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Who is likely the father ?

253 replies

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 02:32

Hi everyone

This is a no judgement zone and I’d just like everyone’s thoughts as I am unsure and just extremely anxious and it’s causing me stress.

On January 13th 2024 I had a period that lasted until the 16th January.

On my period tracker app, it states that my ovulation date was 24th but changed to 25th (or the other way around). My fertile days were 21st Jan until the 27th Jan 2024. During this time I did an ovulation test on the 24th and 25th Jan but I still ended up having unprotected sex and ended up pregnant.

Mr A - we had unprotected intercourse and he ejaculated inside me on the 1st of Jan, 9th of Jan, 17th of Jan and 23rd of Jan at around 9/10pm.

Mr B - we had unprotected sex on the 19th of Jan and 29th of Jan but he didn’t ejacutlate inside me on the 19th of Jan.

My baby was born on 12 October 2024 due to being induced early. My EDD was 19th Jan due to period calculations and my final EDD from my first scan was the 16th of oct.

I do see a lot of similarities in the baby to Mr A and so do my friends and family.

Mr B, not at all, but I’d still just like to have a peace of mind.

me and Mr A were a thing but used to mess up so we’d make up and break up a lot in a small space of time. However, then he suddenly switched on me whereas mr B it was just a fling here and there whom I only slept with twice.

I know I am stupid for this, I feel it, but I just want to know everyone’s thoughts.

thank you

OP posts:
Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:35

Wheelyfast · 10/12/2024 16:33

I'm embarrassed for you, your attitude is shocking

You don't have to be here like I said you're just doing the most. Good day.

OP posts:
Wheelyfast · 10/12/2024 16:36

I've got lots of time "babe" so I'll stay and watch ......

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 10/12/2024 16:36

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:29

.. you done?

You've already replied to this comment...three minutes before this reply...

TwigletsAndRadishes · 10/12/2024 16:36

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 13:49

Okay, I know what my child deserves you don't know me.

Oh I think we are getting a fairly clear picture. My guess is that it isn't going to matter which one of these men is the father because there will be precious little child support, practical support or meaningful father-child relationship forthcoming from either of them.

Billydavey · 10/12/2024 16:37

This thread is hilarious

a huge attitude for someone who has shared what you’ve shared on here op!

WetBandits · 10/12/2024 16:38

Wow, you’re really quite rude 😂😂

How did you convince one man to shag you, let alone two? 😂

JazzyJelly · 10/12/2024 16:40

I thought they'd cancelled Jeremy Kyle?

Redrosesposies · 10/12/2024 16:40

😱😱😱😱
Poor child

Jazzjazzjazz · 10/12/2024 16:40

I just don’t get why you weren’t worried about stds, as those guys will likely be shagging multiple people also, judging by the fact they are ok with it

Jazzjazzjazz · 10/12/2024 16:41

JazzyJelly · 10/12/2024 16:40

I thought they'd cancelled Jeremy Kyle?

It’s a Mumsnet special

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:41

Right, as expected so many people have their opinions about me sleeping with more than one person, STI's (which I'm aware of), desperate to find out the father and so on.

I have explained that I will be doing a DNA test, the slight hesitation comes from some serious stuff that has occurred which does make me slightly fear for my safety but I would still like to know the father.

I have also explained the purpose of using the ovulation tests. That obviously didn't work and I said I will not be using them again! So please do not be slick like some of you have been.

Yes a DNA will rule it out best but I wanted to see what people on here thought but I seem to be getting slandered for my so called "attitude". It is a free country you can say or do what you please but if you are going to be rude or say silly things like I was trying to get pregnant, what kind of response did you expect. Thank you to those who are showing genuine concern and just answering the question as asked.

None of us are perfect.

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adviceneeded1990 · 10/12/2024 16:41

Did you meet these boys at school or at the local under 18s disco? 🙈 you have got to be either a teenager or a troll based on the replies so far!

Nanny0gg · 10/12/2024 16:43

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 03:07

Ok Mrs perfect!!

Why be snarky?

Is she wrong?

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:44

adviceneeded1990 · 10/12/2024 16:41

Did you meet these boys at school or at the local under 18s disco? 🙈 you have got to be either a teenager or a troll based on the replies so far!

Disco??? Are you 60? Lol

OP posts:
SoupDragon · 10/12/2024 16:44

STI's (which I'm aware of)

Clearly not. Being regularly tested isn't enough. Especially for things like HIV.

It isn't judgement to point this out.

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:44

SoupDragon · 10/12/2024 16:44

STI's (which I'm aware of)

Clearly not. Being regularly tested isn't enough. Especially for things like HIV.

It isn't judgement to point this out.

Ok xx

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AyeYCan · 10/12/2024 16:46

I'm confused - you said you used the ovulation strips/tracker as a contraceptive - why did you then have unprotected sex during your fertile window if you were using it as a contraceptive?! (I'm ignoring the fact that its fairly well known to not be effective as a contraceptive..)

Bumblebeestiltskin · 10/12/2024 16:46

adviceneeded1990 · 10/12/2024 16:41

Did you meet these boys at school or at the local under 18s disco? 🙈 you have got to be either a teenager or a troll based on the replies so far!

Absolutely this!

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:46

AyeYCan · 10/12/2024 16:46

I'm confused - you said you used the ovulation strips/tracker as a contraceptive - why did you then have unprotected sex during your fertile window if you were using it as a contraceptive?! (I'm ignoring the fact that its fairly well known to not be effective as a contraceptive..)

Because in all honesty I was being careless in the moment.

OP posts:
Wheelyfast · 10/12/2024 16:47

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:46

Because in all honesty I was being careless in the moment.

How's that working for you?

teatoast8 · 10/12/2024 16:47

AyeYCan · 10/12/2024 16:46

I'm confused - you said you used the ovulation strips/tracker as a contraceptive - why did you then have unprotected sex during your fertile window if you were using it as a contraceptive?! (I'm ignoring the fact that its fairly well known to not be effective as a contraceptive..)

Yeah, you shouldn't have had unprotective sex if you were using the ovulation tests to not get pregnant. Makes total sense

HollyKnight · 10/12/2024 16:48

But the ovulation tests did work? You said they were positive.

Nanny0gg · 10/12/2024 16:48

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:15

You didn't have to comment babe. Dont concern yourself where you're not needed.

You're on a public forum

People comment as they see fit

UpUpUpU · 10/12/2024 16:49
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😂

Nanny0gg · 10/12/2024 16:49

Coolbabygirl2 · 10/12/2024 16:44

Disco??? Are you 60? Lol

What if she is?