tbf

The dates aren’t making sense to me. If your last period ended on the 16th then your period tracker should be estimating your ovulation approx 2 weeks later around the 30th no? Seems early to ovulate on the 24th? But then if you had positive opk’s, do you have short cycles generally op?

You sound like a classic stroppy teenager...💅🏻🥇